Who do you spend time with when you want some friendly time?
I don't mean people here.
We all have a best friend who you can laugh and cry with ....no ...I mean who is your best friend when it comes to your own company?
If that statement leaves you scratching your head .let me explain with an example.
My oldest best friend has always been the cinema.
With the Prof talkng research and eating Swedish meatballs all week, I shall be having some sneaky indulgences at the " flicks"
Today it is Eye In The Sky with Helen Mirren, yesterday it was Midnight Special with the strangely attractive Joel Edgerton. Tomorrow afternoon I got the last seat in the Theatre Clwyd showing of Spotlight.
Escapism a la Hollywood for sure but beggars can't be choosers .....art house foreign movies are not thick on the ground in North Wales.
I will indulge myself with some film reviews tomorrow.
I love movie going in an afternoon. I love near empty cinemas, I love to go alone . I love not speaking with anyone else and I love to get there early without the palaver of clamouring for a seat.
If any of you ever see me in my cinema seat on a rainy afternoon , leave me the fuck alone ...
I'm having fun
What is your " best friend" event?
Answers on a postcard please.....
a sunny day on the porch with my knitting, the radio playing (jazz, classical, baseball), and the cats sleeping nearby.
ReplyDeleteI've never had a best friend forever, although I thought I had at times. My partner is the same. My best friend is walking and taking photos. I like to do so alone. I couldn't bear anyone asking, so what are taking a photo of now? Or worse, can we speed it up a bit?
ReplyDeleteSolitude seems a popular theme here
DeleteMy best friend event......in a vintage/antique/thrift shop by myself, slowly going through everything and wondering what brought this item here and the story behind it.
ReplyDeleteI would like this too jimbo......i would be polishing them as i went
DeleteHow did you know!! lol
DeleteA very long walk. Preferably with a dog. Preferably on the fells. Clear skies, fresh air, views for miles. Early in the morning so nice and quiet. X
ReplyDeleteSiting on the promenade, looking out to sea!
ReplyDeleteI dont do this enough
DeleteA bit of shade on an empty beach for me.
ReplyDeleteSitting on a smooth bit of rock on a craggy beach, with the waves racing in and crashing noisily onto the rocks. No-one close by chattering away at me. The beach has to be deserted, except for 2 or 3 people in the distance throwing balls for dogs.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you; a day at the movies, getting lost in a story, would be for me.
ReplyDeleteGrubbing about on my allotment.
ReplyDeleteGrubbing about on my allotment.
ReplyDeleteA good book.
ReplyDeleteA good book by a favourite author with a glass of red beside me. If it is good weather, taking a garden walk around the property and marvelling at the beauty of flowers. -Jenn
ReplyDeleteHaving my route planned, fresh batteries in my GPS and a few hours going geocaching on a sunny day. I love solving puzzles, seeing different scenery and getting some exercise as well.
ReplyDeleteFwhats geocaching?
DeleteSame as you, John: cinema! Looking forward to the reviews, I haven't seen any of those films yet.
ReplyDeleteThe battered old sofa, from my great grandmother, in our sitting room, with a glass of wine (or earlier in the day, a cup of tea) and one of three things to read: an E.F. Benson Lucia book, a Pym novel, or - and it's odd, but a book I adore - James Pope-Hennessy's life of Queen Mary.
ReplyDeleteLike i said before i need to read more
DeleteI love to putter around the house. Right now, I'm repairing and refinishing a small oak, arts and crafts style plant stand that has seen much better days. You couldn't pay someone for all the work I have put into it. How did I acquire it, you wonder? I was finishing an oak, arts and crafts library table which my partner owns. Sensing I was nearing the end, he sashays into the back garage where I work and just leaves the plant stand on my work table and walks away. Not a word of instruction or explanation, but none were needed. I knew what he wanted. I also love to garden, plant flowers, weed, trim etc. but none of us cuts the grass. We pay a neighbor with a tractor to do that, freeing me to work on other projects inside and outside the house.
ReplyDeleteYou say putter..i say potter
DeleteI don't have any people best friends but my 'other' friends are craft or garden books, writing, painting, drawing or sewing. I am quite happy with my own company, a pile of books to read or a crafty project to get stuck in to.
ReplyDeletei used to love escaping by myself to the movies. sometimes i would see two, one after the other.now i just watch them at home on my tv.
ReplyDeleteTo walk for hours in the countryside is wonderful. So much to see as you plod the yards and the miles. To me that is the best kind of self-therapy. But I would hate to be part of a walking group. All that idle chatter would spoil the experience.
ReplyDeleteTaking care of our two year old great nephew...we took care of his mommy when she was a baby so it seems like a full circle.
ReplyDeleteSitting by the open back door during a good thunder storm, a long cycle ride on a warm Sunday morning before the rest of the world is out of bed, a walk in the middle of nowhere with the wife, and being creative in the kitchen while listening to music and enjoying a nice bottle of Rioja.
ReplyDeleteI love a good thunder storm too! I hang out of my upstairs flat window getting wet...
DeleteI love to sit near an open door when it is storming. Only problem here in Tucson we have lighting that will strike even when your are inside with the window or doors open.
DeleteKayaking up a small, slow, lonely creek from its mouth at the sea until it gets too shallow to go further. The not-so-silent quiet that is filled with small noises of birds, insects, wind through the leaves is my best friend. I don't get to visit this friend very often, but each visit is a distinct pleasure and rejuvenation of spirit.
ReplyDeleteA murder novel every time. I am actually a very peace loving sort of gal, but give me a decent cup of coffee and a gruesome killing spree and I am content.
ReplyDeleteMe too, Lisa - I love a good murder !
DeleteWalking the dog through the woods near home, and watching a glorious sunset from our terrace.
I'm in, too. Love murder mysteries and always want to solve them myself before the end. -Jenn
DeleteIn the summer, puttering in the garden. In the winter, time in my quilt room creating with fabric and listening to an audio book. Ahhhhh to both "best friend" events.
ReplyDeleteA good book, usually a murder mystery
ReplyDeleteI used to have the 'Perfect Day' occassionally... when i was still working. A day off often translated to a trip into town , grab a big drink at Sonic, carry it with me while i made the rounds of all the craft stores.. taking my time , by myself, thinking up projects and things i could make, taking myself out to lunch... to a nice salad bar...then catch a matinee of a movie that did not interest anyone but me... get some popcorn.. a candy... settle in and not have to worry if anyone else was enjoying themselves... was hubby bored... was he enjoying the show... nope just me..I know how to be my own best friend... i'm comfortable in my own company. Many people are not and that used to surprise me. But then i was very much a loner as a child. It feels good to get back in touch with me. Hugs! deb
ReplyDeleteSonic ! ! ! Lime slush, just the best.
DeletePlus I loved when you use the car park the carhops on skates come out. My Japanese DIL loved that so much.
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DeleteI love a deserted cinema on a Saturday morning, no kids going to the loo every 2 minutes. Or a Sunday afternoon Agatha Christie marathon, Poirot or Marple I'm not fussed...
ReplyDeleteA whole day of sewing. Nobody else in the house requiring feeding and watering or making a noise. No washing machine going just the sound of my sewing machine as it churns out either a garment or a quilt.......bliss.
ReplyDeleteBooks, radio.......and (of course) cinema, preferably with a sparse audience - but SOME audience.
ReplyDeleteThe internet has basically become my best friend--or at least the friend I spend the most time with these days. It was a friendship I resisted at first as I'm basically a technophobe. Before the Internet, it would have been the media in general--books, movies, TV, and comics. All of which can be found on the Internet, so maybe THAT is why it's my best friend!
ReplyDeleteIt can take over somewhat cant it?
DeleteRiding my lovely old chestnut mare, just rambling about the hills, going where we want at the speed of a horse. Dogs alongside, protecting us from vicious squirrels and bunnies. The more hours, the better.
ReplyDeleteThese are getting better and better
DeleteA train journey on my own. An empty cinema I also love. Most of all being incognito anywhere, nobody knowing where I am.
ReplyDeleteMy very best friend is my book, whichever one she is - I'm fickle. I take her everywhere with me. Propped up on a collapsible book holder, she conspicuously dines with me in low class and high class eating establishments. We start the day together and end it side by side.
ReplyDeleteI try to be as loyal as I can because she is so herself, but the occasional sneak out to the movies where I too can arrive first to sit silent in an almost empty theater (with my own snack hidden in my purse)and the feeling that this movie was made just for me is companionship equal to my written friend. And I love! to be alone.
Liv, i had a prawn wrap hidden in my pocket!
DeletePainting. Everyday for hours. Great therapy and very zen.
ReplyDeleteAre you good?
Deletebeyondbeige I do the same! I would love to walk or take in a movie but am caring for Mom so I escape to the art room and get lost in the painting of where I might like to be.
DeleteEarly night with a Georgette Heyer and a bar of Dairy Milk.
ReplyDeleteDoes georgette know she comes first?
DeleteFor me it is sitting down in the evenings at my worktable and drawing something.
ReplyDeleteIt could be for a project or just what I want to draw. Just me with the Square Dogs sleeping, no phone calls people to talk to sometimes a book on tape or a favorite movie on really low.
Or I sit outside in late afternoon and watch or draw all the birds flying around below, or whatever critter has moseyed by.
Just very nice quiet me time.
cheers, parsnip
I wish i could draw.....i have considered one of those colouring books they seem very popular now
DeleteI've got my daughter one of those for her birthday-beautifully patterned swear words! She is 27 by the way hehe x
DeleteYou should try it. It is like doodling. I have a doodle book that starts you off with a story and a line and your do the rest.
DeleteThe coloring books out know that you can fill in the colors you want is very therapeutic or zen like you can get lost in just filling in the shapes.
Poultry shows. I get to take my favorite chickens and be with my favorite people.
ReplyDeleteNot enough of these left nowadays
DeleteA quiet walk or bike ride. On a nice day outside, on a cold or wet day, a stroll through a nice museum.
ReplyDeleteYes i love museums too, as long as they arnt crowded
DeleteSitting in the sun with a nice chick flick type novel.. I like gentle stuff.
ReplyDeleteNot a lover of full sun ( i am red enough)
DeleteA book. Once upon a time it was a book to read. These days it may be a book I am writing. Accompanied by a good cup of medium roast coffee, especially if I am writing!
ReplyDeleteMany here have reminded me of books as therapy
DeleteA good book, a walk with nature, a rummage through a second-hand clothing shop - strangely soothing, that last one.
ReplyDeleteA second hand bookshop here
DeleteHaving the house to myself for a while.
ReplyDeleteGood on
DeleteSorry John - I need other people. My 'best friend' event has to be going out and meeting my friends. If I am in alone then it is reading but real friends win every time.
ReplyDeleteThere's always one!
DeleteHi John - I've been lurking for a while, decided it was time to respond. My best-friend-event has to be garage sales (car-boot sales to you I think). I love going out quite early on a Sat morning, with no more than $20 in change, just to see what treasure I can amass from someone else's junk. If the weather is foul, then a thrift shop of any kind will do.
ReplyDeleteNice to have you aboard and commentating
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I would rather go to a movie alone . . .
ReplyDeleteBest thing ever . . .
Go when I want . . .
See what I want . . .
During a tremendous transition in my life many years back I found going to a movie by myself. . . . the best therapy ever.
So I guess I too . . . call this friend . . .
Just me and the dog and my camera out exploring.
ReplyDeleteBooks. Or pottering in the garden.
ReplyDeleteMy best friend is my Kindle. I love my Kindle, wherever I go, my Kindle comes too.
ReplyDeleteMe to Judith, me to. Paper backs are great, but on the go you cant beat a kindle. Another world at the tap or swipe of your finger, pure escapism.
DeleteThe cinema is that best friend you only see every few years and its just like you saw each other last week. I refer to go to the cinema alone actually. But I rarely get to. So my always best friend is my sewing machine. Up in the studio, book on tape, pile of stuff to work on, heaven!
ReplyDeleteHammock + Mosquito Net + iPad with earphones (music or audio novel) + quilt (if the day is cool) = Perfect Day Happiness :-)
ReplyDeleteLove reading , gardening, walking, listening to music by myself and dance like a looney , nature, watching the ocean , bush walking , time with family , taking a moment to just zone in on the moment. Sometimes little moments in life need to be appreciated and I try to savour the moment. On a Saturday afternoon I occasionally lie down for ten minutes and I listen to the notices in my neighbourhood. The faint sound of lawn mowers, birds and whatever is happening . This ritual is strangely calming and zen like . Pottering in my garden and planting things is one of my most enjoyable things to do. I love going to the many wonderful markets around here. I also love where I live and going for a drive and absorbing the natural world around me. The older I get the more enjoyment I have in simpler things.
ReplyDeleteI love going out to lunch alone, eating something nice and taking a book along to read.
ReplyDeleteI also like sitting outside on clear nights with a glass of wine.
If it's a crying day I go to bed.
ReplyDeleteAll other days it's the cinema. There is one I have discovered recently which is art house, tastefully decorated, fully accessible for my mobility issues and has a wonderful cafe. That is my dream day.
Unfortunately, most days i cant afford the travel time or the ticket & parking prices so I go to the crappy local. It's not as perfect but it's still the cinema
The bookstore is where I want to be alone! Especially if there are new novels out that I if interesting. And magazines to gaze upon. No talking or being polite. Just the written word and maybe photos.
ReplyDeleteReading has been so all my life, though of late, crocheting and listening to podcasts or audio books has taken a step up.
ReplyDeleteOld historical cemeteries are my favourite go to place. I absolutely love to wander around reading old gravestones. It's something I've done my whole life and find it fascinating. It somehow speaks to me and makes me marvel at the endurance of the human spirit.
ReplyDeleteCurled up with a really good book and some popcorn, no one around to interrupt me. A second has recently developed: sitting on the porch with George, the little gecko, who has taken to appearing every time I step out.
ReplyDeleteOh I am with you. I love a day off from the hospital, and head off to an empty cinema to see a grown up film. No distractions or teenagers with cellphones, just me and some other middle aged loners and pensioners. Awesome. Oh then a banana smoothie and a hot mince pie.
ReplyDeletejulie
It used to be carboots, especially in Winter. It was magical to be up and about in the darkness when so few other people were. I loved the quiet and the stillness of the drive there, the anticipation of what I might find, and the rummaging. Since disposing of the car 2 years ago I don't have those moments, and none of the other things I love to do has quite filled that gap.
ReplyDeleteI love a lot of the above, reading, music and quiet days. However, I really love to sit on a train, preferably going through the countryside, and look out of the window at the world going by. Love Andie xxx
ReplyDeleteDrawing and Painting alone (!) following a walk on the prom - alone (!)
ReplyDeleteLaying in my bed waiting for the sun to rise. The best time of the day and I can always count on it happening - so far.
ReplyDeleteI like to go for a walk, went for one today to walk off a very bad mood I have had for last 2 days and it seems to have worked, for now .....
ReplyDeleteI have a choice of four, all equally soothing and restorative. A visit to the cinema ... almost any film will do, sitting on the steps to Llandudno beach and looking out to sea ... preferably with a Pug at my side, a brand new book with a big glass of wine or a big mug of coffee, a tin of shortbread and a new box set (my last binge was Weeds ... all eight series).
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