Well, you all know me, always something organised, always someone to see,
Always something to do .
Since Friday I’ve done absolutely nothing
I feel full of virus .
Tired, weary a little unwell.
I’ve not even felt like cinema though I did watch Pans Labyrinth last night wrapped in a throw and two blankets.
It’s cold and it’s feels like winters did back in the day
Paralysing
I’ve just walked the dogs to the lane end. It was dusk and I’m sure I saw a large dark animal running in the field borders
The Welsh noticed nothing
I’ve only spoken to the German once
No one else has called
If I die when would they find the body?
It’s crossed my mind
Somebody cut Jack and I off in traffic yesterday and I had to slam on my brakes hard. About five minutes later, when we arrived at the pool, Jack got out of the car and was crying because he said, what if you die. And what if your phone dies. How will I call 911? A conversation ensued.
ReplyDeleteI have a friend who almost died last summer, due to pneumonia and Multiple Myeloma, I check on her daily now to make sure she's not sick, or dead:) I also have her house key now.
My neighbor is 79 and her car didn't move for two days so I called her but she didn't pick up. I did see her and asked her if she was ok. Her back was sore so she couldn't get to the phone on time and I didn't leave a message (because nobody listens to messages anymore). I keep on eye on her. I have asked for a key but she said her son would be upset. This lady still works and lives with alcoholic son who works two weeks on and one week off, out of town. She needs to get out of her son's house but she swore she'd never move again after she got divorced. Her husband was abusive, mentally ill, and threatened to kill her.
I've gone on too long, sorry. My point is, find someone who will check on you daily.
Pixie, you are the definition of a good neighbor! Thank you for being so caring and kind. We all need to look out for each other.❤️sending a giant hug! Carol in Atlanta
DeleteSorry you're feeling crap. I hope it passes soon.
ReplyDeleteAs Pixie says, I'm sure there's someone (or a couple of someones) who will be happy to check on you daily. A reciprocal arrangement, you'll be checking on them, too.
Get well soon. xx
Do you mean which pet would be the fattest? What a gruesome thought!
ReplyDeleteI hope you feel a lot better soon.
During Covid, when even the daily dogwalkers couldn't come, I began a check in w a friend, daily by 10 AM. Just a text, ''checking in''---no conversation or effort except to notice the absence if I do not text. I also leave extra bowls of water for my dog in case I die and he is left without care for some days.Choose someone stable in your life, maybe your sister? It is reassuring to have that contact, a I found out now hhhhaving the surrent ''super flu'', still quite ill since before Christmas.
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DeleteThe flu is circulating.
ReplyDeleteMy neighbor went to a dance recital in a school auditorium and both she and her husband are sick with the flu.
Take care John. Chicken soup might be very helpful.
I'm a widow and live alone at "almost" 79 ( in June.) When I was at a visit with a nurse practitioner she suggested I get a medical alert button. My mother had one and it did come in handy when she experienced some dizziness. She was able to talk with someone immediately and they contacted me. (If the person isn't able to talk they will send emergency services.)
ReplyDeleteThe nurse said people don't think they need one---until they do. So I have one now that's a small pocket size all-in-one unit that I carry with me everywhere. I test it every once in a while and there's always a person responding within a minute. It makes me feel a little more comfortable about living alone.
Young Andrew in Melbourne has a very sensible arrangement with his neighbour. The daily "are you still alive?" telephone call. A brilliant idea.
ReplyDeleteMy girls require that I text them every morning, just hi I am up. If I forget, one of them will call me. I have started texting them if I go out and again when I get home. We all feel good doing this. Hope you feel better soon. Gigi
ReplyDeleteOne of my neighbours in France once said that if I should die miles from anywhere in the woods (whilst looking for mushrooms) that they would eventually identify me because of my distinctive silver ring. That makes me happy!
ReplyDeleteMy dermatologist and I have a running joke about a large benign mole on my hip. We agree it would be a good way to "identify the body." Last visit he added that if someone came to see him and claimed to be me, he could refute it because the mole would be missing. lol
DeleteHa ha!
DeleteMy mother had a longstanding arrangement with a friend where they would text each other every morning: "OK." That's all they said. But my mother was much more reclusive than you are, John -- as woven into village life in Trelawnyd as you are, I am certain someone would come to your aid long before you died of anything!
ReplyDeleteThat's a nice comment, Steve. It is true. I imagine Mrs Trellis would notice. She is very attentive. WE would notice the lack of blog posts. Never fear, John!
DeleteSo sorry that you're feeling bad and need to wrap up due perhaps to fever. Do you have a digital thermometer?
ReplyDeleteDrink plenty of water and have nourishing soup with toast or crackers.
Do you need to call in to give the hospice staff a head's up?
Yes, it's good to have daily phone connection with someone who is reliable so you're found before decomp sets in and Mary, Roger, Weaver, and Bun (or future pet names) are rescued.
We really liked the older movie "Labyrinth".
Hugs!
Hugs!
Of course that is a natural concern and others here have made great suggestions. I did smile though when I wondered how many of us would be up in arms if you didn't post for a few days running. I'm pretty sure that your local police would be doing a wellness check from one or more of us. If nothing else, that should spur you on with staying in touch with this little online village. XO
ReplyDeleteI trade text messages with two bloggers, and my sister every morning. One gets my daily Wordle outcome, one sends my photos, and my sister and I just send silly memes to one another. If one of us falls off our perch, I would hope that others would follow up.
ReplyDeleteIt's not a question of "WHEN" they find your body, John. Same difference. You won't know one way or the other. Because you'll be dead. Hope that observation was helpful :(
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Ps As your German would say: Gute Besserung. Loosely translated: Get well soon. The man with the scythe is on all our heels the minute we are conceived. Enjoy life whilst it lasts. Worry just spoils the now, the moment.
What a depressing comment.
DeleteSorry you aren’t feeling well. Get lots of rest, and hope you recover soon. Cali
ReplyDeleteHope you feel better soon.
ReplyDeleteJohn, I’m sorry you feel so bad. It does sound like the flu, but I hope not. Take care of yourself and sleep as much as you can.
ReplyDeleteSending love and hugs to heal you, ❤️❤️
Carol in Atlanta
I hope you feel better soon John. Sending many good wishes. On the subject of being alone and someone checking on you….before cell phones I had been to my dentist a 2 bus journey. At the bus stop I thought I heard a sound, convinced myself I hadn’t, then in the sudden quiet of a gap in traffic I heard a faint sound again. After some searching - I was scared what I would find- I finally located an elderly lady in her thin nightdress lying on the ground out of sight behind her back steps. She had fallen, was unable to get up and was bleeding from her head. Turned out she was actually not alone-her teen granddaughter was in the house bundled up under a thick quilt and was astounded to have a stranger (me) asking where a phone was to get help. Jean in Winnipeg.
ReplyDeleteSorry you are feeling ill.maybe winter blues plus lurgie. Your body? At the theatre , iin Spain , at a lovely restaurant, at choir , ….or many more of your favorite activities. You have many to choose from im about 20 or so years. Always wea4 clean undies whe; leaving home !
ReplyDeleteSome very practical advice as an answer to that question: Subscribe to the New York Times.
ReplyDeleteMy mother subscribed. Her next door neighbor arrived home late one night to see it still sitting at her door. He let himself in and found her.
That same week, my cousin called and told me her uncle’s next-door neighbor saw his NY Times on the door matt late in the day. He called the police and they found her uncle. She said she was renewing her subscription immediately.
My aunt and her across the street neighbor kept track of one another. If one of them did not open their living room blinds or curtains by 9 a.m. they would call and check or go knock on the front door. They were neighbors for 70 years.
ReplyDeleteThat depressed feeling often comes as a symptom of flu. My son and I exchange texts early each day, just to check.
ReplyDeleteThese are exactly the depressing thoughts a caring overthinker gets when feeling poorly (and sorry for themselves, just a bit) Truth is, you are such a village stalwart, especially as a helper of others, and an owner/walker of animals, your absence would probably be noticed within the hour. Deep breaths and positive thoughts, our normally little ray of sunshine!
ReplyDeleteI wonder the same. Alone and no family. Maybe my mailman would wonder after a few days of not getting mail in and car still in driveway. But if a sub on, there goes that theory. Feel better and go to urgent care to get checked. A lot out there and dangerous for us that are getting older. Karen
ReplyDeleteThey will find Weaver circling your body, wondering if she finally went too far.
ReplyDeleteWith a rictus grin
DeleteI was thinking the same thing. LOL
DeleteI also wonder same. Having lost my husband one year ago and my brother (only 30 minutes distance away) is not a *warm fuzzy* or concerned- my 8 households here on the property where I live for 25 years *are* my family. If not daily, at least every other day is check in time for all of us. that is of comfort to me. I do hope YOU feel better very quickly!!!!
ReplyDeleteSusan M/ Calif.
I live alone and had that grim thought too. I thought my poor dog! So my sons and I send a text to each other each day. My friend does that with her friend. Just a note to say I'm alive!
ReplyDeleteI'm sure Weaver would make short work of you when sufficiently hungry!! I hope you don't have the virus I've had this past month - Adenovirus I think it is/was. Had to have anti-biotics and steroids to clear up the sinus and chest infection . . .
ReplyDeleteI quite like the idea of going for a walk in the snow, expiring, melting into the ground feeding the surrounding trees. I would become a bog lady, my skeleton to be found centuries later, someone would take my sparkling white skull and display it in their curiosity cabinet with pride and my free, visiting, spirit would stare out through the empty eye sockets, as I would be a ghost and haunt them !!! ha haar. Betty
ReplyDeleteI hope you are feeling a bit better John. These winter virus attacks make our spirits so low as well as the physical symptoms. Maybe you could let your family know when you are feeling unwell so they could stay in touch with a short text just while you are ill?
ReplyDeleteI wonder about the dark shape in the dark fields. Interesting that the dogs did not seem to notice. A mystery.
Man flu?
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DeleteSome good suggestions from readers.
ReplyDeleteEvery morning and evening I exchange a text with a family member, just a smiley face and I get one in return. Connection made saying all is well. Your sister perhaps?
I hope you feel better John. Carole R.
ReplyDeleteYou say nobody has called except the German. Why haven't you called someone yourself? Pick up the phone and ask How are you. A relative, friend or neighbour. You've then had a conversation and the other person knows you care. Problem solved instead of moping around feeling sorry for yourself thinking nobody loves you.
ReplyDeleteOne day the mailman saw through the window in the door, my mother lying in the hall. He called for help and she had been there for two days unable to get up. She was alright. Gigi
ReplyDeleteNever mind all that John. I have just been reading about tonight's FA Cup tie between Liverpool and Barnsley. A lad will be playing for Barnsley called Vimal Yoganathan. The report said that he grew up in Trelawnyd! More fame for your community which of course is mostly well-known for being the home of Mrs Trellis.
ReplyDeletePoor henpecked Stew.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry you are feeling like this. January is so difficult isn't it? All the build up to Christmas and then suddenly it is all over. And if you are ill it's even worse. It takes a lot of energy just to get up in the morning, see to your animals etc. Every year I say I won't let it get to me, every year it does. I keep a diary so I can look back and see me writing the same things every year. It will get better, the weather will improve, you will feel better. Hang on-we all love you x
ReplyDeleteI encourage friends/neighbors to check the chest freezer in case I fall in when head down, ass up! This, too, shall pass, John. Happy New Year.
ReplyDeleteDon't worry John you will be found, possibly even before Weaver has eaten most of your extremities. ;-)
ReplyDeleteSeriously though, I hope you are soon feeling better, I have felt rough since before Christmas, it's not good is it.
Perhaps this is the job of the Welsh Terriers? Whenever you feel lower than a snake's belly, you will take them out - even for a short walk - because you will not see them suffer. As you do this, your neighbors see you and the dogs. The day that the terriers do not get their walk is the day that your neighbors know to check up on you.
ReplyDeleteAs they say, if you really want to know what is going on in the neighborhood, talk to the people with dogs.
Will Jay
Hoping you are feeling better, John. Not ever a good idea to "blow it off" when somebody does not feel well.
ReplyDeleteSometime ago a blogger posted one night that she was not feeling well. Her last post said, she would get back to us tomorrow, but "don't hold your breath". She died that night.
Again, may you feel improved today, John.
When I read your headline/question a picture popped into my head of you sitting on a bench facing the ocean with a half-eaten scotch egg in your hand, your eyes closed with a peaceful expression on your face. Your two dogs were at your feet, waiting patiently in hopes of a bite of the scotch egg...seriously, though, sounds like SAD. Perhaps one of those "special" lamps?
ReplyDeleteMany years ago I was friends with an elderly neighbour. We arranged that he would simply put a card in his window every morning with the day if the week in it. Before mobile phones of course 😊
ReplyDeleteHope you're cozy with the critters and sharing some warm and delicious food.
ReplyDeleteCold here, but no snow.
Hugs!
Hope you feel better soon. Lots of these bugs around, and I totally get your comments about living alone. Same here. Hugs. Jxx
ReplyDeleteMissing your daily posts, John. Hope you're starting to feel better and Weaver isn't circling, eyeing up her next meal! xx
ReplyDeleteHope you are feeling a bit better soon!
ReplyDeleteDear John, could you please post “OK” so we all know that you are? Llynn
ReplyDeleteFor goodnes sake John said he wasn't up to par, can't you give him at least a few days to get better without pushing him for a blog post?
DeleteWe care. We worry. We nag Lizzy d
DeleteExactly, Lizzie. Thank you. Lynn
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DeleteSounds like you have that flu-related depression. It tends to sneak up on one...
ReplyDeleteOf course your village friends keep tabs on you, never fear. But if you're extra concerned, those medical alert things are great. (And here in my Oregon town, our local fire department also offers installation of lock boxes that first responders can use to gain access to a home in case of any emergency).
I have a colleague at work who lives alone, I do think about what will happen to him once we all retire.
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