Wednesday, 14 September 2016

The Worst Emotion And Trendy Carol's fashion faux Pas


I got home around 2 am this morning only to find my reading glasses destroyed on the living room floor.
Mary had struck again .
I was irritated and somewhat annoyed but an eager face and a cold nose warmed me up enough to allow a cuddle up after I had done the creeping " limbo" like dance , in order to sneak into bed without waking a slumbering Professor who was sleeping a happy Professor sleep.
Animals, even when they are naughty, can irritate you terribly..but they never disappoint you like people can .

Disappointment, I thought minutes after moving William's slightly shitty smelling bum from my pillow, is definitely and exclusively a human based emotion.
Disappointing someone is the pits.
Being disappointed by someone is somehow worse.
There are elements of hurt and shame wrapped up in disappointment .
It's such a sad emotion.

I've only been thinking of this after reading the twitter furore post The Great British Bake Off   Sell off. Twitterers seem to be overwhelmingly disappointed in the show and it's fall from grace, it's almost as if they had  caught their best friend stealing from them, so strong is the feeling.

How many times have we heard the phrases " You fucking well piss me off" " stop it, you've really upset me!" Or my very favourite " you are getting on my tits!" 

But I think we all would detest a loved one 's comment of " You've really disappointed me" so much more.
Disappointment is all wrapped up with shame and true hurt
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Oh and talking of tits, just spied Trendy carol thundering through the village with her two terriers.
She was wearing grey trousers, up to date laceless sneakers and a very floaty grey blouse, cut low and very loose fitting..
Her dogs were bouncing her around somewhat
So much so, that I had to shout over a small call of advice
" Carol! Your babs are hanging out!"
She disappeared quicky to get changed!
Hey ho


59 comments:

  1. Happened here too, not only with the glases

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  2. It's a funny thing since I hardly ever watch Bake Off, but I also feel vaguely disappointed in the sell-out. It smacks of ingratitude to me.

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  3. It's a funny thing since I hardly ever watch Bake Off, but I also feel vaguely disappointed in the sell-out. It smacks of ingratitude to me.

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    1. Me too....llthe show feels wholesome not it just feels like a money machine

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  4. Are you disappointed that Mel and Sue are leaving John? I don't think it will be the same without them.

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    1. Moving the show, the presenters off...yes, i am disapointed but mel and sue did the right thing, i hope mary follows .......last bake off series i watch.

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    2. I have only watched one season of Bake Off but liked it very much. I want to see more shows.
      Strangely I disliked Mel and Sue the most. Their endless pitter patter sounded so forced at times. Plus they always seemed to interrupt the bakers at the worst times. Only 5 seconds to finish.... "can you tell me what you think your are making ?" I am sure they are very popular. But I just didn't understand them at all.
      That said, their leaving to me is the right thing. The overly tan George Hamilton want to be (without the tongue in cheek humor) should leave next.
      But I don't understand who owns the show ? the creators or the network who shows it.

      cheers, parsnip

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  5. I'm not on Twitter and I don't know "Bake off" (although we have shows like this here in Germany), but those hard phrases seem to be quite popular in the www's anonymity. I mean be honest, it must happen something worse to let me say such harsh words, or?

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    1. No bake off in Germany mein gott!

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  6. I have had a few blogger friends disappoint me, because they lied about who they were. dropped them like a hot potato I did! I despise liars!

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  7. I never had much time for that Mel and Sue duo - like the female version of Ant and Dec - but they have gone up massively in my judgement for showing their support for the BBC and saying they will not go over to Channel 4.

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    1. Interestingly love productions ( that own the rights to the show) are 70% owned by sky!

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  8. this will be the last bake off series we will watch as do not want to see TVs adverts and don't want to record to watch later. Mel and Sue make the show for us so another reason not to watch.

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    1. I am with you and mr parrot here.... Collectively the bake off seems to be " our " bake off , which the BBC's doing ( the BBC BEING our corporation )

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  9. This past year has been a huge disappointment year for me. I think I went over my quota of people who not only let me down but a few were (un) kind enough to leave without a word ... why ? why ? or more awful than a silent leaving is the one b*tch that felt good enough about it to in a very snarky way, who said yes, I am not emailing you anymore and neither is so & so .. ( a friend that I had had for years , who had sent me beautiful windchimes for the too many trees I had in the house in NY State .. I could hear the chimes and know something had thought of me ) ... except now I if I heard those chimes, I would think of them and be sad/mad/disappointed again.
    My husband always said that I acted as if no one was ever nice to me :)
    I sure miss him.
    So my Disappointment was tinged with cruelty and added to my grief ..

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    1. A sad reply.
      I think much of your sadness comes from the overwhelming and dreadful grief you still have to cope with.
      It over shadows everything and taints even the small happy times with a kind of melancholy...
      Keep strong..

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    2. Thank you, yes, you are so right and I am sorry for being such a sad sack on here ... I try not to do that. I am really a cheery person usually. I promise to be less gloomy :)
      I will bore you all to death with my cat stories :D

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    3. Just be yourself xx

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    4. NotesFromAbroad A friendship of mine finally died a malingering death this year, which caused me great sadness but y'know you can only chase after folk for so long before you think I just cannot be arsed anymore, sending you a hug and no snarkiness :) x

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    5. Not sad just grieving, remember f
      grief has no timetable and no boundaries - it is just what it is, personal and painful.

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    6. Awww, thank you ... yes, losing ones husband is bad enough, to lose your mom unexpectedly is sort of icing on the sad cake. But I am fumbling along and with the help of my (online) friends and reading some of my all time favorite blogs (this one) I am feeling better every day.
      besitos <3 C

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    7. Grief is hard enough to cope with day to day & I so feel for you, but I also know the confusion and disappointment of having 'friends' who you thought were in your corner just choose to dismiss you without any explanation is so undermining. Why they aren't man or woman enough to say why they are offended or why they are dumping us... are we just a pain in the butt?? I suppose the why is ...they just aren't good enough friends to do that!

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  10. 'Disappointing..' I think it's one of the biggest put downs ever.

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    1. Valid disapointment ....thats a hard one to stomach if you are on the receiving end

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  11. I don't know as disappointment is the worst emotion, there are so many too choose from. Some hurt you in different ways. Fear, disgust, and jealousy seem to be vying for top dog, as well.

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    1. To me dissapointment hurts both parties equally

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  12. How clever. And why hadn't I thought of the subject of disappointment before?

    In order to be disappointed we first have to have had an expectation. Some people have high ones - therefore, naturally, easily disappointed. Others, the cynics, have virtually no expectations; which doesn't stop them from being disappointed that all their cynicism was justified.

    When someone says to you, John, that they are disappointed (with you) it's, obviously, disappointing. Yet, I'd take it lightly. Don't let other people pile their shit on your plate.

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    1. I wasnt, i was talking generally

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    2. I find it disappointing to read comments and come across one that is snarky or unnecessary .. Since comments in general on blogs are public and everyone who reads gets the gist of the comments also .. the snarky ones too.

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    3. The last sentence of BOTB resonated with me (.. shit on your plate ..). Sometimes you have people in your life who are never happy, no matter what. Their constant disappointment in you and everything in general is an uncomfortable invisible cloud that hangs about.

      That being said, I don't take other people's disappointment in me lightly. It really depends on the person, the issue, the circumstance ...

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    4. You're going to think I'm nuts, but here goes. Sept. 12 was my mother's birthday. She would have been 97. Being a Virgo, she was always quite critical and I know I disappointed her many times. (She wanted a "girly girl", which I was not, and didn't get the daughter she wanted.) I was thinking about her throughout the day on the 12th and asked her, in my mind, to let me know she's still around and looking out for me. I "told" her to let me hear or read her name somewhere in the next couple of days and then I'd know. Her name was Iris.

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    5. Well, there are not that many Iris out there, that's for sure.

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    6. And the eternally disappointed person I was talking about is my mother.

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    7. My point exactly. Thanks for responding. :)

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    8. My point exactly. Thanks for responding. :)

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  13. I hadn't really thought about disappointment, but that is a bad feeling. I guess it would be like your kids too busy to help you out with tasks a parent no longer can do. Jealousy is the worst feeling for me.

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  14. My almost perfect daughter told me that when she was a teenager and did something and got caught, her biggest regret was that she disappointed me. It lived with her for years. I, though, had forgotten about it.

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  15. The most hurt I've ever been when, as a 16-year-old girl, my Dad said to me, 'I'm just so disappointed in you.' Now, as a 60-year-old, it still brings tears to my eyes.

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    1. Oh Catrina that would have put me in a state of grief.. My mother could yell and carry on and I didn't even hear her but if my dad said anything , I listened .. And it is a lesson, we have to be aware of what we are saying in front of and to our children .

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    2. Psychological scars eh? Follow u always x

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  16. I heard about this Bake-Off thing, but I don't really know the backstory -- just that the show is moving to Channel 4. I have to read up about it. All I know is that Sue and Mel are leaving, which is terrible!

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  17. The Bake Off with adverts will be rubbish, but for me without Mel and Sue unthinkable, I think Mary B will leave next. What a shame the production company went with the highest bidder x

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  18. I'm not sure what's worse....being disappointed or disappointing someone else. They're both pretty hollow feeling.

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    1. I so agree with you ! the "hollow feeling " :(

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  19. I do agree that there is nothing worse than hearing someone say that you have disappointed them by your behavious.

    As to trendy Carol - yours is a very outspoken village.

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  20. Ahhh, trendy Carol! She is one of my village heroes.

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  21. Who would play Trendy Carol if this was a BBC serial ?

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  22. My cousin (Babs) was showing?

    If the disappointment is genuine then, yes, it is at least a sign to think carefully about what one is doing. On the other hand, I've known folk who quite gleefully use the accusation as a tool for manipulation.

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  23. It's not quite a done deal yet.

    Maybe Channel Four will cancel their stupid multi million pound over the BBCs offer if Mary jumps ship as well, and she might, she's always been Beeb girl 😉

    I'm another one who won't watch a Bake Off with adverts every ten minutes.

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    1. Ive just signed the online call for keeping the bake off on the bbc x

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  24. (Nothing to do with 'Bake Off' which I've never seen and don't give a hoot whether I do or no.)

    Re Mary: Love conquers all! I can forgive my testing trio anything when I go into the kitchen (which they've all started inhabiting now during the past Summer months 'cos there's always a window open there) - and soon I find I'm surrounded by a chorus of purrs, whether or not it's feeding time. It's their feeling of deep trust in ones presence, their knowing that one would never allow them to come to harm, which really gets to me. (That's probably exactly the calculation they've made themselves!)

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  25. A family member uses the term 'a little bit disappointed' all the time. So much so that I once amused myself mightily by saying, "I'm not the black sheep of the family, I'm the disappointing sheep of the family." :)

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  26. It's amazing how forgiving we can be when our pets destroy stuff, but if anyone else did it we'd be disappointed and upset. I guess I'm lucky, as being a cynic, my expectations of people are fairly low. Too many disappointing episodes early on in life can do that, but it's not a bad thing. As for Bake Off, I signed the petition and if it moves channel, won't bother to watch.

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