Micklegate Bar in York a historic Street lined with pubs The "Micklegate Run" is an old York tradition for partygoers Have a drink in each pub from Wall to River I never managed it |
Anyhow instead of gabbing a few zzzz s I found myself reading a medical magazine article on chronic alcoholism which had been co authored by a nurse I had worked with in York decades ago!
I lived in the picturesque city of York for three years in the 1980s. and remember my salad days at Bootham Park , the flag ship psychiatric Hospital , with much affection. Not only did I gain invaluable experience working on an acute admission ward and "mother and baby" unit; I had the fantastic opportunity of working on a placement with the city's community alcohol and drug dependency specialist nurse.
Her name was Lu and she was one of those impressively quiet professional nurses that spoke little, but said a great deal (if you see what I mean?) A small , almost frail woman, she possessed a steely strength which allowed her to deal with a phenomenal case load of patients from a city which was renowned for it's158 pubs!
York is a tiny city, so wherever we went, we would always bump into previous patients who had fallen off the wagon, so to speak....and I never forgot just how dignified Lu was, when she had to deal with these inebriated and often emotional characters.
An overly guilty drunk can be difficult to handle, running away can illicit some embarrassing shouting in the street, while stopping to indulge, is patently a terrible waste of time for a trained counsellor to embark on.....
Lu, as I remember, always kept her voice low, firm and calm at these times. She would often use a touch of the arm to capture the blurred gaze, or to hush a garrulous mouth then she would always say the same thing
"Call me when you are sober, I will be waiting for your call"
If she was pushed into a confrontation, she would always smile a non patronising smile at the former patient and would say with conviction
"Forgive me, I always make it a rule, NEVER to discuss work with someone who has had a drink" Her words, strangely enough, were seldom disregarded
She taught me a great deal about respect......respecting people that have often lost respect in themselves
.....and she taught me never to argue with a piss head
What a well thought out and carefully written account of a touchy subject, especially one painfully close to so many.
ReplyDeleteWould love to hear the story of the organ donation and what is involved. I'm sure you could handle it sensitively and objectively, just as you did this entry.
Derby used to have it's 'Derby mile' a regular pub run for many a stag or hen do. Sadly a significant number of the pubs no longer exist and those left near the town end are now trendy bars.
ReplyDeleteI remember many a night in casualty dealing with the drinkers, my sis does a sterling job with the homeless, mentally I'll - I take my hat off to her.
Organ donation is handled primarily by transplant co ordinators who are a very talented bunch of nurses.
ReplyDeleteour job is to keep the patient alive long enough for the surgeons etc to get to the hospital to "harvest" the organs AFTER the patient has died..
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ReplyDeleteHarvest in some cases is exactly what happens.. several teams "collecting" several organs
Your friend, Lu, sounds amazing.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry you lost your patient but it was a great gift in the end...to help other people live.
ReplyDeleteGreat post, and thoughtful, too.
ReplyDeleteHope your animals have helped you relax after your stressful night.
Wondered why you rarely tangle with Tom...
ReplyDeleteJohn, I lived in Heworth in the early 1980's and as part of my CQSW I did a placement in the mother and baby unit at Bootham Park. Small world.
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ReplyDeletevery small world!!!!! I was there 1986!
chris
ReplyDeleteI can never really tell until he starts ranting.. but saying this pissed or not pissed he still writes beautifully.. and with all appropriate punctuation in place!
I had moved on to Meanwood and then to the 'field' in Leeds by then. I was in York 79 - 82, living most of that time in a commune, squatting in a house in Irwin Avenue. Some of the happiest years of my life...
ReplyDeleteReally appreciating the pictures of the Micklegate - awesome, wish I was there, but these pictures make an exciting second!
ReplyDeleteI think I would like your nurse friend.
Lu sounds an amazing woman. I loved that line, 'She taught me a lot about respect ..... respecting people who have often lost respect in themselves' Perhaps I shouldn't say this but in the light of the last couple of days in blog sphere, one of our friends and he still means a great deal to us (well to me at least)for all that ...... well, I'm still hurting .......
ReplyDeleteMolly.... have I missed something?
ReplyDeleteI like LU...that's the kind of team mate one wanted when working with people with psychiatric problems and/or drug abuse. A pearl among the swine!
ReplyDeleteNo I don't think so - it just hurts me when people needlessly ruin their lives for what?
ReplyDeleteWorking with a truly amazing person like your Lu is a real priveledge
ReplyDeleteal and Theanne
ReplyDeleteas I recall lu had a stillness about her which was awe inspiring and just a little frightening
I was 25 (and a young 25 when I met her) she taught me to shut my mouth just a little
I'm always amazed at how pissed bloggers can still spell correctly whilst I can never seem the spel anytink right evr.
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ReplyDeleteI cant even see the keyboard
An important lesson....
ReplyDeleteYork sounds like Halifax! So that's where the 'habit' originates! Not that the navy had anything to do with!
ReplyDeleteMy brother lived in York for a while. I always found it mildly disappointing, but I did like the pubs and seem to remember going on a pub crawl there - can't remember finishing though.
ReplyDeleteJohn,I have always wondered whether someone who encounters death as part of their daily or working life, actually fears dying themselves ? or do you actually see it in a way which cannot be categorised as anything ? we shall discuss this at our dinner event ( the one with claire and i, not the one in december with 184 others !! )
ReplyDeletetakes a special person to be able to do what you do John!
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ReplyDeleteI wear a nurses hat at work.. at home I am as scared as we all are....
I have met some Lu's in my life. Remarkable people.
ReplyDeleteJane x
She sounds like a very wise woman and mentor who has made a difference--They don't make many like her these days, do they?
ReplyDeleteWe can only strive to be like Lu. It's good for you to have known such a woman.
ReplyDeleteI would love to see York. Thanks for the photos.
ReplyDeleteThe UK Friday night aim of going out with the intention of getting 'slaughtered', seems to be going strong. Here in France one very rarely sees a drunk; people drink wine with their meals, and that's it.
ReplyDeleteA difficult subject written about with a sensitive touch. Lu sounds such a lovely quietly competent colleague and friend.Organ donation - we should all carry the card as the gift of an improved life for a stranger after we have gone can not be quantified Great post today.
ReplyDeleteI loved York when i visited there. I'd never make the "Micklegate Run" as i don't drink very often or very much on the occasions where i imbibe.
ReplyDeleteI'm a firm believer in organ donation and appreciate what you and others go through to get the organs from the newly dead to those waiting for a second chance.
Lu sounds like a wonderful woman and a real rock.
megan
No way could I ever have been an alcohol and drug dependency nurse, and I really admire those committed to that kind of work. I would just find it too depressing seeing the same old backsliding and denial going on day after day.
ReplyDeleteA great teacher indeed! Sounds like she handled her job with wisdom and grace.
ReplyDeleteAnd I LOVE York! I was last there in 2007. Love it.