tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post4918987766775116236..comments2024-03-29T06:35:42.668+00:00Comments on Going Gently: Over A GinJohn Going Gentlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-60255799265164026542019-09-21T00:18:24.307+00:002019-09-21T00:18:24.307+00:00nothing like being understood. you gave him that.nothing like being understood. you gave him that.37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-46623727862183368042019-09-19T13:25:34.578+00:002019-09-19T13:25:34.578+00:00Expensive xxExpensive xxJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-19348235239358508542019-09-19T02:51:59.082+00:002019-09-19T02:51:59.082+00:00I deal a lot with shame, more than guilt, in my pa...I deal a lot with shame, more than guilt, in my patients.<br />By the way - what sort of gin?Ur-spohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04237644452200889946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-66980753931261519212019-09-19T00:23:10.334+00:002019-09-19T00:23:10.334+00:00This is just good news for both of you.Well, perha...This is just good news for both of you.Well, perhaps better for him, just now.Joanne Noragonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16601010208310707750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-86804505106911407862019-09-18T22:36:20.585+00:002019-09-18T22:36:20.585+00:00Iris you are a fucking hoot 😂Iris you are a fucking hoot 😂Moaning Mavishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09952834138083799007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-29251595034805774542019-09-18T22:08:02.380+00:002019-09-18T22:08:02.380+00:00We can all use a few more friends. He's probab...We can all use a few more friends. He's probably grateful of the chance to talk to someone who knows. -Jenncoffeeontheporchwithmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17618627688821849806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-69070262403389844422019-09-18T20:46:03.405+00:002019-09-18T20:46:03.405+00:00Does John own a bedazzler to snazzy up the crocs?Does John own a bedazzler to snazzy up the crocs?Irishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12550611275677498097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-15630803794611200722019-09-18T20:21:06.985+00:002019-09-18T20:21:06.985+00:00I am glad you have met one another although I am s...I am glad you have met one another although I am sorry for what you both have been through. Shame should not be such a common emotion in this situation but I know I felt it too when I was divorced. When he left me I felt like I wasn't good enough.Bonniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17738727252267659979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-26623425263225970342019-09-18T19:52:21.771+00:002019-09-18T19:52:21.771+00:00My best friend and fellow countryman was who I con...My best friend and fellow countryman was who I confided and talked to. We had both experienced life through similar circumstances, I could rely on her sympathetic ear at all times. She left this world in January this year, and today is her birthday, the first I haven't celebrated with her in 46 years.<br />Friendship and compassion is one of life's shining moments, glad you were able to share one with your new friend.<br />Hugs<br />Jo<br />XA Brit in Tennesseehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16080644141670903160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-26637614507324265992019-09-18T19:15:33.106+00:002019-09-18T19:15:33.106+00:00Shame is such a sad word it's painful especia...Shame is such a sad word it's painful especially when the other person walks away with no regrets, you are better than this and have come through famously and this gentleman is lucky he found you to talk to.Comox Valley and beyondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14592683050512187874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-57772254224894204382019-09-18T18:32:04.665+00:002019-09-18T18:32:04.665+00:00Hi John, Lovely to see you paying it forward and h...Hi John, Lovely to see you paying it forward and helping someone when they need it the most. I knew you would and perhaps a new friend to boot. Good on you. Life is for living take care and enjoy the break. Pattypan xxPattypanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10533048669555871726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-887021584159657842019-09-18T18:19:11.588+00:002019-09-18T18:19:11.588+00:00I see mutual benefits here John and am so glad you...I see mutual benefits here John and am so glad you have found one another.The Weaver of Grasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13947971556343746883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-29912282882234696412019-09-18T18:06:48.523+00:002019-09-18T18:06:48.523+00:00I had a friend, Mary, who let me talk and talk whi...I had a friend, Mary, who let me talk and talk while we hiked. She is a good friend. Rita from Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08722798328449733244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-46232238868106638492019-09-18T17:50:41.054+00:002019-09-18T17:50:41.054+00:00Jan B, my husband died suddenly and living in the ...Jan B, my husband died suddenly and living in the big house was too sad so I moved to Florida to be close to my mom.<br />She died 3 days after I arrived. I remember the time I stopped and wondered Who will I lose next...as always Time seems to be healing the pain...hugs to you.Notes From ABroadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12202279303962539035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-54194893279703436952019-09-18T17:12:37.626+00:002019-09-18T17:12:37.626+00:00" Do you know what the worst emotion is in al..." Do you know what the worst emotion is in all this?" he asked finally<br />" It's shame" I told him and he nodded a cried a bit more.<br /><br />He'd noticed your Croc bejewelled feet. Moaning Mavishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09952834138083799007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-77135236015448234162019-09-18T17:07:47.983+00:002019-09-18T17:07:47.983+00:00I understand all too well where shame comes in, es...I understand all too well where shame comes in, especially as the fellow was in an abusive relationship. Having survived one, I know what that feels like. The average person who has not been in such a situation doesn't get it and usually blames the survivor for not leaving sooner or whatever course of action they think one 'should' have taken. Each relationship is different. Getting away is hard. Surviving is a triumph, but it doesn't come easy.<br />Thank you for taking the time to be there for that guy. A new friend is great reward for compassion.<br />xoxoxoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07477806052578880686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-551833246268075732019-09-18T16:58:51.361+00:002019-09-18T16:58:51.361+00:00is he's gay? (she said hopefully)is he's gay? (she said hopefully)anne marie in phillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11765140782182605141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-90285903358593593372019-09-18T15:40:45.087+00:002019-09-18T15:40:45.087+00:00So glad I found this blog. You are such a lovely p...So glad I found this blog. You are such a lovely person.Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03920743964100466652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-27572737280577581162019-09-18T15:33:30.890+00:002019-09-18T15:33:30.890+00:00I so want to say Paddy the publican... but I won&#...I so want to say Paddy the publican... but I won't :-)Cheriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01049568808770731003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-46423274236428704272019-09-18T15:19:58.855+00:002019-09-18T15:19:58.855+00:00Like Steve, I too misread the post yesterday.
An...Like Steve, I too misread the post yesterday. <br /><br />And as much as shame SHOULDN'T be a part of a breakup, it still IS. It's the feeling of being "not good enough" for someone important in your life, and it takes time and work to overcome. I'm glad you're able to help this man, and hope that the friendship brings both of you comfort and even happiness.jenny_ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15475480579733466963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-44424150488992611452019-09-18T15:19:43.638+00:002019-09-18T15:19:43.638+00:00I'm sure as he learns of your journey to norma...I'm sure as he learns of your journey to normalcy it will give him hope in his journey. I lost the love of my life in April to cancer and my Mom a month later. I find comfort talking to friends who have experienced such pain and thrived. Role models are everywhere if you look and listen.Jan Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04792206979656707142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-63231929480535318952019-09-18T15:09:01.289+00:002019-09-18T15:09:01.289+00:00I kind of think gin has to do with juniper ... so ...I kind of think gin has to do with juniper ... so ... in iunipero veritas? There's probably a whole different phrase for tonic water. ???elfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10339299191893097155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-68029842988075719082019-09-18T14:40:51.771+00:002019-09-18T14:40:51.771+00:00Ah. I misread the mood of your post yesterday. Sou...Ah. I misread the mood of your post yesterday. Sounds like this person is actually interesting -- which changes things entirely.Steve Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11684120060438252945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-82142505550006046902019-09-18T14:19:56.349+00:002019-09-18T14:19:56.349+00:00I am so glad you met one another. You already help...I am so glad you met one another. You already helped him and you can also realize just how far you have come in your own healing.JanFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16408602791221401067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-40926011696558964502019-09-18T13:59:34.471+00:002019-09-18T13:59:34.471+00:00Love how this stranger on a train sensed you would...Love how this stranger on a train sensed you would have an empathetic ear ... and you are becoming friends. My heart welcomes people and their stories .,. But I must have a “leave me alone” face, as strangers typically leave me alone. <br />Cali GAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com