We made our wills years ago and our LPA's last year. After dealing with both sets of parents' deteriorating health and deaths over the past several years, we know how important both are. Good for you getting sorted. Boring, but necessary! xx
You'll feel so much better and more organised when those jobs are all ticked off. Discipline is a good word for the New Year. We will need to redo our wills next year once we close our company down, they are very complicated at the moment for our Executors and will be so much easier then.
New year, new start. All sensible stuff. It may sound boring and daunting, but a huge weight off your mind and your shoulders as soon as all sorted. Abracadabra!
Very important to have a will and a power of attorney. Get that done first. You will get at the rest later. I told my youngest daughter to get her will done or I will change mine! When her husband thought he was dying and she found out he had no will, she got on that real quick. He survived but she has a lot to lose if she doesn’t do a will, lol Enjoy your holidays John. Gigi. I know, yes Mom!
Good for you! Just remember chaos is found in greatest abundance wherever order is being sought. It always defeats order, because it is better organized. ho ho ho
Well done to have these necessary things taken care of. Hope it's eay and quick to do so you have time to sleep in, to play, and cook magnificent meals while l listening to pleasing music. Perhaps to make that trip to Sheffield, too, weather permitting.
A relative who is a family law attorney -- and sees herself the person who'll be expected to cope with the pesky details of a death -- makes an annual tour of the seniors to ensure their affairs are in order. Along with the usual essential documents, she now requires a list of passwords and secret squirrel questions and answers to all bank accounts. She also wants an envelope addressed to her containing wishes for funeral arrangements (prepaid is best) and a list of who gets which knick-knack.
Ah wills, now here is a conundrum for you John. Asking for a friend ya'know. The daughter is recently divorced from a conniving narcissistic monster! Not to mince words here. Anyway, there are 2 teenage children of the marriage, still enthralled by daddies web of lies, empty promises and allowing all sorts of riotous behaviour by said kids. What do the grandparents do by way of leaving assets for the kids but trying to ensure that ex son-in-law does NOT get his grubby mitts on any any of the dosh or benefit in any way from the demise of the ex in laws? Give it all to the cats home l wonder? Thoughts appreciated! Tess
I'd say leave it all directly to your daughter and let her decide when it is time to make her own will. Teenagers can't be blamed if a narcissist has conditioned them, especially if it is someone like a dad who they are born to trust. As their thinking matures they will likely see him for what he is and come back to your daughter. If not, well, if you've died, who to leave the money too after that will be her problem. Maybe can be a cats home then! Tina in west oz.
That's not so much a question for John as a legal issue. But I agree with Tina that their job is to emotionally support their daughter and to love their grands.
Thank you for your imput collectively I know the legalities need an expert but l thought l would like to hear what John thought of the ' moral maze ' that families and money entail in this situation. Thank you for your good advice people. Tess
Good on you, you’ll feel so much better for getting on with things . I feel it’s calming and therapeutic when you’ve made some progress., I’m sure you can fit in a few little treats as well . Have a good week xx
Willy in order yesterday, it seems, will today, willpower (for the pounds you bemoaned) next? Willy, Will and Willpower are a powerful threesome. Andrew
I went to my doctor appointment this morning and when I arrived found out she had moved so missed it. Then I went to Wendy’s for a burger and they too had gone. So went home and called doctor and she told me to come in this afternoon, it is now just around the corner from my house, 1 minute in car. She wants me to go for blood tests, so I asked her where to go. Apparently they too have moved and it is now two blocks away from me. So what started out as a shit day, turned out fantastically well. Everything was close before but now everything is even closer. I haven’t been so wound up in years as I was this morning. I almost cried and not for my late husband this time. Gigi
Lordy! We did our wills about 3 years ago... omg what a conundrum. Easy for and on me very hard on my partner who has no children; but now will be beholden to them (my children) should I pop off sooner than he. One hopes my children are not conniving when I go otherwise he could end up with nothing. If he goes first it will all be ok! For me! Sad but true.
My goodness, no wonder you have gone anonymous for this post! Who do you think you are to make and then voice such assumptions and such personal judgements, when even John's own family who know him best would not do so? Can you not put yourself in someone else's position and even begin to comprehend how hurtful and even spiteful your comments read? Nor recognise how much these comments actually say about you - not John? My grandma used to say that if you can't think of something nice to say, don't say anything at all. Still holds true. Please, for your own sake, take note.
Hope you are successful in completing your list. I find that there are always a few items on my list which I find much more difficult than the rest. For me "balance" is my goal this year and I hope I can achieve even a little of that in my life.
I've been at my Hubs for us to do the wills, trust, etc., for years and this year, it's no longer a request. I will simply make the appointment with the lawyer and let him know when it is. Is it a scary thing for men to get that done? I love a good list, and the scratching off of an item is so satisfying. I choose a word for the new year, too, and last last year's was "soften," this year is "connection."
We made our wills years ago and our LPA's last year. After dealing with both sets of parents' deteriorating health and deaths over the past several years, we know how important both are. Good for you getting sorted. Boring, but necessary! xx
ReplyDeleteGood for you, John.
ReplyDeleteYou'll feel so much better and more organised when those jobs are all ticked off. Discipline is a good word for the New Year.
ReplyDeleteWe will need to redo our wills next year once we close our company down, they are very complicated at the moment for our Executors and will be so much easier then.
New year, new start. All sensible stuff. It may sound boring and daunting, but a huge weight off your mind and your shoulders as soon as all sorted. Abracadabra!
ReplyDeleteGood order keeps everything simple. Why create complexity when there is no need? You've done well.
ReplyDeleteVery important to have a will and a power of attorney. Get that done first. You will get at the rest later. I told my youngest daughter to get her will done or I will change mine! When her husband thought he was dying and she found out he had no will, she got on that real quick. He survived but she has a lot to lose if she doesn’t do a will, lol Enjoy your holidays John. Gigi. I know, yes Mom!
ReplyDeleteExcellent idea! Getting all that stuff off your mind will make you much happier - amazing how true that is!
ReplyDelete'A change is as good as a rest' as the old cliche has it.
ReplyDeleteGood for you! Just remember chaos is found in greatest abundance wherever order is being sought. It always defeats order, because it is better organized. ho ho ho
ReplyDeletegood plan, i always feel more settled when i'm up to date with everything x
ReplyDeleteThere is always things that we can look at and make better.
ReplyDeleteI would love to be organised but no matter how hard I try disorder reigns x
ReplyDeleteWell done to have these necessary things taken care of. Hope it's eay and quick to do so you have time to sleep in, to play, and cook magnificent meals while l listening to pleasing music. Perhaps to make that trip to Sheffield, too, weather permitting.
ReplyDeleteHugs!
We've made the same resolution re. wills. We're working on ours now. I have a feeling it's going to be more complicated than I think.
ReplyDeleteA relative who is a family law attorney -- and sees herself the person who'll be expected to cope with the pesky details of a death -- makes an annual tour of the seniors to ensure their affairs are in order. Along with the usual essential documents, she now requires a list of passwords and secret squirrel questions and answers to all bank accounts. She also wants an envelope addressed to her containing wishes for funeral arrangements (prepaid is best) and a list of who gets which knick-knack.
ReplyDeleteThat was me, Beth Waltz, commenting. Can't think why the Google Account didn't register.
ReplyDeleteAh wills, now here is a conundrum for you John.
ReplyDeleteAsking for a friend ya'know.
The daughter is recently divorced from a conniving narcissistic monster! Not to mince words here.
Anyway, there are 2 teenage children of the marriage, still enthralled by daddies web of lies, empty promises and allowing all sorts of riotous behaviour by said kids.
What do the grandparents do by way of leaving assets for the kids but trying to ensure that ex son-in-law does NOT get his grubby mitts on any any of the dosh or benefit in any way from the demise of the ex in laws?
Give it all to the cats home l wonder?
Thoughts appreciated!
Tess
If I could stick my two pennyworth in, I'd consult a lawyer. One who specialises in family law. xx
DeleteYep, lawyer: trusts and estate planning would be the speciality here in the US.
DeleteCeci
I'd say leave it all directly to your daughter and let her decide when it is time to make her own will. Teenagers can't be blamed if a narcissist has conditioned them, especially if it is someone like a dad who they are born to trust. As their thinking matures they will likely see him for what he is and come back to your daughter. If not, well, if you've died, who to leave the money too after that will be her problem. Maybe can be a cats home then! Tina in west oz.
DeleteThat's not so much a question for John as a legal issue. But I agree with Tina that their job is to emotionally support their daughter and to love their grands.
DeleteThank you for your imput collectively
DeleteI know the legalities need an expert but l thought l would like to hear what John thought of the ' moral maze ' that families and money entail in this situation.
Thank you for your good advice people.
Tess
Good on you, you’ll feel so much better for getting on with things . I feel it’s calming and therapeutic when you’ve made some progress., I’m sure you can fit in a few little treats as well . Have a good week xx
ReplyDeleteOrder is okay but chaos has its attractions too.
ReplyDeleteWilly in order yesterday, it seems, will today, willpower (for the pounds you bemoaned) next? Willy, Will and Willpower are a powerful threesome. Andrew
ReplyDeleteI went to my doctor appointment this morning and when I arrived found out she had moved so missed it. Then I went to Wendy’s for a burger and they too had gone. So went home and called doctor and she told me to come in this afternoon, it is now just around the corner from my house, 1 minute in car. She wants me to go for blood tests, so I asked her where to go. Apparently they too have moved and it is now two blocks away from me. So what started out as a shit day, turned out fantastically well. Everything was close before but now everything is even closer. I haven’t been so wound up in years as I was this morning. I almost cried and not for my late husband this time. Gigi
ReplyDeleteThere is something soul satisfying to ticking boxes, isn't there?
ReplyDeleteThat's a lovely photo. Don't put too much on yourself.
ReplyDeleteLordy! We did our wills about 3 years ago... omg what a conundrum. Easy for and on me very hard on my partner who has no children; but now will be beholden to them (my children) should I pop off sooner than he. One hopes my children are not conniving when I go otherwise he could end up with nothing. If he goes first it will all be ok! For me! Sad but true.
ReplyDeleteJo in Auckland
It’s 8:35 pm in San Francisco. Hoping you are fast asleep.
ReplyDeleteIt’s 8:35 pm in San Francisco. Hoping you are fast asleep.
ReplyDeleteAbandon 'discipline', adopt 'throw caution to the winds'. Much more fun.
ReplyDeleteMy goodness, no wonder you have gone anonymous for this post! Who do you think you are to make and then voice such assumptions and such personal judgements, when even John's own family who know him best would not do so? Can you not put yourself in someone else's position and even begin to comprehend how hurtful and even spiteful your comments read? Nor recognise how much these comments actually say about you - not John? My grandma used to say that if you can't think of something nice to say, don't say anything at all. Still holds true. Please, for your own sake, take note.
DeleteCalm down dear John is big enough to defend himself or heaven forbid delete the post!
DeleteHope you are successful in completing your list. I find that there are always a few items on my list which I find much more difficult than the rest. For me "balance" is my goal this year and I hope I can achieve even a little of that in my life.
ReplyDeleteI like the photo.
Good plan! I love your MR Fox tin x
ReplyDeleteI've been at my Hubs for us to do the wills, trust, etc., for years and this year, it's no longer a request. I will simply make the appointment with the lawyer and let him know when it is. Is it a scary thing for men to get that done? I love a good list, and the scratching off of an item is so satisfying. I choose a word for the new year, too, and last last year's was "soften," this year is "connection."
ReplyDeleteRest well, then set the world right.
ReplyDeleteThe word du jour? Every day? I’m already exhausted.
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