The Best Time

 

On a day I was due to catch up with my best mate Nu

A video catch up with Jane and Mike , old friends from Sheffield 

Made up for things

And for going on two hours all we did is laugh and laugh and laugh

I love you guys x

Soot

 

I’ve spent a dirty morning sweeping the chimney.

Last night, I suffered the peril of relying on a wood burner too much

A blocked flue and a very sooty cottage.

So I swept the fire and then ambled around, mucky, to deliver Christmas gifts to Trendy Carol, Animal helper Pat, Mandy and Sailor John and to Jo ( the young mum and Street Warden who kindly dropped a load of dog food off for me when I was isolating )

Other villagers were outdoing the same thing, including Cameron out walking his pugs. 

Cameron is a strapping young man in his 20s

Now when did that happen?

Wales is now in lockdown 4 and the Christmas Cards have filled the living room walls already.

A Final Sausage

 

The Welsh lockdown starts at midnight

Lucky I’ve already done a big shop this week.

I made a small turkey lasagne for supper tonight, and as I was doing so I found several left over cocktail sausages hidden away on the fridge shelf. 

I gave the dogs the sausages with their tea and kept one aside

I know I’m a bit of a show girl but I thought it apt that I tearfully planted it with Winnie’s ashes that had already been scattered on the flower beds

She would have loved that

Tired Thoughts

Almost finished nights, just waiting for day staff to stagger on duty, all blearily eyed.

I am now off for three whole days!

I have just been sharing with my colleagues how Eba, my old cleaning lady in Sheffield , used to mutter “ dirty boys......dirty boys” under her breath when she was scrubbing our bathroom 

( I have no idea where that nugget of memory came from, but I have to accept it was just a product of over tiredness) 

It got everyone laughing anyhow.

The village is collecting homemade Christmas decorations in order to decorate the village green on Wednesday. I will join in before Next week’s night shifts.

Animal helper Pat dropped off a Bara Brith covered in silver foil yesterday, and Rosemary and German Bernard from the far side of the village did the same with bottles of jam and chutney.

I’m having a walk later this morning with friends including Chic Eleanor. 

We’ve planned a proper coffee on Colwyn Bay Beach.

Eleanor predicted the amble will be “ glorious” 

My Sunday trip to see Nu is definitely off .....😭

I haven’t seen her for nearly a year.

The vet called, Winnie’s ashes were there to be collected.

I thought this odd as I had not originally requested any , but I collected them anyway.

When I got home, I found that my sister had left a planter and some primula plants for her so in the rain I sprinkled the old girl around the front garden 

As Albert watched wide eyed from under the holly bush near the front door

baba Yetu

 It’s just two years since I joined the choir

But we have not sung properly together for going on ten months now.

I am missing it so.

When the choir “ got” a song, and when I say “ got” I mean when we nailed it, Jamie our 1940’s  RAF moustached choir master would often encourage us to to leave the circle in which we sing to experience the harmonies from another perspective .  

“ Walk around and listen” he would say and although I often find physical movement within choir embarrassing , when I finally did so, I was always amazed by how beautiful we could sound

Just thirty people , most of us with no experience in music.

All singing quite beautifully together

I’m finding Tuesday zoom choir meetings somewhat difficult. Singing alone in the kitchen, to a prerecorded track isn’t the same as choir and again my natural ability to become easily embarrassed can take over from the raw confidence singing within a group can give you.

I miss the solidarity of being part of a whole.

I miss the psychological boost of endorphins when my natural shyness starts to disappear in melody

Does that make sense?

I miss those voices around me. 

I miss being enveloped in the magic of the noise we can make

I miss those acoustics of the village hall that makes us sound so much better than we are

This song, Baba Yetu is the Lord’s Prayer in Swahili 

I would love for us to sing it when we meet up, again, properly.

A Thought

What day is it?

Who knows 

This video  really pleased me 

 Why do you think that is so?

Answers on a postcard

A Pig In A Condom

 

I got up and walked the dogs at 8am.

It was grey and humourless outside so we went back to bed until 1 am

Then I walked the dogs for their long walk and fed them and we returned to bed again

I didn’t say it was going to be an interesting post. 

I was just dozing off when my work what’s app group pinged .

Apparently the Welsh Government has given a 500£ One off Thank You payment to care home workers for their battle against covid but workers in hospices were exempt from this gesture of goodwill  

The hospice management team thought this unfair and today matched that thank you for all front line staff

A nice and timely thought 

If anyone reading this think that this payment is not deserved they could have seen an overly sweaty me being pulled out of a plastic PPE overall by two support workers after a twelve hour shift

I looked like a melting pig in a condom 

Terrier

 London is in lockdown 

My planned visit to see Nu on Sunday looks like it may be off.

That’s broken my heart just a little.

I fell asleep before choir tonight and only managed the last few minutes 

But I did manage to frame by latest bit of art

A terrier’s face

Have Yourself.......

I finished night shift at 8am yesterday morning, today I have off and tomorrow I am back on nights for three.

No wonder I woke up this morning without a clue what day it was .

Last night I joined the Trelawnyd Women’s Institute  for their Christmas Concert.

Now it wasn’t a Sherry fuelled sing song with Bunty and Pippa leading a much spirited Can Can sort of do. Ma Manly with daughter Kelda had booked a bona fide Scottish Folksinger Iona Fyfe to perform which proved to be a cracking idea.

I really enjoyed it 

There was lots of chatter before the main event. Gwawr from Bron Haul sat with her new baby Jack , Cameron’s mum looked every inch like a Downton Abbey character , surrounded as she was with expensive looking oil paintings and Village leader Ian looked rather dapper in his cottage study.

I did notice that Margaret from Erw Wen didnt quite get her iPad straight so we could only see her nostrils for most of the evening.

The concert itself was sweet. Iona Fyfe has a lovely ballad hugging voice and her remit was to keep things light which was an ok decision but it was her atmospheric Christmas songs that made the most impression 

Her rendition of “Have yourself a merry little Christmas” backed by villagers swaying gently in front of their fires and Christmas trees proved to be an incredibly moving experience.

Have yourself a Merry Little Christmas ,

Let your heart be light
From now on
Our troubles will be out of sight

Have yourself a merry little Christmas
Make the Yule-tide gay
From now on
Our troubles will be miles away

Here we are as in olden days
Happy golden days of yore
Faithful friends who are dear to us
Gather near to us once more

Through the years we all will be together
If the fates allow
Hang a shining star upon the highest bough
And have yourself a merry little Christmas now

Traditions

 We all have silly traditions when it comes to Christmas.

It’s the time of year where memories float forward into psychi again, like an ebbing tide ,

and traditions visited again, gives you a sense of time and place and person and emotion.

I have only one full day off before being back on night duty on Wednesday, and so after a sleep I thought I’d hang the Christmas cards already delivered around the living room

My tradition is to fill every wall in the room.

It’s not a big tradition , but like all mini obsessions, it’s pleasing when it’s completed.

I’m three quarters completed so far.

The bad tempered postman dropped off a delivery of cards this afternoon, sending Dorothy into a mild state of low anxiety. 

Albert has not moved from his new position in the bedroom window seat. 

He was carefully watching Trendy Carol pass when I last saw him 

She has a new bright orange puffer jacket .

Mi Bon Siach

 If you have the chance watch the tv series Unorthodox 

It’s the story of Esty, a nineteen year old ultra Orthodox Jew living in Brooklyn and her struggle with coping with her secular life.

This moment stands out as one of the most powerful I have ever seen on film as Esty, ( Shira Haas) auditions for a place in a German Conservatory which is her final ticket to a more mainstream and happy life.

The power and desperation  in this performance , which incidentally is a traditional Jewish wedding song ( Mi Bon Siach which means The Love Of A Bride) is amazing 

I watched this final episode yesterday afternoon, as I lay in bed.

It was a piece of film making so powerful I had to get up and walk it’s effects away.

I’m not moaning here, life alone is what it is, but I so needed to talk about the scene and how it made me feel inside and I couldn’t ! 

So had to walk away my thoughts around the village , which was cold and wet , yet filled with cheerfulness and bright lights and after 20 minutes I felt less tense and more relaxed

Unorthodox is not an easy watch, but it is a powerfully emotive one with a magnificently performed lead role .

Julie

 You forget just how good Julie Andrews is

This is a somewhat cheesy Christmas version 

But listen it it with your eyes shut

Sublime 

Off to work in a bit 

A Rose , A Puffin, The Women’s Institute Concert and a 24 year old thank you!

 I’ve talked of serendipity a great deal on Going Gently over the past two years .

It’s a phenomenon that has swing into my life like the pendulum of a great clock

And like a good clock, it’s presence has been timely.

Last night’s shift was a busier one than normal. I was knackered afterwards , and when I had breakfast this morning, I ate left over coriander salad with chicken out of the side of my mouth as I leaned sleepily across the kitchen table still in my uniform

I looked down at Dorothy who was licking her lips from her position in Winifred’s arm chair and told her to bugger off 

“Its been an emotionally  tiring week!” I told her, but unlike Winnie she didn’t understand my words and just looked guilty.

Winnie would have nodded benignly and would have mew mewed me a kiss.

I was in bed only ten minutes before a rather gorgeous delivery driver knocked on the door

The box was large and contained a standard rose for the garden.

The roses depicted on the accompanying label were old fashioned yellow and scented and called “ Winnie” a gift from my friend Colin 

A wonderful gift , and one that couldn’t be more timely 

The girls and I went back to bed feeling happy and warm.

An hour or so later another delivery man knocked .

He left a small square package, a gift from another friend

The card accompanying it said simply a puffin for an old dear poof...add it to that bloody art wall of yours

I returned to bed and slept.

When I  did eventually woke I noticed a message on my phone from the Trelawnyd WI .

They have organised an on line Zoom concert for Monday and wondered if any of the villagers wanted to join in. The singer is Iona Fyfe https://ionafyfe.com/

So there is Monday evening sorted ....village elder Ian says he’s quaffing craft ales during the concert.

I think I may have some gin left over in the fridge.

Iona Fyfe

Tonight I feel much brighter because of the rose bush, and the puffin and the concert.

And of this short note which popped up tonight from Facebook messenger 

“Hi John, you probably can’t remember me but I was an inpatient at sheffield spinal injuries unit in 1996/7, at the same time that the then nikki Claxton of gladiators came was there. I was just chatting with another fellow inpatient of the time,  and he mentioned the sheffield SIU friends page and there you were! You were such a terrific charge nurse and helped me and my family through what was an incredibly difficult time so 24 years later, a big Thank you to you for really making a difference all those years ago.

I hope this finds you well.Best wishes, Amanda”

How lovely!!!! a thank you message 24 years “ late” but like the rose bush, and the puffin and the concert invitation...oh so timely.

Serendipity? Perhaps ?....it’s a funny old thing

 

By Bryce Cameron Liston 

North Wales 1978

I’m with the cows lick and no blazer

I don’t remember this photo being taken

I was perhaps sixteen years old.

Prestatyn High School circa 1978

I don’t recognise that gauche young boy.

This is because my school years were some of my most unhappy ones I ever experienced 

Perhaps you can tell that from the half non smile on my face.

Earlier this week I put a few ghosts to bed. 

I accepted that many of my happiest memories were when I was partnered and married .

The anger masking these ....left behind , just a little

Clingy

 

It’s easy to anthropomorphise animal behaviour to suit your own mood 

But take a close look at this photo, taken just before getting up this morning 

Dorothy is on the left, Mary to the right.

Both with a part of their body pressed close to mine.

And overlooking everyone is Albert, wide eyed as usual.

Albert never sleeps in my bedroom.

Every morning he would be found in the back bedroom on his own or else sat with Winifred in the kitchen reading chair. 

But since Winnie died he has slept on the window seat, facing us.

Two nights in a row.

Funny what you notice

Mecrowavey

 This has brightened my day 

And speaking of food 

for locals 

Please order from The Crown takeaway menu

It looks bloody lovely

Down With A Bump

I’m flat as a pancake today.

I thought I would be.

Thank you all for the kind comments of the past two days.

Everything is back to normality though Albert is pacing the cottage more than normal 

I’m not surprised .

I went shopping and bumped into one of the senior staff from intensive Care. She asked me to go back saying that they were in need of my humour and she hugged me....

I felt like crying

I’ve made vegetable soup, warmed with chilli and wrapped gifts and wrote Christmas cards

And at lunchtime John Lewis delivered the small table I’d ordered for the living room, which gave me another construction job to do.

Social media from the village let everyone know that Mrs Turpin had lost one of her beloved schnauzers, so I took a plant around.

She cried buckets. 

My friend Brian , who lives in Ireland has just married his long term partner Aaron yesterday. He sent me the photographs. I wish the couple well.....Covid weddings are not easy , I am sure .

Brian and Aaron

Winnie Remembered

Winifred Sâlote Tupou lV was a diva of rare proportions.

She was a blog writer’s dream as her adventures over her seven years at Bwthyn Y Llan never ever needed embellishing. 

She was truly larger than life

Larger than I ever expected from our first, rather lacklustre meeting. 

The meeting was September 1st 2013.

I was in the middle of organising my last open Allotment Day when she arrived with her previous owner for an introduction, so our meeting was brief and , for me somewhat disappointing.

All I remember thinking was that she was overly large, had no neck to speak of and looked frightened of everything but I agreed she could come a few days later for a trial run.

And after that, stay she did.

I think Winnie was a fully cooked five year old bulldog when she arrived and it wasn’t long before I worked out that she had her own quirky set of obsessions which proved to be somewhat of a challenge when she finally got her confidence.

• She masturbated incessantly, goaded on by the Professor who thought this behaviour hilarious rather than embarrassing and the object of her desires centred upon his tastefully buffed brogues and the infamous “ Slippers of sex” which were strange hand knitted slippers designed and made by Kit, an old lady who still lives in Bron Haul......Her habit of self pollution continued until her late onset emergency  hysterectomy a couple of years ago, but even then , very occasionally she would back her toilet parts seductively onto her trusty fanny flannel when having a periodic summer bath.

The slippers of sex

• She adored visiting Workmen of any description , though it was fairly obvious that a generic friendly masculine type with overalls was her man of choice, and I must say that she would sulk for hours if she was not allowed to watch what household job needed to be completed. I also remember, her going missing when the British Telicom men were here putting in the broadband extra line. .........I eventually found her sitting in the telicom van’s passenger seat sharing a packet of cheese and onion crisps....
• Winifred was also totally obsessed with food. All food. Any food.....and I once famously brought her round after a particularly robust attack of heatstroke after dipping her nipples into a cold bath and dropping a Tesco cocktail sausage on her gums.
• Her food obsession lead to a life of stealing if left unchecked and I remember the toe curling embarrassment when she raided an elderly woman’s handbag for her polo mints and the time she helped herself to a baby’s Farley’s Rusk , which she found wrapped on the lower shelf of a baby buggy parked in the Church Yard.
• She adored very small children too, and given her great size remained totally in control and gentle when around them. I remember one very emotional moment, observed a couple of times on Going Gently when she suddenly found herself surrounded by a large gaggle of pre school children out for a crocodile linked walk on the Dyserth walkway one summer. I warned the supervisor that she was indeed safe and as I walked up I saw a plethora of stubby little hands rub every inch of her in wonder.....her gentleness and obvious pure pleasure of the toddlers’ attention moved me to tears as I glimpsed just for a moment her natural ability of being a mother

Of all of her fellow animals in and out of the cottage, only one became a true friend, and that friend was Albert. I have often blogged that only she, out of all of my dogs had the capacity for thought and the understanding of simple concepts. 

She understood Albert, and was never fazed by cat behaviour, (idiosyncrasies that were always lost by the other dogs 

)and last night,  as she lay silent and still on the kitchen floor, only Albert came to her, carefully and wide eyed, to sit between her paws , his black head rubbing hers.

In full sulk

Albert and Winnie

George and Winnie on their last walk up the Gop

Winnie was so pissed off with me in the photo taken Christmas Day 2018

I had taken her down the beach and she was cold and wanted to go home

Now Winnie, was also a serial sulker. I often referred to her as being a gay man in a bulldog suit as when thwarted or god forbid told off in any way she would stare carefully into the middle distance for the longest of times before flinging herself with gay abandon onto a rug or an unoccupied sofa.

The longest sulk I ever timed, lasted almost six hours....a lifetime in the dog world.

Her last half hour on earth was typically Winnie. She ate a full bowl of dog food ( garnished with several Aldi cocktail sausages) then was allowed a ten minute hysterical rubber chicken gum before settling down on the mat by the door ( instead of her usual place in the reading armchair next to the radiator ) 

And that was where I found her only an hour later. 

Quiet and peaceful 

And all on her own terms 

I’m sad but not heartbroken ....it was her time to go 

And like the ideal cocktail party guest 

She didn’t outstay her visit

But I shall miss my old girl 

Winifred The Queen of Tonga

 She had all of her tea,

then Joined Mary in some rubber chicken horseplay 

And died quietly in the kitchen 

When I was having a bath

I will write an appropriate eulogy for her tomorrow 

She deserves one