Friday, 14 March 2014

Gentleman Jim.



It was lovely to see my friends last night. It's been a year since we all met up, but like true, good old friends, we bounded back into old conversations and old ways of behaving, even before the first sip of expensive beer passed our lips.
All three chums were on good form and all three thought it slightly odd that I was going to my Uncle's funeral today. An uncle I hadn't see since 1989.
Last night, I couldn't really answer their question.
This afternoon , I still can't articulate just why I wanted to attend
But, after four train journeys and a gut wrenching experience in a speeding Rotherham taxi, I sat thinking about that very thing in the grounds of  a beautifully sunny and peaceful Northern town crematorium and I came up with the simple notion that it was just the right thing to do 
The service and my brief reunion with my aunt and cousin was more emotional than I expected and  the Asian taxi driver who dropped me off then collected me up afterwards picked up on the fact when he was shooting through East Herringthorpe at fifty miles an hour!
" You not going to the pub?" He asked,
" no I don't need to go, I just wanted to pay my respects for old time's sake at the service" I told him honestly
Old time's sake.
My Grandmother, Jim's beloved mother, would have said that .




26 comments:

  1. That's nice. It's good that you went. It was the right thing to do.

    Love,
    Janie

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  2. Some things are just meant to be. Good for you.

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  3. Closer is good.

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  4. Yes, it was the right thing - and I hope you feel it too.

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  5. JG, it is an act of respect ~ to your family, to what family means to you and to yourself. You don't need to over-analyse it. As long as you feel it was the right thing to do.

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    1. I was glad I went

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    2. I'm glad you did, too. xox

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  6. some time we have to go with what feels right for no other reason than that hope you ok do what i do just cuddle the dog

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  7. I so agree with everyone here. Plus it was nice to come together for your Aunt and cousins.

    cheers, parsnip

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  8. Doing the right thing is nothing to be sneezed at and I'm sure your Aunt and cousin appreciated the gift of your time and presence.
    I've swung over from Mitchell's blog, by the by.

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  9. it's always good to know when to do the right thing.

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  11. We're so used to justifying the things we do. Answering the perpetual question - Why? Sometimes it's good to just follow your instincts -without logic. This was surely one of those times. No whys.

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    1. Good point YP.........good advice too

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  12. It was lovely to see my friends last night. It's been a year since we all met up, but like true, good old friends, we bounded back into old conversations and old ways of behaving, even before the first sip of expensive beer passed our lips.

    It's amazing how quickly we fall into the old, familiar patterns. Old friends are like well-worn shoes... in a good way!

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  13. Thank you for the warm smile.

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  14. He was after all family and it meant something to his wife that you were there....so of course you did the right thing and I'm sure they felt comforted by the gesture.

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  15. Sounds a bit like the last family funeral I went to in London. It wouldn't have been 'right' to stay away.

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  16. Sometimes I think it doesn't matter if I go or not, but I've never been sorry afterward.

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  17. Yes, good that you went to both things, the reunion with your friends and the funeral service.
    Isn't it strange how unexpected small things "get" to us when it comes to emotions? Like you said that the funeral service and seeing your aunt and cousin was more emotional than you expected. I know that feeling only too well.

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  18. It was the right thing to do.
    I attended the funeral of my dear elderly neighbour & ended up being driven in the Jaguar behind Peggy's hearse with her daughter & son in law... but it did feel right somehow. All Peggy's neighbours who attended her funeral ( me being by far the youngest ) were made to feel so special. We were all part of her life, even if only a little like me regularly chatting to her on our way to the village & her daughter was thankful for that.

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  19. Sometimes just going is the right thing to do. And no doubt your very presence and the respect that it showed will have made things that little bit better for someone else that was there.

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  20. You just did what you felt was the right thing to do and it was. Great that you did. Hope you're safely back home again now, John. Jo xx

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  21. Over and done now and you did the right thing.

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  22. I always say about life, " If it feels right for me, then it's right" and vice versa.
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