tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post6618155976687103331..comments2024-03-29T06:35:42.668+00:00Comments on Going Gently: SimplicityJohn Going Gentlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comBlogger42125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-88462825043109494122022-06-30T20:34:12.374+00:002022-06-30T20:34:12.374+00:00I will chase this up x I will chase this up x John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-60832689904185152432022-06-30T14:15:40.765+00:002022-06-30T14:15:40.765+00:00Rituals mean a lot to people, but sometimes we nee...Rituals mean a lot to people, but sometimes we need to gently be reminded there are other options.<br /><br />I enjoy going to a cemetery and reading the old tombstones, but I don't see the point in spending over 10K on a funeral these days. Especially when you do not have that kind of cash.<br /><br />Have you ever watched Ask a Mortician on You Tube? Caitlin is fantastic. She is founder of The Order of the Good Death, which is about death acceptance and natural burial. <br />You should read her book: Smoke Gets in Your Eyes & Other Lessons from the Crematory. Very eye opening about the funeral industry and what life changing event brought her to where she is today.MissFifihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09948141818594611257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-33926858085050244652022-06-29T16:25:25.090+00:002022-06-29T16:25:25.090+00:00I want nothing more than a cheap funeral. I believ...I want nothing more than a cheap funeral. I believe I will reside in the thoughts of the living and not in the remains or the ground they are buried beneath.Bathwaterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08992873498618424363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-31467573700446968952022-06-29T11:57:53.198+00:002022-06-29T11:57:53.198+00:00Before my dad died, he asked that we not hold any ...Before my dad died, he asked that we not hold any kind of funeral service. So we had him cremated and shared our memories within the family over several dinners and that was that. I thought it was a pretty smart way to go.Steve Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11684120060438252945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-91951813027103964432022-06-29T11:56:04.944+00:002022-06-29T11:56:04.944+00:00I read that book by Patricia Cornwell. It was scar...I read that book by Patricia Cornwell. It was scary but I liked it enough to read ger other books. lol The body farm I chose is associated with Western Carolina University (where I attended many years ago)in the beautiful Appalachian mountains. I find it calming knowing I will get to just be for a time after death.Hidden Haven Homesteadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00678859491656051958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-66918992275604809542022-06-29T11:46:52.602+00:002022-06-29T11:46:52.602+00:00As we live next door to a cemetery, my daughter su...As we live next door to a cemetery, my daughter suggests just tipping me over the fence at the appropriate time. Little sod.<br />Me, I think a direct cremation and let the living decide on the remembrance. If they want. ShellyChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00705808838009726399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-8432830786633596792022-06-29T09:31:21.254+00:002022-06-29T09:31:21.254+00:00My Mum has already signed up with Pure Cremations ...My Mum has already signed up with Pure Cremations and tells me ever week about her wishes that no one comes to her funeral, no advert is to go in the newspaper and no relatives are informed etc etc. I am trying slowly and surely to winkle in the little extras that I just KNOW are necessary. The small afternoon tea for all her friends in the residents lounge, arranging a meal or buffet at a later date for family that WILL want a get together but that she will know nothing about. As you say there is a NEED to say goodbye and these funerals do not always encompass that. What they do do is split the cost, which will end up being pretty similar by the time I have paid for the meal for family, the food and drinks for her friends etc. etc.Sue https://www.blogger.com/profile/04947919568474743963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-20605180466443518252022-06-29T07:38:47.134+00:002022-06-29T07:38:47.134+00:00I'd be quite happy to donate my body to the lo...I'd be quite happy to donate my body to the local 'waste to energy' plant for free and help with electricity generation on my way out. <br />I fancied the idea of being buried simply under a tree, but then that became trendy and expensive; sadly no longer an option. Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07084671596939736666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-73562196191102189092022-06-29T04:30:27.732+00:002022-06-29T04:30:27.732+00:00For me it would be a direct cremation with ashes r...For me it would be a direct cremation with ashes returned to family. Then a simple family gathering at home which we would have put together ourselves hopefully. I see it more as a time for them to just be together to cry and laugh and move on in a way. But just them, as I remember how I felt at my father's more traditional funeral. <br /><br />Completely agree with you your thoughts and those of Ellen D. and Athene.MarisAnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03550135565018890015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-32819834455194630562022-06-29T03:43:50.793+00:002022-06-29T03:43:50.793+00:00I did see an ad' recently that made cremation ...I did see an ad' recently that made cremation seem more like a party than a saying of goodbye.Cro Magnonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06840670227576695352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-46919881269033351952022-06-29T03:12:29.839+00:002022-06-29T03:12:29.839+00:00I think I’m conceited enough to want a headstone
...I think I’m conceited enough to want a headstone <br />But why? It’s only the theatrical gay in me that needs oneJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-32906286565844819382022-06-29T03:11:29.003+00:002022-06-29T03:11:29.003+00:00Lisa at your funeral
Well you couldn’t get any ga...Lisa at your funeral <br />Well you couldn’t get any gayer! John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-58462988672300532642022-06-29T03:10:44.612+00:002022-06-29T03:10:44.612+00:00I agree and the world is full of shoulda, coulda w...I agree and the world is full of shoulda, coulda woulda <br />But I always think if it gives solace to someone why notJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-21892479178336242142022-06-29T03:09:39.042+00:002022-06-29T03:09:39.042+00:00Like I said funerals are often for the livingLike I said funerals are often for the livingJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-89837465355751411472022-06-29T03:08:05.857+00:002022-06-29T03:08:05.857+00:00The body farm is a title of a book which scared me...The body farm is a title of a book which scared me , so immediately my back went up at the thought of it. <br />Funny that<br />As you describe …sat up against a tree…sounds wonderfulJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-1256002855862031932022-06-29T03:06:45.907+00:002022-06-29T03:06:45.907+00:00Points well made
I’ve been to a funeral in the vil...Points well made<br />I’ve been to a funeral in the village hall and it worked beautifully <br />I’ve also been to some great funeral where the celebrant has made an effort to get under the skin of the deceased , bringing their death into life so to speak. <br />We are governed by conventions and by ritual and forget that we can make our own rituals John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-43885037191165505032022-06-29T03:04:11.131+00:002022-06-29T03:04:11.131+00:00A point well made…though prey is not the word I’d ...A point well made…though prey is not the word I’d like to use but I guess you are right…..I think most people are cottoning on to the fact that funerals even burials etc can be prepaid much cheaply , with all sorts of deals and discounts now John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-55339885640935820112022-06-29T03:02:43.810+00:002022-06-29T03:02:43.810+00:00And you have kept control and are getting what you...And you have kept control and are getting what you want. I think I’m thinking of those that feel they ought to act in a certain way or families that can’t organise what they want because of costJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-47067152634760463642022-06-29T03:01:37.789+00:002022-06-29T03:01:37.789+00:00NiceNiceJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-7835092046361728142022-06-29T03:01:00.039+00:002022-06-29T03:01:00.039+00:00I used to have a fixed and rather indulgent view o...I used to have a fixed and rather indulgent view on my own funeral<br />That has certainly changed over the past couple of years John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-26996744910319718872022-06-29T03:00:02.680+00:002022-06-29T03:00:02.680+00:00That’s the therapeutic part of having control That’s the therapeutic part of having control John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-69635018206135914332022-06-29T02:59:01.778+00:002022-06-29T02:59:01.778+00:00For many it’s a milestone to endure and get throug...For many it’s a milestone to endure and get through, <br />For others it’s an event which brings some closure .<br />I’m no expert it’s horses for coursesJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-90356611032412079502022-06-29T02:41:40.444+00:002022-06-29T02:41:40.444+00:00I’ve always wanted my own burial plot, but for who...I’ve always wanted my own burial plot, but for whom? No one will visit ….so cheap and cheerful for meJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-19306339710351607042022-06-29T02:26:54.042+00:002022-06-29T02:26:54.042+00:00Money better spent another way in my opinion.
Medi...Money better spent another way in my opinion.<br />Medical school will take my body cremate when finished with me and turn over to my family. Hoping they can find a cure for something or another with my remains.<br />Could be the next pandemic answer in my remains at least the Dr. / scientist to study me could go on to be crucial in some way to health.Gemma's personhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02740156670047388540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-13015673814016675562022-06-29T01:04:28.535+00:002022-06-29T01:04:28.535+00:00Funerals. Regardless of the cost, like everybody,...Funerals. Regardless of the cost, like everybody, I've been to a few. Saying goodbye, in my view, happens long before the funeral and is very personal and private. The funeral process sometimes is very showy. I've seen people show up out of the blue...out of respect or friendship and sometimes for both. It is an odd mix. I had one person say they came for the dinner. Another person, introduced herself and thanked me for the Harvard education my relative paid for. For me, funerals are always a learning experience. Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14473063249106111719noreply@blogger.com