Monday, 12 March 2018

90 Minute Window

I saw Affable despot Jason this morning as I was walking through the village, he yelled from his car window "How's your kidney?"
I should have yelled back "My Kidney is fine...its my bladder that's buggered!"
but his sympathy was near enough.
It was nice to be asked.
My "affliction" remains  and is becoming somewhat tiresome. The antibiotics for sure are kicking in, but (so much as it irritates me) Ursula was right, Urine infections in men can be so much more troublesome than those in women......(now let that comment put the cat  amongst the pigeons!)
I am still plagued with frequency, which means that I have to have to be within spitting distance of a loo every hour and a half or so.
To some this would be a minor irritation.
but loos can be few and far between in rural North Wales.

stuck in a traffic jam outside the village today ( with my legs firmly crossed)

I am telling you all this as part as a bit local colour, (oh and to elicit some small scale sympathy from sweet natured blog readers)  but the whole sad thing has been a sobering experience as so many people have to suffer so much greater and life affecting ills than mine and do so without comment, fanfare or complaint.
I am complaining as I am usually fit and well.....
I am complaining as I have been up five times overnight
and I am complaining as I feel a bit sorry for myself.
and there I should shut the fuck up
I have a dear friend who is undergoing the nauseating treatment for cancer. I have another who has a chronic condition which means 24/7 fatigue.
I also suspect that given the demographic of my followers a few hundred people out there are presently fighting their own battles against ailments and conditions which cause them pain, upset and sadness, and do so behind closed doors, unknown to the sympathy of the many.
To them I say
"I'm sorry"




116 comments:

  1. I had root canal go wrong in the last two weeks and have never felt so sorry for myself. Then a colleague came in for a visit who is on her fifth round of chemo. That put me to rights. That said, hope you feel better soon!

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    1. Ah another who knows what I feel x

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  2. Everyone is allowed to feel sorry for themselves - why the hell not? It's all that stiff upper lip baloney that gets people into trouble. And it's not like you are a complainer, because you are not. Go ahead a whinge. I hope you feel better soon.

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  3. I think you are perfectly entitled to have a moan and a complain if you want to. It doesn't negate anyone else's issues and might help you. And bladder infections are horrible anyway!

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    1. Ok , but I'm sick of moaning x

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    2. I remember when my mom had something that just wouldn't go away, she told me one day ... I am just sick and tired of being Sick and Tired..

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  4. It's totally Murphy's law to get stuck in traffic when you're busting to go to the loo! This gives you a perfect excuse to get a sheep dog!

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    1. The farmers in the picture strangely didn't have one either, just one man running in front with a gag of corn

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  5. No matter how hard someone else has it, you still need a little sympathy. An infection is painful and (in your case) urgent. (I would suggest always having an emergency mason jar with lid, especially in the car.) Hope you're feeling better soon.

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  6. poor baby! it's gonna be all better soon!

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  7. We ... each and every one of us ... have the same right .. to whine and complain and be babies if we want to be when we don't feel good.
    And having that right, means we should always be sympathetic to someone else with the same right .
    What a crappy world it would be if we had to actually suffer in silence.
    And you give all the mama's in your readership the opportunity to send you home recipes of Get Well medicines :)
    The cats and I send good wishes .. Merlin says naps.. lots of naps.

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    1. oh .. my husband swore by a bit mug of hot tea with a good dose of Brandy in it ..

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    2. I've got cranberry juice!

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  8. Local color with an edge!

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  9. I had an awful urinary infection last year on a cycling holiday in the Loire Valley. Mind you the blooming idea was mine to celebrate a special birthday, I didn’t factor in we hadn’t been on bikes for thirty odd years, my saddle lay in wait for me to settle my bits on it and cycle carefree into the sunset. Two days in, it decided ‘Now is the time!’ I was in bloody agony, weeing blood the colour of a good vintage red. John, you have my sympathy.

    LX

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    1. Darling too much information xxxxxxx

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  10. Hope you're feeling better soon John!

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    1. I've bought a load of cranberry juice for tonight's treat alongside The Walking Dead

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  11. There is nothing wrong with the odd plaintive plea for sympathy. You have mine.

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    1. Plea? I thought I was being magnanimous

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  12. John I have a fairly severe but managed chronic illness. If it were not currently being managed with IV meds it could be life threatening. Fine, I live with it. But I think the painful immediacy of a sudden illness is different and in its way---not ''worse''perhaps but worthy of note, care, sympathy. Illness is not a competitive sport, we all suffer in our own ways. Feel better soon!

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  13. I live with a painful condition which affects how I live my life, but, I am not ill, and I am grateful for that every day. An infection is an illness, can spread, and must be treated seriously. You have my sympathy.

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  14. You have to be within spitting distance of a loo? Do you mean saliva spitting, watermelon seed or cherry stone? There are different distances for each. Mind you if you spat from the top of The Empire State Building the spitting distance would be 1453 feet.

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    1. 1250 feet! The rest is radio antennae

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    2. Yeah - King Kong was on that!

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    3. He didn't pee off it

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  15. Anonymous4:33 pm

    Cranberry juice is good for the bladder as you must know with being a nurse, so you're doing the right thing. Hope you get it sorted out soon.

    Joan (Devon)

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    1. The Prof told me in a systematic review , " the advocacy of cranberry juice in the treatment of uti is negligible"

      I'm still drinking it

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    2. It’s twue I’m afraid , it was a small study done on the prevention of UTIs not treatment and the results were negligible...........I’d save your cash and drink water xxx

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    3. I hate it when the Prof is right...( all of the time)

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  16. Needs must when you feel the urge to pee. It is worthy of some sympathy I think.

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    1. No more accidents thank god

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  17. No need to apologise, we all need to moan occasionally and it's about how you're feeling, not whether it's life-threatening. Be kind to yourself, lots of drinks of course (no alcohol or coffee), keep warm and snuggle up with a warm dog. I'm glad to hear the update, was a bit worried when you didn't say much more after the A&E visit.

    I don't think it's a man/woman issue, anyone who has had cystitis will know what you're going through, and anyone who has never had it is bloody lucky! I hope the meds are working now.

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    1. I hope so too, they are taking their time

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    2. In thinking back to my 3 year period of repeated and fairly life stopping infections (one cannot do “life” from a warm tub) the extra calories and the nasty taste was not offset by any noticeable aid in frequency or pain.

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  18. I thankfully have no pain but the inconvenience of having to go every hour or hour & half too.Most times whilst out with my dogs I pretend I'm running after them to a bush"oh there you are"x

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  19. Sorry John - I have missed a couple of days due to the week end party I gave - so didn't know about it. Iam sure the antibiotics will kick in soon. As to men/women and the urinary problem - if you will pardon me saying - at least you don't have to take your knickers down every time!

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    1. 😆😆😆

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    2. Best comment of the day, Weave! 😁

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  20. Hope the antibiotics hurry up and that you can get some rest soon.

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    1. I've just had a two hour break between pees!

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  21. Anonymous5:04 pm

    John...really hope you start to feel better soon.
    - Lorraine

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  22. John, here's an article on New York Magazine's website that I came across right after reading your post. It's mainly about female UTIs, but interesting anyway.

    https://www.thecut.com/2018/03/the-weird-necessary-world-of-online-advice-for-uti-pain.html

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  23. As another commenter has said, our health issues are not negated by those of others. There is room for sympathy all around. And I'm thinking that acute and chronic illness are two different beasts. They are both bad in their own unique ways. But each can give us empathy toward the other.

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    1. I know just sorry for myself x

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  24. I hope you feel better soon John. x

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  25. Take it easy,take care, be careful and you will be better soon. In the mean time SHEEP! What a wonderful reason for a traffic jam.

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    1. I know you and your hubby would like it

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  26. Ursula5:30 pm

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    1. I have just read your comments about nick. I am therefore deleting your posts here

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    2. Thank you, John.

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    3. 👍🏼

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  27. Hang in, John and feel better soon.

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    1. I'm hanging I'm a hanging

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  28. I'm told that vodka and cranberry juice is a nice drink.. Probably better saved for when you are no longer taking antibiotics. Call it a preventative measure just in case.

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    1. It's probably good for you WITH a uti as long as you drink water withbit too...alcohol and vit c are diruretics, you literally piss the bugs away

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  29. I'm very sorry to hear that you have a UTI. I hope you start feeling better soon.
    I concur with the Prof about the cranberry juice. It 'may' help prevention but it is useless once an infection has got hold. UTI's can be very resistant to antibiotics, don't hesitate to ask for another if you feel the first one is not working.

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    1. Placebo help is help too!

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  30. And yet... I'm sorry you're not well. But I'm glad you'll be well again soon!

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    1. Better had be the profs away again and I am by myself

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  31. Hope the antibiotics are working, it's okay to feel sorry for yourself. Usual antibiotics didn't work on my daughter's UTI, she had a superbug and needed special drugs via a drip. She was very poorly. Her grandmother told her to stay away from mosquitos in the future.

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    1. Well that's cheered me up xx

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  32. Well, I've always said that someone else's cancer isn't going to cure my broken leg, but yes, perspective can be valuable.
    Still. When you are used to good health, being reminded of what it's like not to have it can be a sobering experience.
    I hope all is better soon.

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    1. I think it's that that gets you thinking...thank goodness for your health

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  33. John, my guarantee is on a daily bases I open your blog and you allow us a few beautiful, raw, open life paragraphs to read. You’ve been thrown a curve ball and it’s set you back. Your a giver and a nurturer. Nurturer’s need a little taking care of too! I hope someone brings you a meal or the Prof brings you tea and maybe walks the dogs? Hope your feeling better soon! Gabs

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  34. You should move to Japan. No need for a loo. Need to go, not matter where, you just go. A Family walking to or from church on a Sunday morning all stepped off the sidewalk and squatted in the melon field behind us. A driver stopped his truck in the middle of the road, jumped out to relieve himself along the fence. Zipped back up, ran back to truck and waved a thank you to the backed up traffic! That was just in one day of looking out the window!

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  35. You are entitled to your paddle in the pity pool. Particularly as you know that others are in deeper water.
    I hope you improve quickly, and am glad to read you are drinking cranberry juice.

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    1. By the carton, but it's hard to find here, most places sell the juice version

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  36. your suffering is as valid as any other's

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    1. Broken sleep gets you down kylie

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  37. You have my sympathy John, now when you feel the urge while in the car, pull over to the side, whip it out and let go. Ignore comments from the sheep and they'll lose interest.

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    1. I once had to have a dump in a sheep field and was surrounded by 100 hungry and curious sheep!

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  38. Morag8:53 pm

    This is the only blog where I'd actually read 76 comments concerning the author's UTI.

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    1. I write worse shit morag! Lol

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  39. Those of us mentioned and represented above want you to know, "It's OK and YOU get better fast."

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  40. Whinge on John - a urinary tract infection AND broken sleep is hell. With my last pregnancy I put on 23 kg (not through stuffing my face either) so you can imagine how often I had to go. In the end we just kept a bucket in the car - just a suggestion! Anna

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    1. I didn't think I was whinging

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    2. Well not that much

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    3. a bucket in the car! I love that!

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  41. Everyone is allowed a good moan now and again - and judging by past posts you don't do it often so I think you are entitled. Having suffered with UTI's in the past I truly do sympathize.
    It's the ones who never let up with their constant tales of woe that get me down - and you're a long way from that! Hope you feel better soon.

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    1. Agreed. Too much angst is not good for empathy

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  42. It’s all relative though, you are allowed to feel sorry for yourself. Hope it clears up soon. My mother in law used to boil up batches of pearl barley, she reckoned it cured everything!

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    1. I'm feeling better tonight polly but that is probably due to a good episode of The Walking Dead

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    2. That's good to hear John. I think I must check out this Walking Dead thing.

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  43. These not so great moments make us appreciate the other moments. ;)

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  44. First poor Winnie and her bird seed and now you and your very painful UTI. Both of you need to keep well hydrated. Every person's ailment whether great or small is important to them. Hope you feel better soon. (Don't you have any trees or hedges to piss behind in England, or is that illegal? Of course, that is the time someone would unexpectedly come along and "catch" you!)

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    1. George has a sore on his throat,
      Mary has another ear infection and William's skin irritation continues!

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  45. My step-son in law has just been diagnosed with Parkinson's disease if that's any consolation! I am sure it isn't, but hey ho.

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  46. My little brother used to say, "Wherever you may be, let your pee flow free!"
    Just sayin'...
    Get well soon!

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  47. Those of us who read your blog know and love your empathy for all creatures great and small. Please allow us to have the same empathy for you. We care and hope that this infection will subside and you will be back to your old self very soon.

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  48. I might be alone in this, but I've always enjoyed being held-up by Sheep or Cows or Horses in the road.

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  49. If you are enjoying the Cranberry juice, go right ahead! Just because others cope with difficulties too, doesn't lessen yours one whit, and we care about your welfare! My car has a bag with a towel, spare set of clothes, a Ziplock bag and Wet Ones for emergencies. ... You really don't want the long version of why I do that!!

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  50. I kept seeing an old post (Saturday 10th) of yours and no more updates. I was worried but when I saw your comment at Rachel's and clicked on your profile it updated. What a relief. Glad to read that you're starting to feel a little better John.
    Greetings Maria xx

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  51. Thought of wearing incontinence pants when you venture out? That way you won't have to worry about being caught short !

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  52. Hope you're feeling a bit better today. You have my sympathy ... and my permission to have a whinge and a moan. We all need one from time to time, and yours are very few and far between :-)

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  53. Well, everything's relative, but your condition definitely sounds like it's no fun. I'm glad the antibiotics are working!

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  54. Anonymous1:57 pm

    Maybe astronaut diapers????

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  55. I have had them all my life and remember vaguely as a wee child crawling around on a hospital table being prepared for anesthesia to be sure there was nothing seriously wrong. There was not. But the infections went on for years. I hate cranberry juice but I did stop drinking tea and coffee whenever I felt that burning pain coming back .. no wine either .. no hot spices. And drinking all the water you can tolerate .. I hate to drink water but I drink bottled water/Perrier or something with a bit of fizz to get it down.
    The antibiotics should work fast but the bladder relaxers are the Godsend .. just don't over do them .. and wee on yourself :)

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  56. Whinge away John... you are not a born whinger from the posts I have read. We all need a bit of tea and sympathy from time to time. I have a frozen neck at the moment and it hurts like a bitch...but physio is helping somewhat but trying to sleep is agony when my head sinks into the pillow and I need to turn over! Glad the antibiotics are taking effect. As all have said.. drink lots of fluids. Be well soon x

    Jo in Auckland, NZ

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  57. We are sorry. You now have 115 notes of real sympathy. I too am sorry. Your wearing out friend....

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