Monday, 19 January 2015

The Queen's Speech

The Queen & Charles on our mantle

I have never written a speech before.
I have written a couple of eulogies .
I have written presentations
And once I wrote a somewhat overblown lecture on blogging for the Llanasa Women's Institute,
But I have never written a speech .
I was discussing this fact with a few fellow nurses last night at work who asked me what I was going to say at the wedding., I told them that I had absolutely no idea
Perhaps those that have done it at their own ceremonies could give me a couple of pointers?
I'd be very grateful
Anyhow
My best friend will be saying a few words, as will Chris' brother, so I feel it only right that Chris or I is able to thank the guests for coming.
Chris is the obvious choice for the speech, as he is an old hand at presentations, but strangely he has refused to take the lead and has left  the job to me.
I don't mind too much as I take after my father when it come to these kind of things.
He would have made a speech at the opening of a Fridge door.

Luckily we have a dear friend who will be giving a reading at the wedding itself. He is a delightful old queen with a penchant for theatre and expensive Italian suits and I hope he doesnt mind that we have chosen a more " personal to us" wedding reading rather than the usual slightly bilious dirge that could have been spouted
This is our reading...what do you think?


How falling in love is like owning a dog by Taylor Mali

On cold winter nights, love is warm.
It lies between you and lives and breathes
and makes funny noises.
Love wakes you up all hours of the night with its needs.
It needs to be fed so it will grow and stay healthy.
Love doesn’t like being left alone for long.
But come home and love is always happy to see you.
It may break a few things accidentally in its passion for life,
but you can never be mad at love for long.
Is love good all the time? No! No!
Love can be bad. Bad, love, bad! Very bad love.
Love makes messes.
Love leaves you little surprises here and there.
Love needs lots of cleaning up after.
Sometimes you just want to get love fixed.
Sometimes you want to roll up a piece of newspaper
and swat love on the nose,
not so much to cause pain,
just to let love know Don’t you ever do that again!
Sometimes love just wants to go for a nice long walk.
Because love loves exercise.
It runs you around the block and leaves you panting.
It pulls you in several different directions at once,
or winds around and around you
until you’re all wound up and can’t move.
But love makes you meet people wherever you go.
People who have nothing in common but love
stop and talk to each other on the street.
Throw things away and love will bring them back,
again, and again, and again.
But most of all, love needs love, lots of it.
And in return, love loves you and never stops.

76 comments:

  1. This is the second time you have tickled every single corner of my mind and heart.{The first time was with that dog poem, which I read at my sister's birthday get-together,with laughter tears running down my face.We all laughed so hard we gasped for air.}No tears while reading, How Falling In Love Is Like Owning A Dog,but my heart was squeezed to the point that I couldn't stop myself from thanking you for sharing it.

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    1. You are welcome Anita x

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  2. Well now. That is just about perfect!

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  3. At the appropriate moment, someone should hand the two of you rolled up newspapers, just in case. Very-very cute and sweet. I gave J a solar powered Queen for Christmas, place her in the sun and her hand waves endlessly.

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  4. I LOVE IT!

    speak from your heart about what chris means to you; there won't be a dry eye in the house.

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  5. What a sweet little piece of writing.
    Don't worry about what to say John...just speak from your heart.

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  6. I love you reading.

    As for your speech, be you, speak from the heart and enjoy every moment ... and you run out of steam two sentences in, simply say "and here is Chris to say a few words". :-)

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    1. That should of course have said 'I love YOUR reading' :-)

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  7. Like you said part of your speech is to thank your guests. But it is also to respond to the speeches and toasts to you and Chris. So be prepared to keep it light and be able to respond to whatever your BF and BIL say. Of course don't forget to thank all those other people who have helped you organise the day. Think of it like an Oscar's acceptance speech. You will be fine I am sure!

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  8. A wonderful piece of writing, perfection.
    Lisa x

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  9. Love that! As for thanking guests, I (mother of the bride) kept it short and sweet and said something like this: At some point when you are planning a wedding, you suddenly realize that your guest list represents all the people who mean the most to you in the entire world. So that makes all of you here very, very important to us, and we want to thank you all from the bottom of our hearts for taking the time and making the effort to be here and share this most special day with us. We are so grateful, and we love you; here's to you! (Raise your glass for a cheer and a toast). Now let's celebrate!

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    1. Short and sweet is good me feels

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  10. You're making me sound like a bargain basement Norma Desmond...

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    1. I would NEVER describe you as bargain basement EVER...
      Penthouse definitely
      Basement NEVER

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  11. I am sure you will have no problem writing a speech and That everybody will love it.

    Your reading is perfect.

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  12. How perfect, it says it all !
    I love this.

    cheers, parsnip

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  13. That reading could not be more perfect for you! Still reading your blog and commenting as Val at Trelawnyd - even though I'm now Val at Caerwys, part of my heart will always be in Trelawnyd 😊

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    1. Nice to see you Val....... A few people have commented just how lonely Anchor House looks now

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  14. That reading is lovely, my hubby did a short speech at our wedding, just kept it to thanks for coming, relax, enjoy the day and we hope to chat with everyone later. Simple is usually best :-)

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  15. It's beautiful! Very good choice.

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  16. I know that whatever you say will be perfection in every way. Just like your reading. My thoughts and prayers will be with you both on the day ... hugs and more hugs...

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  17. I'm not sure you can improve on that. "Love is messy"...Amen, brother!

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  18. Thank you for refraining on taking it to the "Love is a Bulldog" level. There could be a whole lot of material in that!
    This is perfect!

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  19. I helped hubby write his speech for our daughter's wedding last year. There were some humorous things in it,but mostly it was from the heart. I think you can't go wrong with that.... and you have a big heart Mr Gray.

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  20. Apt and very lovely
    Twiggy x

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  21. That reading is sweet and funny, like love. I would say make a cheat sheet of bullet points of things you would want to say, then just have a natural public conversation with your guests. Thinking of it as a speech can make you even more jittery and you really want it to be you that is talking, not what you think you should be saying or how. I am sure it will go wonderfully and I hope someone films it for all of us to see. :)

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    1. I've made funeral eulogys before ok....I agree it needs to be practiced hey ho

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  22. Your reading is very beautiful and touching! Love it!

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  23. Your reading is so apt and absolutely beautiful. Just flow naturally with your speech. Says me who easily makes speeches and then spends months afterwards chastising myself for forgetting to welcome this one, thank that one! xx

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  24. I've never read this. So contemporary. So perfect.

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  25. Remember that the audience you will deliver your speech to are "with you". They want a happy day as much as you do so they are on your side. They will expect a good belly laugh or two as well as some moments of sincerity. Think of a couple of embarrassing tales involving Chris and how you first got together. Practise your speech. Write out a draft and say it into a mirror. Try not to rush it. A nice even pace. Get the structure of your speech on a postcard - with simple bullet points so that you can refer to this during your delivery and please expect some good natured heckling. How will you deal with that? Take a deep breath and be brave.

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    1. More good advice YP
      THANK U me old son

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  26. That reading is absolutely beautiful John.
    Re your speech. I gave my god-daughter away a few years ago and I worried about my speech too. In the end I based it on Philip Larkin's poem 'Lines on a young ladies photograph album' - only loosely - I took imaginary snapshots of her life and explained them, trying to fit each one into an aspect of her character (problem solving skills, persuasiveness etc.) - I must say it went down very well and I got lots of positive feed back from folk there.

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    1. A nice idea pat..........

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  27. What a wonderful reading it will be, I absolutely loved reading it. x

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  28. Love the reading.

    Speeches? Keep it short and sweet. Thank everyone.

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    1. And don't leave ANYONE out

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  29. The reading is perfect. As for the speech, just be yourself John.

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  30. Holy shit, no shit John.. It is good you can make it as funny or as serious as you like depending on how you read it.

    I agree with Miss Fifi above.

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    1. I won't be readings the dog poem......bel ami will be

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  31. I am going to throw up.

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    1. What did you have at your wedding?
      Something by Mary Shelley no doubt

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    2. And with much slurring.....

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    3. (P.S. - If you need a good wedding speech, go to Benedict Cumberbatch's in Sherlock) AND I have never been married (so there's still hope for you).

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    4. And you too....I remember sherlock's speech well btw

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    5. Ok game set and snatch to stephenson

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    6. You know I love you and wish you all the happiness in the world - but I love the idea of you turning into Bridezilla! X

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  32. LOVE your reading. Quirky, charming and full of heart. Entirely appropriate. Perfect even.

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  33. Brief, spontaneous, and heartfelt.
    The reading is perfect and absolutely delightful.

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  34. Love the reading -- have to echo Elephant's Child; a great mix of quirky, warmth and charm. Super choice.

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  35. I LOVE THE PIECE ABOUT FALLING IN LOVE. I can't wait to show it to Willy Dunne Wooters. Lots of books have examples of what to say at a wedding. I'm sure suggestions are online, too. It's usually best to keep it simple and maybe say something amusing.

    Love,
    Janie

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  36. I forgot to say that I love the Queen on the mantle, but Charles looks as if he could use a make-over.

    Love again,
    Janie

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  37. Absolutely wonderful! Someday I hope you make a run with Like. "Like is a many splendored thing." Or, "It is better to have liked and lost than never to have liked at all." I'll bet you could do wonders.

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  38. It is perfect.

    And as to what to include in your speech, you've already gotten good advice. Thank everyone for coming and beyond that, whatever you're comfortable saying.

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  39. Auden's Leap Before You Look :)

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    1. More than one Auden poem seems very romantic but has something about how love doesn't last because we die.

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  40. On a practical point; you will find lots of speech making hints on the net. Make them laugh first, then some infill, then end with a laugh. That seems to be the least painful.

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  41. Will you be opening with "My husband & I"?

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  42. Love the reading John, it's totally perfect. Your speech will echo you and Chris no matter what you say, you write your blog perfectly so much that you have many admirers and we (mostly) only know you from afar and we are enamoured with you but this will be for your nearest and dearest and they all love you and only want what is best for you so will hang onto your every word anyway, as Cro said above, make them laugh, tell the tale, then make them laugh again.
    Oh and practice it!

    Jo in Auckland, NZ

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  43. I am sure you could do it John even if you ad libbed it.

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  44. I'm sure you can do it with great style, homour & emotion.

    Our speeches were less organised... husband just read the list of who to thank from my scribbled notes & his best man was only asked to say a few words the night before; his girlfriend had broken up with him & he was a mess !

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  45. I'm not sure whether I should be alarmed that this poem makes me think not of Dave but of Olga.

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  46. Gulp! It's perfick for the both of you! xxx

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  47. "Dear ones, we thank you from the bottom of our soggy little hearts for joining us on this celebratory day. If you find anything at all remotely disappointing, inconvenient or otherwise unsatisfactory, please do bring it to Chris' attention, as it is undoubtedly his fault." That'll teach him to drop the speechifying in your lap.

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  48. I'm sorry.... is that poem about love or Winnie?

    Actually it's lovely John. Beautifully you and Chris. xx

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  49. beautiful--I'm sharing it!

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