Heart on my sleeve


 I admit to this 
“ I can’t hold my own water”
I say what I think and damm the consequences 

It’s gotten me in trouble many times….recently once at work ! 

In the village I was once conscripting help for the flower show door to door and one resident ( transferred in to the pensioner bungalows from a nearby village) bad mouthed the management of the show to my face… I retaliated with a generic “well you are a wonderful bag of laughs”πŸ‘€πŸ‘€πŸ‘€πŸ‘€πŸ‘€
Which she countered by calling her grandson and his friend ( who were having supper) to the front door to deal with me 
I honesty thought my number was up , as it all resembled a scene from Deliverance, but I escaped a punch by laughing at the redneck situation ….
The resident moved back to her village soon after and I applauded the move 
She was a nasty cow.
Even her sister , who lived nearby hated her with a vengeance 

The Archers


The fire is keeping the cottage cosy. 
The Archers had Vince Casey waiting for a Spinal Injury unit bed 
In reality he would be going to the Shropshire Centre in Oswestry 
One of only 11. 
I worked in the second largest in Sheffield 
Vince broke down after having a bowel accident on tonight’s episode, (quite a difficult thing to act on the radio) but I applaud the sensitive way the situation was handled
Embarrassment and healthcare go hand in hand , and I should know 
Last week my flip/flow valve came adrift at work and in a second or two I effectively wet myself 
The support worker I was with at the time helped me sort everything out with good humour and a no nonsense approach perfect for such events. In minutes I was back on the ward ( albeit in a pair of loaned joggers) and half an hour later my uniform was clean and pressed and I was back to work quick sticks as if nothing had happened. 

My colleagues were stars that night
Matter o’fact, professional and sensitive 
And I thank them 
For their kindness 

 

Hey Boo

 
                            
 When 10 year old Mary Badham gently says “Hey Boo” she does it with all of the grace and wonder of a Meryl Streep. The line almost breaks your heart, and is my favourite scene in To Kill A Mockingbird.

I’ve got home after a unusual busy day shift and have gone straight to bed with Mary in tow 

Mockingbird is my company tonight

Hitchcock ? More Like The Vicar!

 

The Great British Bake Off  contestants are a boring lot. 
I streamed making a casserole tonight watched by a Spanish IT expert, the Polish actor and a wise cracking Irish city man who said I sounded like Julia Childs. 
All were surprised that I made it from scratch

I couldn’t bake being watched by tv cameras and Nigella Lawson I’d go to pieces
I remember swearing on my driving test
And I still passed! 

Around 3pm I had a lay down in the front garden to watch some clouds and 
Mrs Trellis stopped by the gate and asked me if I was sending her a Christmas card this year 
I answered in the affirmative 
and she looked slightly disappointed 
“ if you’d said no “ she explained “ I would have given to charity” 

I asked her to join me in cloud watching knowing full well that she’d refuse 

But She didn’t refuse 

But stood by the gate looking skywards as I laid back down 

“ do you see that cloud ?” I pointed out upwards “  It looks like Alfred Hitchcock “ 

She squinted like a Mole, her beret slipping to one side and she smiled gently

“ looks More like the ex vicar ! “ she said 

Tongue firmly in cheek, me thought…….

Welsh Terrier Time


Roger and I listening to The Archers tonight


 

PTSD

Even looking back through a childhood’s eyes, I can easily work out that my grandmother had PTSD from the war. Her stories, framed around semi heroic running through the streets as the bombs fell or lifting a horsehair sofa over my mother and uncle as the windows were blown in by an Ariel torpedo were the stuff of legend in our house. But there was a darker side to grandmother, masked by humour and love, and that was a pathological fear of thunderstorms. 

As soon as there was a rumble of thunder she would disappear into the airing cupboard of her bungalow, face buried into scented towels and sheets and pillowcases.
We grandchildren would shriek with laughter, and she would try to join in, but the fear was there, palpable and horrific.

 She never had any help with those fears expect the cathartic sharing of the tales themselves but even as a ten year old , I remember feeling proud as a button when she told me the story where she bravely reentered her bombed home , hand in hand with the ARP man, to collect, her children’s clothes and the cat! 

My grandfather was a volunteer fireman in Liverpool during the war. His stories were brief and sobering.and scared us as children. The dead left where they lay, entombed by the bombing. An Alsatian dog running through the streets with a terrified cat on its back. 
An old lady found dead with her arms around her grandchildren

He , like million of others just got on with things after the war
Strangely for both of them, wartime was the biggest part of their lives. 
It excited them as well as horrified them 

And there was my mother.
A teenage girl when she left Liverpool. A girl who worked in an ammunition factory and who was once shot at by the rear gunners of the bombers as they turned for home over Everton Church.
She lost her grandfather in the May Blitz but found a handsome Welsh  RAF navigator when they came to Wales. 
A new life that brought forward, four children, three grand children and four great grandchildren to date

Oh and this blog too……..

Family History for Katie

For Katie as requested

Well to start with the parrot was an African Grey and it died flying into a coal fire in Wales after the war as I remember being told


Rowena Price, one of the older residents of the Village confirmed a few years ago now that we were in fact related albeit by marriage! Now, I knew that my Great Grandmother Mary Jones was the only true Welsh member of our family. (She infact hailed from Twysog, which was a huge farm on the outskirts of Denbigh.) whereas my other Great grandparents hailed from Liverpool,Bristol,Ireland and Scotland!
Rowena was married to Tom Price who was a distant relation of Mary's, and reading her hand penned version of "our" family tree, that she forwarded on to me, brought back all of those stories that my Grandmother used to tell us as children.
Mary Jones married my Great Grandfather,James Fry in the late 1890s and they Lived in the city of Liverpool (which was then called the capital of Wales)

They had five children, Hughie,Alf,Lizzy, Louie and my grandfather Jim and all the family lived in close proximity to one another around the area of Everton which is just North of the City centre and overlooks the famous Liverpool docks. My Grandfather married my grandmother, who was also called Mary in 1924 and they had my mother Joan in 1925. The entire family remained in Liverpool until the war, and I was interested to see that Rowena's sketched family tree documented the most famous of our family stories, namely the family disaster of the May blitz of 1941.

The Louisa Street Bombing 1941

I always remember my Grandmother recalling the time she was running through the streets with my mother (who was around 16) and my Uncle Jim who was perhaps 12. The sirens had already sounded and the bombers where overhead as they debated where to run to. The options open to them, was a reinforced room in the local school or the family shelter located at my Great Grandparents (Jim and Mary's) home in Louisa Street, both of them within running distance, and as the bombs started to fall, my Grandmother had a premonition to run to the school.
The family shelter took a direct hit soon afterwards.My great Grandfather was killed instantly and Mary, with Lizzy and Louie were buried along with many others . Fortunately they survived but over 1450 people were killed in one of the worst raids of the war

My Grandmother, Mother and Uncle had already survived a previous bombing raid, when an unexploded parachute "torpedo" (middle photo) actually crashed through the next door house and lodged under their kitchen floor while the three of them were hiding under an upturned settee in the living room!. 
My grandmother almost lost her wits that night, and my Uncle was infamous in the family for walking to safety in a pair of high heeled ladies shoes and a chenille curtain. So the May blitz, was the last straw for them, and it provided the springboard for my Grandparents to move to the safety of Wales. The village where my family first settled was in fact Gwaenysgor, which is located just a mile away from where I am sat now!
It's a small, small world, isn't it?





Tea Leaves


 My gran used to read tea leaves 
I’d forgotten that fact , but watching Portrait Artist Of The Year last night where Welsh actress Joanna Scanlan  talked about her grandmother and tea leaf reading , my memories were triggered of leaf tea clumps in china cups of a 1970 pensioner bungalow with Space 1999 on the tv and beans on cheap white toast on the coffee table covered by gingham 
Of course she couldn’t read “ the leaves”
But she always told a good story .
I learnt at an early age , to watch her read the room 
And to use humour to observe it and run with it 
She played to an audience
So do I 
And we both are good at what we do.
To my knowledge she never really go anything right
But who cares ? 
Right?


My gran with my mother circa 1942
My mother was 17
One of their first photos in wales 
They left Liverpool after their home was destroyed 
The photo was taken in Gwaenysgor 
The sister village to Trelawnyd