Tuesday, 17 November 2015

My Husband

I understand that Going Gently isn't quite like most blogs because it follows the loose narrative that is my daily existence. I can't apologise for that, for that the way the thing has evolved , the only down side is that sometimes the entries can be somewhat pedestrian in nature. Bear with me.

Yesterday I had the car because it was vet visit day for William. Our vets is a country practice located in a busy and very Welsh market town  17 miles away. The surgery doesn't open until 2pm so I stopped at the butchers to buy a homemade scotch egg ( incidentally the same butchers that processed our pigs) and shared it with William in the waiting room at 1.50 pm.
(He prefers the sausage meat and allows me to keep the eggy middle for myself)
I always get to the vets early, as I hate to get in that bunfight of waiting behind a load of people that think their baby is better than yours.

The George Clooney and Russell Crowe vet were not on duty, so we were seen by the Bridget Jones vet who gave William a detailed examination and charged me a fortune for a steroid injection, antibiotics and some antifungal shampoo. I kept some scotch egg aside to give him when Bridget checked his anal glands. It kept him quiet.

Anyhow as we  left the now packed waiting room a middle aged man stood up with a smile and extended his hand to shake mine.  I had no idea who he was, nor did I recognise his  smiling wife who was sitting next to him  with a small poodle  on her knee.
" Did your wedding go well?" He asked and seeing my sudden confusion quickly added his name with the added explanation " you admitted me to ICU  in February "
It was typical of meeting someone that you have only seen once before in a completely different situation as I only vaguely recognised him, so I smiled broadly and shook him warmly by the hand.
I told him that he looked well and so he did.
It was then I remembered him. He had been very poorly but chatty when he came under our care , and in passing, in a way of reducing his anxieties, I had told him a little about the wedding plans. I looked after him for around eight hours.
" So the day went well? " the man said and I replied " It was the best day"
The couple smiled together and the man said easily  " And that is how it should be .....give our very best to your husband"

I think it was the genuine easiness of the remark that pleased me the most. Genuine easiness and genuine interest. I have a new husband and a relative stranger celebrated the fact with no edge at all.





92 comments:

  1. my first blog read at 5:45a, coffee in hand...and your husband is a gem amongst gems!

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  2. That must have given you a warm fuzzy feeling especially as there is so much angst in the World at the moment. In the aftermath of the Paris tragedy I read somewhere that in such an event we must 'look for the helpers' and I thought of you John. You was a helper when that man was in ICU and he has never forgotten it.

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  3. How lovely that the man remembered you, and did so fondly and with genuine best wishes. There are good people in the world. x

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  4. How heartwarming to read about your unexpected meeting in the vet's, and just as it should be too! And, I for one, thoroughly enjoy reading you posts, even the 'pedestrian' ones - so reassuring to someone whose life pretty ordinary too. I hope William has recovered from the assault on his modesty. You don't have to tell me how costly those steroid and antibiotic injections. Treatment for our very elderly cat, Bonnie, is a monthly reality!

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  5. Why has that just brought tears to my eyes ..... time for a strong coffee methinks ;-)

    Exactly as it should be ... the remark I mean not the coffee. It's about time humanity as a whole was more accepting of everything and everyone.

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    1. Me too. Congratulations to your husband on having chosen a lovely husband as his husband. I don't quite know what pedestrian implies, but if I can come for a walk with you, I will.

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  6. And THAT is as it should be.

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  7. How lovely and heartwarming.

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  8. I must remember to purchase a scotch egg the next time my anal glands are due to be inspected or would a cheese sandwich do instead?

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    1. Or a pork pie ..YPU CAN REALLY GET YOUR TEETH in when the pain hits

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  9. That's heart-warming. I haven't yet experienced that in my visits to the States. Here in Spain, it's the norm. I would be shocked by any other reaction. As for your assessment of your blog. I find it to be one of the most interesting, enlightening, educational, touching, inspirational, and entertaining blogs I read. Thanks for being so "pedestrian."

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  10. And that's exactly how it should be!

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  11. I think that the way you share on your blog is totally natural and totally wonderful! The only downside for me, you are in Wales and I am not so we are unlikely to ever meet in real life! You never know though! How great that this man remembered and recognised you too in totally different surroundings! Wonderful all round and in every way. A real ray of sunshine at this time!!!

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  12. Oh, and I meant to add, I love your blog. Wouldn't wish for it to be any different!

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  13. How sweet and wonderful,

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  14. I don't think we ever forget those who help us. (And I love reading about your daily life)

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  15. This made me cry :) The sweetness and genuine human-ness of it.
    As all things should be.

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  16. It's nice when people remember you. I have trouble remembering folks I seldom meet. So... is William 100 %?

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    1. 80% this skin allergy is debillitating

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    2. Don't feed him corn, wheat or grains as they often cause skin irritation/allergies.

      Practical Parsimony

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  17. Your blog is A+ exactly as it is!

    Reading this, on a very grey and ordinary day just made my heart sing, lovely people who were cared for by a great man in their (his) time of trouble telling it just how it should be. In these awful times it is good to focus of the wonderful qualities of some folk.

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    1. People are are often surprising i always think

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  18. Beautiful. There are plenty of good people in this world. And I count you high among them, John. :)

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  19. The world is filled with marvelous people...they jump up when you least expect. You are a very memorable person to us all!

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  20. Nice man. It just shows that most people are happy for someone else's happiness.

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  21. I love your blog just the way it is... because of the way it is. It's like sitting at the table with you and just talking about your day.. doesn't have to be high drama everyday... the everyday things are the most interesting.

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    1. I'm with you there! I like the way you make the most of everyday incidents, but it's your kindness that 'came back to you' with that man's greeting. You inspire me to try to be mindful in my daily, very ordinary life.

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  22. And as a wise man said, "and that is how it should be". What a perfectly ordinary lovely spot in a perfectly ordinary lovely day.

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  23. what a truly sweet story.

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  24. Oh, that we have lived to see this day arrive! *smile*

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  25. I am, quite simply, struggling today. In many ways. And I have to tell you John, that I do not feel good about the human race AT ALL but then I read this and I felt a little more tender towards it. Us.
    Thank you.

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  26. And THAT is exactly why I keep visiting, John, you have a good heart and are a delight to visit.

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  27. and that is how the world should be......

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  28. Nice reaction from a nice person. I love your blog just as it is.

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  29. I find this quite heartwarming.

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  30. People can be so kind and genuine, But I do have a problem with the picture at the bottom. It may look like domestic bliss, but that is the position me and him take when we know there is a dog wanting to be walked, both pretending to be so sleepy and cosy in the hope that the other one will move first. I always win hehehe.

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    1. After 30 years of marriage, he chooses his fights carefully!

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  31. awwwwwww just the best !

    cheers, parsnip

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  32. That's the BEST story!

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  33. Does the Prof always wear his specs when sleeping? P'raps he wants a good view of his dreams.

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    1. He's always ready for everything

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  34. Wonderful, and what a lovely Husband he is too. X x x

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  35. What a lovely story, I love reading your blog everyday don't change a thing.

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    1. Iwouldn't be arsed changing it x

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  36. Truly wish there more people like that in the world.

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  37. Wonderful, and what a lovely Husband he is too. X x x

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  38. How lovely and quite right x

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  39. Kindness from people is not forgotten....we have to remember 'the helpers'.

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  40. Now I have a lump in my throat and a tear in my eye. A beautiful moment, well described.

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  41. I actually think there are more decent people out there than I used to believe there be ....what a good job you didn't tell him your story about the time you blew off like the queen Mary or you might have had a different meeting altogether

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    1. Lol credit me with a modicum of professionalism jace

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    2. I can't imagine that story plays too well while leaning over and checking leads and tubes are still in place

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    3. It diverted from the pain!

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  42. How nice that you ran into him!

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  43. You have the ability to make me cry with either joy, laughter or sorrow nearly every day. Bless you, your husband and that man x

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    1. Isn't that something !? He makes me cry too .. even when the subject is about wiping a pups bottom or something ;o)

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    2. Lol , you two need to get out more xxxx

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  44. Thank you for that feel good story x

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  45. I am sure the day will come when everyone will treat it like that John and I don't think it is so very far away. Isn't it good that such a kind remark can make your day.

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  46. That's a wonderful story. :)

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  47. Hugs to all of you - what a lovely gentle positive reaction that man and his wife had to your happiness. xx

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  48. It's reassuring to know that nice folk really do out number the vile ones.

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    1. How true , hope mia more reads this one

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  49. A man with manners. I firmly believe the 'carers' will out.

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    1. And i liked that he spoke loud and strong in the packed room

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  50. I like the loose narrative of your daily existence. I'm glad when people are comfortable with same-sex marriage. Why fight nature and reality?

    Love,
    Janie

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    1. So loose it's chaotic xx

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  51. I must be tired. My eyes leaked a bit (just a bit) when I read this lovely story. Thank you.
    Re the out of context thing: I have often said to fellow swimmers (with truth) when I see them away from the pool 'I didn't recognise you with your clothes on'.

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    1. I said that to someone , back in the olden days when I was modeling .. a girl I met here and there, we were always changing clothes and talking before going on to work ... we knew each other better without clothes :)

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  52. Just lovely, and what I hope you would experience anyway. X

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  53. I think younger people have the view that life is a unending progression of highs and lows. They learn, sooner or later, that it's the huge area in the middle, between the highs and lows, that matters most. I love your blog and your photos and the everyday story of your lives together, you and the prof and all the residents human and animal. It's like watching a gay "All Creatures Great and Small".

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  54. Congratulation on the nuptials!

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  55. Your blog is not so pedestrian! It is warm, genuine, and interesting. I cannot imagine not accepting good people just as they are. Same-sex marriage should not cause consternation at all.

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    1. I agree... not even close to being pedestrian.

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    2. Well, if you were walking in the street ... you could be pedestrian ... snicker ...

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  56. Not pedestrian at all! Wonderful in fact! As you've said recently, the times they are a changin'!

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  57. Everyone has already said what I would have done, and probably better than I could have done! Love the blog, and you are one of the people I would most like to meet ( and the dogs !) XX

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  58. That is just awesome.

    MissFifi

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