Friday, 9 December 2011

End Of An Era

It was odd going to a "family" funeral today with only two sisters sat in the pews.... It seemed lob sided somehow...and just a little bit inappropriate. and the feeling kind of wrong footed me  as we filed in to the crowded Church.
I mentioned it to the congregation before I gave the eulogy....but I didn't have too much time to ad lib as the vicar wrong footed me too , and asked me to do my reading much earlier than the time  shown on the "programme"
It went ok...I didn't stumble over my words too much ( thanks to a million or so rehearsals in the kitchen yesterday) and no one threw prayer books at me for saying anything inappropriate......
Mike Peters did a moving couple of songs .......we all sang a lusty "Bread of Heaven" and suddenly and rather strangely the whole day seemed suddenly over..........

Andrew (third from left) with some celebrity chums
Tonight, next to the fire and covered in dogs...all cosy like, I aim to raise a large glass of something, and give Andrew a good natured "Bottoms up!"........

56 comments:

  1. Sending you love, because I am useless with words. xxx

    ReplyDelete
  2. Funny how things that seem so momentous looking forward, pass so quickly and suddenly it leaves you gasping for breath. Have a peaceful evening.

    ReplyDelete
  3. It takes a lot to stand up at a funeral and speak with both nerves and emotion getting in the way...glad you got through it OK.

    Enjoy a nice weekend John, I am sure you are wiped out.

    ReplyDelete
  4. Hello John:
    We have been absent from the Blogosphere and so have just caught up with the very sad news of your brother's death. We are so very sorry,words are totally inadequate on such occasions but you are in our thoughts and prayers.

    The end of an era most certainly but we hope that you will be sustained at this very sad time with the support of your partner, your family, your countless friends and the comforting routines of your wonderful life in the countryside. Take care.

    ReplyDelete
  5. Thinking of you... and your family.

    xoxoxoxo
    e
    plufrompdx.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  6. It does all seem so surreal, doesn't it!
    Bottoms up Andrew!
    xx

    ReplyDelete
  7. I'll raise my glass to Andrew also, a true hero...one of the good 'uns.
    {To Andrew}....
    ~Jo

    ReplyDelete
  8. I'll drink one with ya John.

    A little bit of routine daily chores and a lot of chilling out tomorrow me thinks.x

    ReplyDelete
  9. My chin is up on your behalf Sir.

    ReplyDelete
  10. John -you did brilliantly ,it was lovely eulogy and you summed up Andrew to a tee ! very proud of you x

    ReplyDelete
  11. I too will raise my glass John. Re charge your batteries this weekend. xxxx

    ReplyDelete
  12. I'll raise a glass to Andrew, and to those he left behind.
    Jane x

    ReplyDelete
  13. He'll like that John!

    (((((hugs))))) Theanne

    ReplyDelete
  14. Sending you all lots of love John and I will be thinking of you all when I have a little drinkie.
    love
    Jo xx

    ReplyDelete
  15. Is that Keith Allen on bass guitar? So glad that you gave Andrew's eulogy your best shot and thereby personalised the service for gathered friends and family. I hate it when it's all left in the hands of the presiding vicar/priest or whoever - it means so much more to come from a close family member. Well done!

    ReplyDelete
  16. We've been thinking of you here. Many virtual hugs to you and family, John. Through your wonderful way of words and your generosity of sharing your life with us you've allowed people all over the world to become "friends". Thank you. xoxoxo

    ReplyDelete
  17. yp
    your advice was top notch

    ruth
    lovely to hear from you,,, its been too long....

    janet
    thanks xxxx

    the rest
    chin chin!!!
    chocks away
    and bottoms up
    xxx

    ReplyDelete
  18. one and the same YP x

    ReplyDelete
  19. Earlier, I said it was your final gift to your brother when you cleaned him up. I was wrong. The eulogy was your last gift to him, and to the rest of your family, as well. I'm sure you did him, and yourself, proud.

    ReplyDelete
  20. Glad the funeral went well and there wasn't too much stumbling (or emotional distress). In fact it sounds like a rather jolly send-off....

    ReplyDelete
  21. You should have your own reality show John! You are about as authentic as it gets. Glad you are doing OK. You've been on my mind. Hugs, Sandy

    ReplyDelete
  22. Good that you could do this, John. I know only certain people are able to get up and focus on what's at hand, and you are one of those people.

    ReplyDelete
  23. I admire you immensely for giving a eulogy. I wanted to at my Mother's service last September but I just knew I would blubber through it and not make much sense or give honor to her memory. Thank goodness my younger brother is a care pastor. He has performed many eulogies and gave the best for our Mom that day.

    I am sorry that you lost your brother. I am fortunate that both of my brothers are still here. I can't imagine losing one or both of them. Hopefully I go first.

    My thoughts are with you.

    ReplyDelete
  24. Well done, John boy. It must have been hard, but had to be done. Have a lovely and relaxing night - and as lovely and relaxing a life as your animals will allow. X.

    ReplyDelete
  25. Bro,,your eulogy was brilliant we as a family enjoyed your humorous vision of Andrew's late teenage years and summing up full circle was perfect, we loved it,
    much love Tim and Ann

    ReplyDelete
  26. I'm sending you a smacker of a kiss and a real big hug right now!

    SP

    ReplyDelete
  27. Here here!
    Thank god for dogs and fires and having it be over.
    And for having a brother so VERY worth missing...especially that.
    Dxoxox

    ReplyDelete
  28. My heart goes out to you; it's been a difficult Autumn in many ways. Dave, my husband, died quite unexpectedly last month and time has crawled flown by. I am sorry I didn't see your post about Andrew but know you're now in my prayers.

    ReplyDelete
  29. This comment has been removed by the author.

    ReplyDelete
  30. Someone in PA, USA will also raise a glass to Andrew tonight. Your's and your sister's stories of Andrew made us all feel as if we knew him.

    ReplyDelete
  31. :clink: To Andrew, from WV USA.

    ReplyDelete
  32. Glad everything went okay, John. I'm sure you did Andrew proud. Hugs.

    ReplyDelete
  33. Sounds a proper ending to the kind of day it has been.
    We'll be thinking of you.

    ReplyDelete
  34. *Hugs* ♥
    Thinking of you.

    ReplyDelete
  35. Love you dear John. We'll lift a glass to Andrew tonight after Bible study. x-c

    ReplyDelete
  36. I could never do a eulogy, but I so admire people that can do it. I would be much too emotional. I know the last few days probably now seem like blur, a little surreal, and filled with raw emotions. With all those animals to love you and keep you busy, I hope you find the spring in your step soon. Take care and Bottoms Up!

    ReplyDelete
  37. Yes, chin chin old thing with my sherry too.

    ReplyDelete
  38. To Andrew. clink.

    ReplyDelete
  39. Hope you gave Andrew that "bottoms up." From what I have read, you did a great job with the eulogy...not so easy, I'm sure. Hope you can find some comfort with your friends and critters.

    ReplyDelete
  40. Gone but never forgotten, I' sure. Yes, I'll raise that glass with you John. To your brother!

    Time now to relax, to contemplate, and shed those tears.

    ReplyDelete
  41. I've seen too many people not be able to make it through. I'm sure the first few times it was tough.

    I know exactly what you mean by something was missing.

    ReplyDelete
  42. Well done you. My much loved big brother died unexpectedly and suddenly in a foreign country and I wasn't even able to be at the funeral, let alone give a eulogy - I still feel cheated, especially at this time of year.

    Thank goodness for routines - they give us something to han=g on to. (Cat on keyboard - sorry for typows.)

    Raising a glass of NZ Chardonnay to you, your brother, and my brother. Cheeers!

    ReplyDelete
  43. A perfect ending to the day. X

    ReplyDelete
  44. Only recently started dipping into your blog. My condolences on your brother, Andrew's death. I did the eulogies at both my mother's and my father's funerals-- they're not easy to do but, it helped doing them.
    Hope the same for you.
    Antoinette

    ReplyDelete
  45. Here's to Andrew!

    A beautiful tribute to a wonderful man.

    Thank you for for making it personal by doing the eulogy. I did that for Dad and aferwards, regretted that I had not for Mom.

    ReplyDelete
  46. Well done, John. xxx

    ReplyDelete
  47. I raise my glass to you too John - take care.

    ReplyDelete
  48. Take care and don't underestimate the grieving process .... As the cliche goes it takes time and longer than you think ..
    Jane x

    ReplyDelete
  49. Thinking of you and your family today John. Here's a raised glass to your brother Andrew.

    ReplyDelete
  50. Thinking of you and your family today John. Here's a raised glass to your brother Andrew.

    ReplyDelete
  51. Sleep well Andrew, nothing can hurt you now.

    ReplyDelete
  52. Sending you love as well. I, too, will raise a glass to your brother Andrew (and to you) tonight.

    ReplyDelete
  53. What a very long journey for you and yours; and your brave and glorious brother. What a wonderful photo to remember him by. My heartfelt and sincere belated sympathies to you and your family. I will say a prayer for you and Andrew tonight. Hugs.

    ReplyDelete

I love comments and will now try very hard to reply to all of them
Please dont be abusive x