Wednesday, 13 January 2016

Conflict


Contrary to what you may think,  I am not a lover of conflict.
Having said this, my post of a few days ago is a testament  to the fact, I often can't shut my mouth.
Whatever!
I've had a shitty conflict filled day today.
So much so, that I've lit the fire and locked the doors.
Crap tv is the order of the afternoon.

After leaving work this morning I was called an " arsehole" by a fellow motorist who wanted my vacated parking spot quicker than I wanted to leave it, and when I eventually got home and walked Mary and William around the village, I was berated by the owner of the staffies ( see previous post) for threatening him the other day.
Now I don't mind indulging in a lively debate in the street, but being bellowed at by someone in trackie bottoms after a thirteen hour night shift , is just one step too far. I tried to point out that he himself had commented that one of his dogs had escaped his garden, but I think my previous day's comment that if his dog attacked Winnie then Winnie would have come out the victor, was seen as a direct threat....anyhow the screaming fit must of amused the fifteen or so secondary school pupils who were all waiting to be picked up by the school bus.
Nothing ever happens in Trelawnyd at 8.30 am.

I had three hours sleep then was up again ,walking the short legged dogs, this time off the lead on a public footpath George woofed at a passing jogger and as he jogged after him for a few steps the very elderly , lycra clad jogger ( complete with overly trendy cap and bluetooth earpiece ) growled ,
" I 'll kick him in the head if he comes near me"
Now I  am slightly ashamed that I counted this with a robust, nay thundering reply of " and I'll kick you in the head if you go near him YOU KNOCK KNEED FUCKING SKELETON!"

He merely flipped me the finger...the twat.

Anyhow, I know it's not healthy, but after dropping the dogs off, I got out the car and drove up to Macdonald's . In lieu of an emergency scotch egg, I bought myself a cheeseburger, fries and coffee and ate them in the car park. The teenage server was very sweet. She told me to " Enjoy" my lunch with a big smile........
And do you know?
I bloody well did.

89 comments:

  1. Oh my goodness John, you have had a rough few days. Kindness comes from unexpected places. Glad you enjoyed your lunch.

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  2. I wish I was as brave as that, if someone had said anything like that to me I would have burst in tears and scuttled off home and probably not left the house for a week. I'm a total wimp when it comes to confrontation and I really sometimes wish I was braver. Good for you for standing up for yourself and your lovely dogs X

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  3. You've got to let it fly occasionally, John. No harm, no foul, play on!

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  4. Oh, John, it will get better. Granny always said when the way is met with resistance you know you are traveling the right path.

    I've noticed a few familiar faces on your followers list...getting closer to that thousand!

    Have a blessed day...in a good way.

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  5. Get some sleep, dear man. You need it.

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  6. I don't like conflict myself, but I'll step up if I have to, as my mother used to say: "If you just roll over, you'll be rolled over." At least you still have your Scotch egg to look forward to!

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    1. I will have to remember your Mothers wise words as I'm not one for conflict and get upset when I'm "rolled over".

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  7. Poor you, have a nap. I had a shit day on Monday and said work had actually broken me, I was surrounded by twats and arseholes, namely teaching staff and gormless parents, and breathe .... x

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  8. Dont let shitheads ruin your day or your good humor.

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  9. Dont let shitheads ruin your day or your good humor.

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  10. I blame the weather.... everyone feels shitty and bad-tempered.

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  11. Lol...I love it. Turning the other cheek is okay to a point but there comes a time...
    I rarely retaliate, but I know when I do it feels good.
    Better than sitting at home afterwards thinking about what you 'should' have said..x

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  12. The problem was the thirteenth - like the full moon; elicits madness. I can't imagine what I would do, probably begin speaking in gibberish. I think I'd probably point at his face and say, don't talk to me.

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  13. oh dear me, onwards and upwards as they say. Now don't faint but I actually did a blog post today!!

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    1. Nice t see you alibe gill

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  14. Oh I hate these kinds of days, John! Now go get a good couple of nights sleep in a row and you will feel better....I hope!!

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  15. I hate conflict but sometimes ... I then become a wild, fight-the-pub, banshee. I am always ashamed afterwards but no longer feel angry. I do regret telling the old women in a store to 'take the stick out of her A***e', (she was so rude first)IT it was not my finest hour!

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  16. Oh John I am in pieces with the whiskey at the moment. I am a crabby opinionated old women that no body understands and everyone hates me!

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    1. Well welcoe aboard here x u are in good company

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  17. Oh my, I am being bullied by a co-worker, just returned from filing an informal complaint. If I responded in-kind, she would need a psychiatrist or there would be blood on the carpets.

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    1. How awful, is it being sorted david?

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  18. The only regret I'd have for letting loose would be the fact that you live in a small enough village and environment where you can't help but run into these assholes and spandex-clads on a regular basis. Big city anonymity has its benefits. If you do have pangs of guilt at any point, just tell yourself you've done this for me. I really need a bit of caustic relief about now.

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  19. Sorry about the incident with you not being quick enough to get out of your parking spot and the nasty approach of the staffies owner however if dogs should be on lead on a public path then you were wrong and should be ashamed when the jogger was pursued by George. Doesn't matter how he was dressed! There is a leash/lead law where I live and it is one of my pet peeves owners who think it doesn't apply to their dog.

    Hope you now have got some sleep and things are improved.

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  20. I was a little tense by the end of all that, thank goodness they didnt forget your sugar, stirrer, ketchup and napkin. !

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  21. I'm sorry, John, but the "knock kneed skeleton" comment made me howl with laughter! And I know all about eating junk food after one's feelings are all ruffled up. Sometimes you deserve a treat after dealing with assholes!

    Get some sleep. It will help.

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  22. One of these days, you'll be posting about a bloody face after a physical altercation, or posting from the jail. I worry about you, John ...

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  23. Try to get some quality sleep. Things wont be so bad after. x

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  24. Ha ha what a day!!! I would love to have witnessed your day

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    1. You nearly did.......my meeting was at the end of chapel street

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  25. cheeseburgers heal all wounds. some sleep might help too.

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  26. Good for you John, my pet hate is unruly dog owners who can't control their animals. I've been flattened 3 times ( not easy with my girth) by a "friendly" Doberman and am getting very pissed of with the twat of an owner Grrrrr!

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    1. P.S. You should have asked for a Maccy Ds "Gang Bang", two beef burgers with a chicken burger in the middle! Kill or cure lol.

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    2. That would have killed me

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  27. Ouuff. somedays you just can't win.
    Your reasons behind each of these incidents was right. Staffies or any bigger dog running at fences scare me and The Square Ones. Then you get the "oh he is friendly" as the dog is tossing around your dog ? ? ? I have had that happen.
    I have had a few of those days, once on your blog when what I wrote was misunderstood and the same on another blog. When you go back and try to explain it is a WTF moment.
    Sometimes a cheeseburger with fries is the answer. The chewing helps expel the adrenaline and anger.
    Hope a nap, the fire and some sleepy snoring calms.

    cheers, parsnip and thehamish
    xx

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  28. Oh my gawd ... it must have been a bad day if you succumbed to a MacDonalds. You need a couple of Bodnant Scotch Eggs, just to get your taste buds civilised again ;-)

    Lighting the fire and curling up in front of the television is my idea of a perfect afternoon .... I hope you dozed.

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  29. oooooooooooh... Sounds like someone had a shitty day indeed. But, c'mon John, McDonalds??? That crap will kill you. And then who would the townspeople argue with? Just kidding...hopefully your evening will be calmer.

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  30. There's something in the air, or the water. Better lay low for a few days.

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  31. I hate people.

    I am glad you were able to enjoy the McDonalds .. my drug of choice is a box of miniature cinnamon rolls with a cup of hot tea. In summer it is something different.

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  32. Can someone give me an idea of why I cannot publish comments using Chrome but I can using Safari ?

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  33. Oh I am sorry, John! At least you had a meal served with a smile after all that conflict. After a good day's sleep, things will be better. Hugs xxx

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  34. Good for you. I detest conflict of any kind and will avoid at all costs. But if someone brings up old laundry (see your previous post) then you had every bloody right. And good for you - a cheeseburger is always a delight. Maybe a scotch egg for evening treat? xx

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    1. Rlol, i had one for tea x

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  35. I would have thought that a cheeseburger, fries and coffee was a pretty good calmer-down after any kind of conflict John. Keep calm and carry on - get the T shirt.

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  36. Mercury in retrograde
    I thought it was only us Americans that were nasty. I want to be able to use "knock kneed fucking skeleton" in a conversation some time! I howled!! Breath,

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  37. Lovely man, that runner ... who could ever say that about George with his sweet face??

    Breathe now ... good air in, bad air out ... and a nice long sleep ...

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  38. The runner will be trotting along someday and stumble and fall , into a big pile of dog poo. Because karma eventually catches up with everyone.

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  39. To raise funds for worthy local charities, I should like to propose a wrestling match in the village hall between you (The Avenger) and your nemesis (Staffie Man). You will both need to wear lycra wrestling suits which my wife Shirley will be happy to knock up for you. Obviously Staffie Man will be in black - the colour of evil but what is your colour choice? BBC TV Wales have already expressed keen interest in the proposal and various Rhyl-based charities are keen to cash in, including the North Denbigshire Survivors Network. Time to start training!

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    1. Id look like a hippo in a condom

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    2. So, you want a fruit flavoured wrestling suit or ribbed?

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  40. I love what you said to the elderly jogger, and the fact that you came up with it at the moment makes you my hero for today,see the shade of Bowie swirling through my head? :(... Hope you've had a chance to catch up with the zzzzz's!

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  41. Don't let them steal your wind, as Phoebe from Friends used to say. Tomorrow's another day.

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  42. You are surrounded by mutants in shell suits. I hate stupid joggers and their lycra clad arses!

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    1. I can appreciate that he mat of be frightened but george only has three inch legs

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  43. So many idiots, so little time. Don't let them get to you.

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  44. Not a fan of conflict myself. I love that you step up for the underdog/chicken/whatever though.

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  45. After reading this again, I am convinced that you already did the right thing. Calling him a knock kneed old skeleton was perfect. Keep in mind where he runs to be sure the pups leave calling cards for knocked kneed skeletons to step in .....

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  46. I hate days like that. I'm sorry you had to go through it. :(

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  47. I like your style, you have the courage to say what most would think....a skeleton in Lycra, hilarious!!!

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  48. Oof. Days like that suck all the life from you. Comfort food, in whatever form, is not always a bad thing to indulge in to feel a little less shitty. Though with Mickey D's, the shits may be what you get ;-) Hugs to you!

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  49. I don't love what you said to the VERY elderly jogger. He was obviously scared/nervous or at least rattled by your dog. It's embarrassing for him to admit that so a bit of verbal bravado was used.

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    1. Threat to kick my dog in the head and you get it, regardless of age....

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    2. Good for you, John! Only a cowardly asshat would threaten someone's dog.

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  50. Hoping that their motherships come for them soon & take them back from whence they came!

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  51. The fellow with the out of bounds dog is out of bounds himself. I would only have thought your repartee, he sounds more aggressive than I could defend against.

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  52. You are not alone in how you feel. I have had a few days that were very similar but, after a while, things turned round and all was right with the world. Please take care.

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    1. I have clip......been to samaritanstonight that gets everything into perspective

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  53. Love that skeleton comment, ha ha.

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  54. Bloody hell John what a day full of idiots and their comments . Quite pissed off that someone would say that to George . Glad you had something to eat that made you happy after a shitty day . Sometimes I fucking hate people......

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  55. Sometimes it is so very hard to be the adult. I work with adolescents and there are days I need to pinch myself as a reminder to take the high and teachable road as to their behavior. Sorry your dog was threatened.

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  56. mean people suck. avoid them all. but your comments were spot on and those mean people can sod right off!

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  57. Oh, John. You've had too much to bear. We stay in the house with the doors locked and the alarm on.

    Love,
    Janie

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  58. Healthy is all very well, but now and again the need for greasy junk is overwhelming and must be assuaged. It seems you had just such a day.

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  59. Must be something in the air, I've had a string of rather tense days. When I'm sleep deprived, things always seems worse, and my patience while never in great supply is even less.

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  60. You're probably not going to like this comment, but an off-leash dog to a stranger can be very intimidating. While his comment may have seemed over the top to you, his concern was genuine.

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  61. I figure the shout at the jogger was a way to shake off all that tension from the earlier confrontations. Did you the world of good, that and the cheeseburger. :)

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  62. There is no ire like the ire of a sleep deprived nurse on night shift. I once asked someone not to panel beat their car under my window when I was trying to sleep on nights. He told me to get stuffed.I told him I hoped he ended up in hospital one day when the nurse caring for him had no sleep. Prat

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  63. Read this post yesterday evening and it invaded my attempts to sleep. I utterly DETEST conflict and will go out of may way to avoid situations where it might occur. But when it's initiated by someone else one can't do much about it except respond appropriately. Whether or not your response was appropriate may be open to debate but his comment would have paralysed me so I wouldn't - couldn't - have said anything at all!

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  64. I could just about feel the relief that burger must have brought you. When everyone in the world is an arsehole, you're having a TRULY bad day. I hope you get some rest.

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  65. Not a lover of conflict? I laughed out loud!

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  66. I blame it all on the misery of winter. Everyone is short-tempered and starved of Vitamin D! You did the right thing by treating yourself.

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  67. I wish I had the wit to come up with these perfect responses as you seem to have. Knock Kneed Fing Skeleton is great! My McD comfort food of choice is a Big Mac

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  68. One of biggest pet peeves is rude or bullying people. And old jerks don't deserve any special tenderness due to age, in my opinion. Myself, I really try hard to be polite and kind to everyone I meet. But if someone is horrible to me or to some undeserving person or animal in my presence I will really give them a good reaming. They will probably always be horrible jerks but I don't have to make it easy for them....

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