Tuesday, 10 March 2015

Spring Has Sprung

Trelawnyd warming in the sun

 Spring has finally arrived and it has been a glorious day. We have a new relief postman who delivered our first "Mr & Mr" card this afternoon! He doesn't know me so wrongly delivered another blog wedding congratulation card to the wrong cottage....I don't know how he got it wrong....the address ( John Gray, Going Gently Internet Sensation, chicken keeper, Cottage near the church , Trelawnyd) seemed perfectly clear to me ( thank you Simone btw)

The funny little rock thing to the left is a wonderful wedding gift from
Mrs Trellis...a light up rock!


I wasn't going to mention the wedding again today but I have had a few more thoughts about the whole
 " marriage thing" as I have mowed the lawn and cleaned the cottage windows,

The problem with having so much attention and good wishes from people, is that you tend to notice when some people that you know fairly well actively ignore the fact that a marriage actually took place.
It's only happened a couple of times and I am not unduly upset by it all, but I AM surprised !
Should I be?
.I didn't expect that the wedding would make front page headlines in the Parish Magazine, but perhaps  naively., I did expect that everyone who knows us well, would acknowledge that the deed had been done.....
I mentioned my thoughts to Auntie Gladys when I called round to sort out the date for the next Flower Show meeting
" some people are just stupid"  she explained simply



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  1. Auntie Gladys is a wise and succinct woman. And speaks the truth.

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    1. Like i said , im not upset at all...just slightlysurprised

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  2. I agree with Auntie Gladys.

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  3. I love Auntie Glad ! Congrats on your wedding...the whole affair looked fabulous in your photos.
    The rock is a salt crystal lamp...good for emitting negative ions which neutralize the air. Also good for warming cold hands, lol.

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    1. Thanks for the lamp heads up.....i love it

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  4. I hope Auntie Glad will be around for a long time to come. She's always "spot on" with good advice and pithy observations.

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    1. Lol, she also said that " everything was above board"
      ( referring to the fact that we had tied the knot legally"

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  5. Don't let their discourteous 'oversight' niggle at you, J.G. After all, we know that you're SO Money Supermarket! ;-)

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  6. When we married we joined our names, some of Chris' family refused to acknowledge this (despite reminders) so, whenever we received mail from them we returned the mail "not known at this address".
    Jane x

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  7. Just concentrate on the many who DID wish you well and celebrated with you. Don't waste your time on those with small minds and hearts.

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  8. Ignore them....turn that frown upside down.....the sun is out!!

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  9. I don't know if this is the case, but it would be a nice thought - what if they consider it so normal that they don't think it needs any acknowledgement? It would be lovely if they did think it perfectly normal and not in need of any special mention wouldn't it. Of course I totally disagree and think that all celebrations and good things need mentioning, so you just keep on mentioning away and we will keep replying!! xx

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  10. bravo auntie glad!

    wish I could say that spring has come to philly, but alas I cannot. :(

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  11. And there you have it in a nut shell.

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  12. Love that Auntie Gladys just gets right to the point.
    My age is somewhere between you and Auntie Gladys and for me people are just very strange and stupid. I just really do not understand most of them.
    By the way I just started to stream "Hinterland" It is you !

    cheers, parsnip

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  13. Sometimes you just cant win. When hubby and I got married I was very young so everyone kept asking my mum when the baby was due. When a baby did not show up she was then told how sorry they were that I had lost the baby. The baby did not exist, in fact we were married for over 4 years before our first was born. There are always going to be people with opinions that you cant change.

    Anyway congratulations once again and why are you not on honeymoon in some exotic place taking a well earned break? ( see i'm just as bad )

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    1. We are off to australia in september!
      Whooooooooooo

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    2. Wow, well another occasion when your rabid public will be demanding photo documentaries!

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  14. I am with Auntie Gladys it is amazing how stupid people can be and hurtful , when I was diagnosed with breast cancer people went out of there way to avoid me.My sister in law actually told me that she had been to the doctors to make sure she was ok so I wasn't to worry about her . Or the time when my daughter aged 4 was diagnosed with leukaemia and my mother in law told everyone she had flu . I just hope I am not as stupid as they are . x

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    1. I guess........in our case its the gay thing rather than anything else.....

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  16. As usual, Auntie Glad is right. And there is no cure for that. I'm sure it was eye-opening, though.

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  17. "Some people are just stupid" Words of wisdom indeed. And at the end of the day, they explain most things in life.

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  18. it's always the little things that surprise us in life....

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  19. Auntie Gladys is a wise woman.

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  20. I too was surprised at the reactions some gave to my marriage, a totally hetero affair, but an on the run unplanned one while away for a holiday from 24/7 volunteer work...quite a few people's response was that they would gift/acknowledge/celebrate once we had settled down into real life?!? Of course they never did, 21 years and two kids later.... I think these people put more importance on their opinions than is healthy!

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    1. ...or tie themselves up with things that shouldnt matter?.......

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  21. Aunty Glad summed it up beautifully …. she is very shrewd and astute.
    There's always someone who surprises us isn't there John ? XXXX

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  22. Auntie Gladys might be correct...and yet maybe these people thought they had already said " Congratulations". I think I congratulated you both at least three times in comments. Similar to wishing someone " Happy New Year" too late in January you do feel foolish. Anyway just a thought, and oh yes 'Congratulations", hahaha

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  23. I love Auntie Gladys ... she says it like it is, no more no less.

    I think I must have started modelling myself on her a few years ago, there's no pussyfooting around things with me, if you ask me a question you get an answer ... and perhaps not always the answer you were hoping for ;-)

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  24. Maybe they weren't invited? Luckily?

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  25. I am glad that the card showed up John. I thought I would take a gamble as you had received another similarly addressed one! I love the salt rock lamp and the view from the window with the sunlight streaming in is glorious.

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  26. I bet the other Chris didn't send his congrats!

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    1. Oh I had forgotten about him.............bless

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  27. I love Auntie Glad! Smart woman.

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  28. Maybe they live under a rock and didn't know about the nuptials, but I doubt it. Auntie Glad is so precious and you are so lucky to have her!!

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  29. Aunt Glad sounds just like my Mother when I went round the other day to complain about stuff that's been happening. They can both put their points across very simply and succinctly. Wish I had the same mindset! I don't mind a jot if you keep talking about your wedding and people who have ignored the fact are very selfish, as well as being stupid! Did my card get there?

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    1. It did! Thank you old gal xxx

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  30. Not just stupid but Id add small minded. The light up rock is a salt rock I think. Don't keep it directly on wood. I've learnt the hard way. Put a mat under.

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  31. It may be legal but it doesn't mean that everybody agrees with it. That's just the way it is and you will be more than aware of that. The chapel non-conformists of North Wales will take a long time to accept gay weddings. We have come a long way in my life time which when I left home in 1969 was unthinkable. I wouldn't mind betting that amongst your 800 odd followers there will be some that do not agree with gay marriage however much they love dogs and dogging.

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    1. Yes rachel........i know you are right.........
      I think i'm slightly irked that people that may pass the time of day with you cant even acknowledge even in passing a marriage

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  32. Any day with Auntie Glad is a good day.

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  33. I was also going to add....it's surprising to see how people react to both good and bad times. When my husband was having cancer treatment, people that I would have sworn would care and be supportive sometimes did the least (or disappeared altogether). But then there were people we hardly knew or didn't expect anything from who astonished us with their thoughtfulness and generosity. It still puzzles me to this day (3 years later).

    If people that you thought cared about you and Chris purposely avoided acknowledging your marriage, I say to hell with them. Look how many true friends you have, all over the world! They're probably just jealous.

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    1. I think that sometimes people feel awkward and just don't know what to say or how to behave. I experienced this when I had a long term illness and some people looked so uncomfortable when they met me.

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    2. I suspect its a religeous thing..........to be honest

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    3. I think Susan has it right, some people just don't feel comfortable outside established routines. I don't think their behavior is negative, what they might be saying is, "you guys are okay with me, I don't want to embarrass anyone if I say something inappropriate." One of my son's old school mates is getting married soon, she and her fiance are planning an unconventional wedding, and there are lots of people (even from their own age group) who don't know how to respond, and this makes them uncomfortable. This will be a hetero wedding, by the way, a traditional wedding with gay participants wouldn't faze them at all.

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    4. "I suspect its a religous thing..........to be honest"

      Ach the silly fools are just probably surprised you have not yet turned into a pillar of salt.

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    5. Or more likely concerned they may turn into one just by looking at you (now I come to recall the tale from the Big Mad Story Book),

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  34. Auntie Gladys nailed it. As usual.

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  35. I love Auntie Glad too

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  36. Strange and stupid...pretty much sums up most of the people I know...

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  37. Oh, people are people. I suspect that had you married a nice nurse called Gladys, some people would not say anything about it either, possibly different people. Stupid is a moving feast. I know you haven't really been bothered by it, and of course you would know that there's nowt queer as folk! ;-)

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  38. You knew that though, but it was good that Auntie Glad confirmed it for you.

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  39. I lived with my husband for 8 months before we got married. We were engaged. I was paying the mortgage on the flat because I was working full time, while he was a full time student and not earning, so it made sense to save money by moving in together. This was just over 25 years ago (it's our silver anniversary in two weeks). My family was so furious about us living together before marriage that they threatened not to come to the wedding. My husband's granny was so disgusted that she refused to set foot inside our home until wedding rings were on fingers. How times have changed!!

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    1. I still cant get over that it is pretty normal for teens to sleep with their boyfriends/girlfriends at the home of mom and dad

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    2. Not in my house!

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  40. Good for Auntie Gladys. There are some who don't enjoy not being the center of attention themselves.

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  41. I think Auntie Gladys is right - but John, I am missing your reflections on this weeks episode of The Walking Dead - how brilliant was Carol!

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    1. I'll do a walking Dead post tomorrow x

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  42. And you can't fix stupid....

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  43. Today happens to be my sixteen year anniversary! I remember the one thing that surprised me was that pretty much everyone we knew sent us ten dollars. But ignoring you getting married? How bizarre!

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  44. I have no problem with gay weddings, or fanny cloth tales, dog arse klingons and an obsession with scotch eggs (not that I am conflating these disparate things, I should add, all very different phenomena that offend some), however.......... I absolutely refuse to acknowledge the phenomenon that is the TV show called The Walking Dead. Not that I've seen it of course, just heard of in passing and caught a few images. Jings, the very idea of it as entertainment! Desist! (And yes. As you know. I am stupid).

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    1. Lol go on andrew give it a go! You may love zombie bashing

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    2. You know what? Maybe if I treated it all as a clever metaphor for real life...? Hmm... I may look.... (but if I do will I ever escape?)

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  45. Auntie Gladys is spot on as usual, 'there's nowt so queer as folk' as they say in these parts.
    We know a couple who didn't acknowledge our son for 5 years, one year I wrote them a Christmas card with his name underlined and in capital letters and they have sent one ever since with all three of us in, as my erudite husband said 'they are cocks !!' xx

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    1. Sometimes the massage HAS to be underlined!

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  46. And there are a lot of stupid people in this world.....poor things.

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  47. Funny - I was just telling someone last week that it's sad how someone you think of as a good friend can disappoint you sometimes; it's just so surprising and unsettling. But sometimes we just have to accept that we all have our faults and move on...

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  48. Ha! Give Aunt Glad a hug for me, would you? Tell her I sent it all the way from the States as thanks for her frankness and keen insight. (If that's too terribly American for her, how about a brief peck on the cheek? Then you can keep the hug for yourself.)

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    1. Ill oass on your best lol x

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  49. A former co-worker of mine had one of those light-up rocks on her desk. She also had a tall can of Pirouette cookies that I wanted to steal to use as a Boston brown bread mold. I ended up buying a can of the cookies. One just cannot walk up to a co-worker and say, "I've been eyeing your can for weeks and one of these days I'm going to grab it" without being fired.

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    1. Lol............straight to the tribunal with you !

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  50. Some people are just stupid, Auntie Glad is right. Of course, you could perhaps say quite innocently to those folk, 'Oh, you haven't seem my wedding ring, have you?' and flash it in their faces.

    Mine looked so shiny when it was first placed on my finger. Now it looks like part of my finger, which isn't surprising since I've been wearing that ring for eons.

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  51. Sounds like these people are in the minority so they will be feeling a bit left out too! Honeymooning in Oz? Hope you enjoy it, bring your budgie smugglers so you can hit the surf while you're here !

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    1. Lets hope that weightwatchers allows me to get the smugglers on......otherwise it will be condor smuggler

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  52. Aunt Gladys has the right idea ;)

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  53. Aunty Glad is OBVIOUSLY the Wise Woman of Trelawnyd. Don't let it prey on your mind.

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    1. Cro.....i havent.....i just wanted the people involved to know .....that ..I KNOW

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  54. Who knows what is going on in their lives? Always best to assume the best. In any case whatever they think is not important to your well being but what you think is. BTW I think that rock is a Himalayan salt lamp and I'd love one. It purifies the air and cleans your lungs and does all sorts of magic stuff. Will assist with clearing the air after any doggy accidents. The giver must know you well. :-)

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    1. Mrs trellis knows us very well

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  55. We need more Aunt Gladys' in this world.....a very accepting wise old gal.

    Be sure to clean all your shoes and boots before coming downunder to the Land of Oz - our Border Protection have a perculiar interest in people who have visited farms before allowing entry.

    And now you and Chris are in the 'lived happily ever after' phase of your relationship.....enjoy.

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    1. I'll buy some new shoes...or perhaps my filipino mate will give me sime more eh?

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  56. Hard to beat a good one-liner!

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  57. For a select few, better that they stay silent, then say something stupid or mean. We all love you and are so happy for you. Washington DC has thawed out, we are still searching for the sun.

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  58. Sod em... if they can't say something as civil as "congratulations" then really it's their loss. People never fail to disappoint (with some notable exceptions)! Mowing the lawn? Blimey it's still too wet for that here.

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    1. Craig .......i know it says more about their inflexibility ........its just slightly dissapointing!

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  59. I am a winter person at heart, but I do admit to loving the beauty of spring :)

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  60. I love Auntie Gladys! She is right, of course.

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