I went to a lecture on transactional analysis today.
Invited by my personal counsellor, the old Irish therapist who was leading the proceedings .
The psychoanalytical theory concentrates on the study of social interactions as a way of understanding behaviours and its premise that people work in certain ego states has a resonance with me , even though I have been trained in a more human centred therapy approach.
I still feel the new boy in the counselling field so remained quiet but present in the discussion groups even though one was a long in-depth on looking at the characteristics of the critical parent ego state which left me feeling somewhat bruised but still interested
I noticed that as this junction my old counsellor walked around each group , checking in that all was well …..as she passed me she rested a hand on my shoulder and squeezed it once…..class
What a lovely way for her to check in with you without a word. Llynn
ReplyDeleteSubtle and needed
DeleteWish I had an old Irish therapist !
ReplyDeleteI’m glad I had
DeleteWhat an interesting subject and am glad it gave you a chance to reconnect with your remarkable Irish therapist and for her to have a quiet touch with you. Charming. You're special, John! Hug yourself!
ReplyDeleteHugs from afar!
It was nice to feel like a professional counsellor babs
DeleteOf course it felt good, John. You ARE a professional counselor!
DeleteHugs!
A useful resource. Frequently I would have to tell patients plainly, “ I am not your mother, use your adult voice.”
ReplyDeleteYes, I like when clients make the analogy themselves
DeleteTo melliegrace How rude. I the imaginary patient would have walked out lizzy d
DeleteAbsolutely essential, Anon, to give someone their right to make their decisions, with all the help and support I can give them.
DeleteShe was just letting you know she has faith in you. Sometimes a small gesture says it all. No words needed. Class indeed. xx
ReplyDeleteShe has taught me a great deal "Speak softly and carry a big stick
DeleteI’m at Docks ……with a friend this time ….and very drunk already ….so I have nothing else to say
ReplyDeleteLove ya
Lee
lol , for those that don’t know , Docks is my favourite eating place in New York , it’s just off 42nd street …Lee knows it well as you can see
Deletelol enjoy Lee.i could do with a dirty martini
lol hic ….hic x
DeleteSee lol 😄
DeleteI know she must have deep affection for you, John.
ReplyDeleteAnd here was me thinking that a councillor was simply someone who was a good listener! Does your 'training' ever stop?
ReplyDeleteOh My! I looked up “critical parent ego state “ and did the glove ever fit!! I think they could add to the definition “consistently found among Roman Catholics” …
ReplyDeleteHaving been to therapy myself, I find this interesting.
ReplyDeleteIt’s nice to know your angel is still watching over you.
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A nice and heartfelt connection that makes you feel respected and known.
ReplyDeleteYou've been trained in a human centred therapy approach? If your interaction with the lady in the supermarket was anything to go by you didn't learn anything. A reminder - you called her Racist Scum.
ReplyDeleteYou have no power or relevance
DeleteBut surely - being a qualified counsellor and therapist more than qualifies John to be able to define and call out a racist scum with authority? So where's the problem? Do tell.
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DeleteWow. How wonderful John. Such a small gesture that reached out with so much warmth and understanding to you. Something to keep in your back pocket and remind yourself of. I have this image in my mind of what she looks like which is probably totally way of! Jean in Winnipeg.
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