I had a mini melt down this afternoon
A phone call gone awry
What I needed was the comic actress Mel Giedroyc to be there standing in the living room in a lurid pink jacket
Does anyone remember her comparing " The Great British Bake off" a few years ago..?
It was the one where the pouting Ruby lost it over her complicated bake in the semi finals
Ruby was getting all flouncy and bad tempered when Mel went all Women's Institute on her.
The younger woman needed a firm hand as she was being all snappy so the ever pragmatic Mel turned on the sulky young woman with a sharp
" Ruby ...get a grip ok?...get a RUDDY grip!!!!"
Class
I do remember that episode. And thought that Ruby deserved that and more.
ReplyDeleteAnd hope that you have now got a ruddy grip.
I have indeed thanks to Tom Stephenson
DeleteGood. Thank you Tom.
DeleteTime will tell.
DeleteOnly a mini one?! You are permitted to have as many as you feel you need, John, considering what you are going through. Get them out of your system.
ReplyDeleteYes...I LOVE Mel too. No nonsense with her!!
If it's occasionally that someone loses it I think it can help.Long as most of the time they can be calm.If things have become too unbearable for me to deal with I can sense my dad and his support & I'm OK again x
ReplyDeleteA phone call gone awry? What on earth does that mean?
ReplyDeleteThink about it
Deletefuck him.
ReplyDeleteYou are allowed the occasional meltdown, especially now. I've been watching reruns of the Bake Off and I saw that episode just last week. Love it!
ReplyDeletei'm sorry but i'm taking sides.
ReplyDeleteYup...me too. X
DeleteYou seem so easy going, it's difficult to imagine you in a melt down. Do you throw things or just curse or what?
ReplyDeleteI cry for 30 seconds x
DeleteAhhhhhh. Consider yourself hugged.
DeleteYep I cry for about half a minute too. Then it's chin up, shoulders back, march on.
Delete(Going through some god awful times here)
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I was so angry once that I threw quite a lot of stuff from the fridge and a few eggs on top-thought it would help-it didn't.I calmly tidied up again.I now find an unladylike good spit into a sink helps x
ReplyDeleteOh darling, it’s okay! Can I say that? Your life right now is belly up. Saturday, I had a meltdown in the car and took it way far. I ended up on the phone with my therapist till I calmed down. Thirty minutes later I was buying fresh produce at the Amish farm. 🤪 Gabs , hugs
ReplyDeleteEveryone's entitled to a meltdown now and then. I love Melansue. (As a double act and separately.) Did you see Mel in Taskmaster a few seasons ago? She was delightful. I have Ruby's book "Eat up" in front of me now, it's rather good.
ReplyDeleteMakes my tummy flip flop . . .
ReplyDeleteThose times are the pits!
Melt down appropriate . . .
I am taking sides too . . ,
Hugs!
ReplyDeleteWe love Mel and Sue and are still miffed the BBC tanked TGBBO as it was when they and Mary Berry were there. Sigh. I well remember the Ruby episode but we (skipping a few seasons ahead) have Nadiya's cookbook in our kitchen.
Melt down prn (as needed medically speaking), then think of Mel.
Oh, and I saw the Trelawnyd Male Chorus on Cro's blog, looked up more of their wonderful music on youtube and, for that reason and more, hope you can stay in Trelawnyd. The soaring music will heal any heartbreak.
More hugs!
At the moment I am trying to organise the most incompetent couple who are leaving Barbados for their holiday home in France. I won't go into details, but you don't know what 'MELTDOWN' is like unless you've seen my rages over the past week or so! It's amazing that such people exist!
ReplyDeleteIs a meltdown angry or upset/ hurt? Crying or yelling? If someone told me to get a ruddy grip, I think I d punch her. Or him.
ReplyDeletelizzy
Think mental pressure cooker. Eventually you have to release the lid to let the steam escape otherwise you risk the danger of an explosion resulting in a meltdown.
DeleteI'm sorry you're going through this crap. Too soon to talk of 'somewhere over the rainbow' but you will get there. Xxxx
ReplyDeleteMelt downs are to be expected especially after phone calls, I've seen it with a close friend many times. You have my support dear friend.
ReplyDeleteA good rant helps, I've ranted about work in the past and two friends going through nasty divorces have ranted to me. It helps but you have to have someone you can rant to who will listen.... Winnie looks like she's a good listener with unconditional love xx
I'm glad you only cry for 30 seconds - any longer and it's bunged up nose and puffy eye time.
ReplyDeleteAll the people who say "it's OK to have a good cry" are wrong!
Sadness is the price we pay for love isn’t it. But gosh it hurts. What an amazing team you and Col were in every way.
DeleteI wish I could just cry for 30 seconds, I sob for 10 minutes and end up as Sue says with puffy eyes ... and they turn bright green which is alarming ðŸ˜
DeleteMy usual release is to break things ... which helps greatly with my ongoing decluttering 😃😆🙃
I rarely cry, I just end up with migraine for 3 days if I do. It's just not worth it! So I come across as a really hard hearted bitch, but hey ho such is life.
DeleteI only have meltdowns if I'm forced to deal with idiots who refuse to be reasonable.
ReplyDeleteI know it's difficult, but in future, try taking deep breaths, and hold the moral high ground.
Remember that you've done nothing wrong John, and you deserved much better than this crap!
I'm taking sides, it takes a special kind of stupidity to walk away from a caring, loving, gentle man such as you!
Don't give 'anyone' the satisfaction of knowing they've wound you up, they're not worth it!
My thing is to go into a room where no one can see me, and give an angry V. I'm so well mannered, people would be shocked, but it really does help. Everyone needs to vent sometimes.
ReplyDeleteI sometimes need a Mel Giedroyc, but when I'm in the middle of it, she'd be of no help. I'd probably yell at her, too. Glad you got a grip.
ReplyDeleteMy meltdowns begin very slowly and last a long time. The current one began 67 years ago.
ReplyDeleteWhat's your life expectancy? And will you be molten by the end?
DeleteReading these posts brings me to the question. What is wrong with a bloody good howl? And why do we shrink from it when other nationalities find it perfectly reasonable, respectful even? And embrace the howler.
ReplyDeleteUs folks of English stock might be not Gods chosen people, but frozen people.
Have you received my e card ? Sent Tuesday x
ReplyDeleteThank you yes. I've been incredibly lucky . 16 cards this week including yours thank you x
DeleteDad was the authority in the home and we kids were scared of him - Mum is kind and gentle and hardly ever raised her voice, so it was shocking to us kids when one day out of the blue something was said and she launched a cup full of tea and a saucer against the kitchen wall! There was dead silence and all parties walked away. :) She's 86 now and we've often had a little laugh at it as she never did anything like that again.
ReplyDeleteI do remember and love the series. It isn't the same without her and Sue. I have had my moments but they last for at least 10 minutes of blubbing before I can pull myself together. I wouldn't say I feel better after this but at least I feel it is better out. xxx
ReplyDeletevery nice
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