tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post932215452449553743..comments2024-03-19T08:16:08.115+00:00Comments on Going Gently: Thoughts of a singletonJohn Going Gentlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comBlogger78125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-75959534703882819112018-12-03T19:13:40.081+00:002018-12-03T19:13:40.081+00:00A relationship is one of the most beautiful things...A relationship is one of the most beautiful things one can experience in so many ways. And,yet, on the other hand can be very difficult at times on so many levels. Guess it depends on what we want for them in the first place.Jimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11199777195853274898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-26766603515286219602018-12-03T19:00:08.950+00:002018-12-03T19:00:08.950+00:00Being Single, Gay, and Older is another world.... ...Being Single, Gay, and Older is another world.... i dont like to say this but it is also a Harsher Gay World, the Civility that I had known as a young gay man is not there any more... <br /><br />However, it also gives you the freedom to explore... and be open about it... that might be the best thing .."Tommy"https://www.blogger.com/profile/11080595244477777704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-12390881479855272772018-12-03T16:53:36.678+00:002018-12-03T16:53:36.678+00:00John you are a total love and one day you will mee...John you are a total love and one day you will meet someone who deserves you xxxSarah Jonesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-1211506060874820082018-12-03T12:38:17.264+00:002018-12-03T12:38:17.264+00:00Enjoy being single for now, embrace it, you won’t ...Enjoy being single for now, embrace it, you won’t be single long, you just won’t, trust me, I know these things lol🙂Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-30268581982160025492018-12-03T11:11:47.432+00:002018-12-03T11:11:47.432+00:00I once believed that being without a partner (good...I once believed that being without a partner (good or bad) was to be the worst thing that could happen to me John. You of course know some of my history my friend and after twenty four years of a marriage where I now realise it was wrong for me at least I became single and not coping with depression at the same time. To say that this was a tumultuous period of my life is akin to saying 'it's a bit parky at the north pole'! I yearned for a companion and this led me into several ermmm situations, good and bad that would fill my blog and probably strike a chord with many a folk. In the end I took stock and realised that I did not need companionship or a lover to enjoy my life and I came to terms with this, not quickly but eventually (I guess the passing of hurt, emotions etc take on the same speed as a glacier). <br />Damn thing is when I came to the point of being able to accept things for the way the are I met George and though I do not fear being single once more to lose her would take more of a heavy toll than perhaps I would care to admit.<br />I guess I'm just trying to say, without hopefully being too condescending, is that you will be fine my friend. After all if a caveman who suffers the Black dog can get by I am sure a good and kind soul as you are will find your path.....Johnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13845113520987402425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-60197780931547328282018-12-03T09:49:05.207+00:002018-12-03T09:49:05.207+00:00I haven't been single for such a long time, bu...I haven't been single for such a long time, but I do remember I wasn't very good at it the first time around. I can't imagine the adjustment now and, like you, I never conformed to how I was told by others a gay man was "supposed to behave" and I'm sure most gay men don't. As a matter of fact, we don't conform even now according to many of our coupled non-monogamous friends. Moving with Mitchellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12954028272162285597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-34151649526361224862018-12-03T09:28:53.320+00:002018-12-03T09:28:53.320+00:00My heart has been broken a few times, and I have a...My heart has been broken a few times, and I have also broken some as well. Swings and roundabouts that's life. Oh the freedom of not having to bother again. Bliss. Meanqueenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02705837426373680532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-70043722637169292372018-12-03T09:21:07.446+00:002018-12-03T09:21:07.446+00:00John we are spiritual twins separated by three yea...John we are spiritual twins separated by three years and an entire globe ;-) And, it works out. MrsC (Maryanne)https://www.blogger.com/profile/14440723067459232998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-20764625377418586982018-12-03T08:12:47.632+00:002018-12-03T08:12:47.632+00:00As my mother used to say ‘there’s a pot for every ...As my mother used to say ‘there’s a pot for every lid’... Wandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14674861197059323883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-22213028400627973872018-12-03T05:22:30.545+00:002018-12-03T05:22:30.545+00:00Perhaps this is the most telling statement of all....Perhaps this is the most telling statement of all. Give yourself time to grieve your broken heart. I’m sorry it didn’t work out. They say not to make any major decisions for a year after a life changing event. Alicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12317992740650387671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-11180988511486401362018-12-03T04:37:46.285+00:002018-12-03T04:37:46.285+00:00I have known many gay couples that have been toget...I have known many gay couples that have been together decades. It's like the tribulations that they went through to become a recognized couple made them stronger. You will find an exceptional quality person because you are an exceptional quality person. My psychology professor once told me that "like finds like." He's out there and you will be happy again.Mary Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06338257247926089751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-19892471834895875572018-12-03T01:55:32.704+00:002018-12-03T01:55:32.704+00:00I very much agree with your views on monogamy. N...I very much agree with your views on monogamy. Not all of our fellow-fellows do. You will find comfort and happiness again. Travelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07787024407420088973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-57214409535323074382018-12-03T01:28:35.471+00:002018-12-03T01:28:35.471+00:00Some men are into that sort of thing. Hey ho.
-in...Some men are into that sort of thing. Hey ho.<br /><br />-invisigalAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-24720388854592603452018-12-03T01:16:18.441+00:002018-12-03T01:16:18.441+00:00I might have to start calling you Valerie... Vale...I might have to start calling you Valerie... Valerie Singleton.Yorkshire Puddinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06019673884543913089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-3489918133841175392018-12-02T23:45:58.615+00:002018-12-02T23:45:58.615+00:00Not looking for anyone else. Ill become a spinster...Not looking for anyone else. Ill become a spinster who smells of peeJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-56979919151236418612018-12-02T23:42:43.675+00:002018-12-02T23:42:43.675+00:00Agreed...i so agree Agreed...i so agree John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-89515703462330820112018-12-02T23:42:06.509+00:002018-12-02T23:42:06.509+00:00No answer to thst one xNo answer to thst one xJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-67913381258514808962018-12-02T23:41:32.089+00:002018-12-02T23:41:32.089+00:00It helpsIt helpsJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-85402399372113447782018-12-02T23:41:09.049+00:002018-12-02T23:41:09.049+00:00Yeap sell it to yourself eh Yeap sell it to yourself eh John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-5139681193935734512018-12-02T23:40:32.851+00:002018-12-02T23:40:32.851+00:00Yes no abguity thereYes no abguity thereJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-284436062062023862018-12-02T23:39:17.782+00:002018-12-02T23:39:17.782+00:00Handsome.....youre a keeper xxHandsome.....youre a keeper xxJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-36486709120049457462018-12-02T23:34:37.673+00:002018-12-02T23:34:37.673+00:00John you are handsome, kind, intelligent, cultured...John you are handsome, kind, intelligent, cultured with a wicked sense of humour! Some lucky bloke will snatch you up the moment you are open to the idea! In the meantime, enjoy the solitude.<br /><br />-invisigal<br /><br />Should you ever wish to come to Canada to parade around how happy you are, my spare room is all yours.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-33169165248150446052018-12-02T23:26:21.269+00:002018-12-02T23:26:21.269+00:00I recently heard a woman discussing relationships ...I recently heard a woman discussing relationships on National Public Radio (NPR) in the States. She stated that monogamy is no longer a given in modern relationships. Monogamy has to be negotiated between the couple. Richardhttps://rjjs8878.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-71097699607402104272018-12-02T22:41:40.969+00:002018-12-02T22:41:40.969+00:00I married at 20 so I didnt even really have a sing...I married at 20 so I didnt even really have a single life but my husband was always angry so i also didnt really have a married life.<br />Now I have to figure it all out. I guess if i consider it an adventure it might be easier!kyliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08964475783207438103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-5439323822305940662018-12-02T22:30:52.370+00:002018-12-02T22:30:52.370+00:00I am glad to see you are surround by Love here. I am glad to see you are surround by Love here. Ur-spohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04237644452200889946noreply@blogger.com