There is often a chasm between self perception and how others " see " you.
That is a fact of life.
Once I was " recovering" a patient who had been through an incredibly long and difficult liver transplant. He opened his eyes briefly then again and groaned " Fuck me it's Jeremy Speight" he croaked
At the time Jeremy Speight was a camp, fat Half Russian minor celebrity flight supervisor on the tv documentary Airport .
I wasn't best pleased
Yesterday, I got a facebook message from a colleague, she had been watching The Great British Bake Off
This was the message