tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post4446685149521196221..comments2024-03-28T23:25:53.221+00:00Comments on Going Gently: PainJohn Going Gentlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comBlogger97125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-9246627631324063622020-07-22T01:58:57.378+00:002020-07-22T01:58:57.378+00:00I welcome you all to my roots/herbs🌴center, @Dr_i...I welcome you all to my roots/herbs🌴center, @Dr_ikhide, I am here to announce to you all that there is no problem without solution, I have the roots/herbs that can cure you from any kinds of infection you may be passing through, don’t be deceive herbal medication work effectively than government hospitals drugs, once you use my medication you will get rid of any diseases like.....cancer cure<br />▪️infections<br />▪️Skin diseases ▪️Ulcers<br />▪️Toothaches<br />▪️Morning sickness<br />▪️Intestinal diseases ▪️Headaches<br />▪️Depression ▪️Low sex drive<br />▪️Coughs and asthma ▪️Dysentery ▪️Constipation ▪️Various eye problems<br />▪️Cancer ▪️Lupus<br />And many other if you know anyone who has any diseases mail me on ikhideherbalcenter@gmail.com call/WhatsApp:+2348145810121 @Dr_ikhide How I Got My Husband Back.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10131270518832266787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-14760140236340557402020-07-17T04:04:10.643+00:002020-07-17T04:04:10.643+00:00I'm so happy my broken Marriage has been rest...I'm so happy my broken Marriage has been restored and my Husband is back after a breakup that leaded to fight, After 2 years of marriage Dr PADMAN brought a smile to my face again thanks You Dr Padman <br /><br />I am very happy today with my family. My husband left me for a good 6 months , and i love him so much, i have been looking for a way to get him back since then. i have tried many options but he didn't come back home , until i met a friend that introduced me to Dr.Padman https://padmanspell.com a spell caster, who helped me to restored my marriage back again Me and my husband are living happily together today,i believed Dr Padman so much today i am glad to let the world know that this spell caster have the power to bring lovers back, because i am now happy with my husband. Dr padman is a great spell caster , you can contact him via padmanlovespell@yahoo.com Now i will advice any serious persons that found themselves in this kind of problem, You can contact him Via his email padmanlovespell@yahoo.com or add him on whats-app with his WhatsApp +19492293867 Website: https://padmanspell.com<br /><br /> Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09342446037989661579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-85498852454588197122020-07-16T17:50:35.428+00:002020-07-16T17:50:35.428+00:00This comment has been removed by the author.Comox Valley and beyondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14592683050512187874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-48402342377519650222020-07-16T17:33:42.005+00:002020-07-16T17:33:42.005+00:00Just being there for your friend and leaving the c...Just being there for your friend and leaving the conversation open for another time no doubt gives comfort knowing he is in a save place with you.<br />To many times a confidential secret can turn into gossip when told to someone who doesn't feel the pain so no wonder that it is hard to open up to just anyone.<br />I feel for all the brave people who have shared their stories it has been a tough read, your all heroes in my books.Comox Valley and beyondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14592683050512187874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-92229486148645097462020-07-16T14:23:36.001+00:002020-07-16T14:23:36.001+00:00The mother may be a sweet woman but she should bel...The mother may be a sweet woman but she should believe her daughter and realise that the pain of abuse has destroyed her life but equally damaging is the fact that the person she should be able to trust and confide in does not believe her. She has essentially been abused and let down by both parents. That's so sad.VChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12326477975870777023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-14463582227503967812020-07-16T14:18:28.734+00:002020-07-16T14:18:28.734+00:00I understand this Andi and your frustration at hav...I understand this Andi and your frustration at having to listen. At least your husband has been able to share with you. VChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12326477975870777023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-54625870892105298132020-07-15T20:09:07.253+00:002020-07-15T20:09:07.253+00:00Thank you for sharing x thank uThank you for sharing x thank uJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-29145720623023269532020-07-15T17:01:00.396+00:002020-07-15T17:01:00.396+00:00Life is so difficult at times, it really is.
All w...Life is so difficult at times, it really is.<br />All we need to do is not not make it worse for others.<br />Reminds me of that song 'Smile though your heart is breaking'.<br />Let us just try to be kind to everyone we meetShellyChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00705808838009726399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-51362047561734624712020-07-15T14:55:06.590+00:002020-07-15T14:55:06.590+00:00I debated whether to post anonymously but instead ...I debated whether to post anonymously but instead will simply say i understand what your friend did. I'll also say I don't know why, but from the time almost since i can remember, i've had many people open up to me and tell me things they have never disclosed to others, including the abuse they've suffered. <br /><br />It explained a lot about why they acted as they did. It taught me there's a whole lot more to the story than most let on.<br /><br />I'd been thinking about this a lot recently with the nearly mandatory mask mandate the governor in our state is implementing. Well, in the more populated counties of the state and those that are along the coast, which includes my county. <br /><br />She did word the original executive order that people who had a medical reason why they couldn't wear a mask were exempt. I got into more than one discussion with people who did not like it when i said the reason why someone cannot wear a mask is not always obvious to the observer. Not only early stage COPD, borderline hypoxia, and sometimes asthma as causes but also trauma and abuse. <br /><br />In nearly every conversation, IF they agreed at all with the trauma/abuse, they dismissed it with a "well, that's not that many people."<br /><br />And here my blood boiled, Waved away, as if it didn't matter. As if THEY didn't matter. When i was in a store before the pretty much mandatory mask thing although many were choosing to wear them (and many judging and condemning those who weren't), I saw a young woman who, like me, wasn't wearing a mask. As I approached (but still 6 ft away), she reluctantly put a mask on and as she did so, I saw that fear in her eyes, and my stomach turned. I'd seen that look when more than one person confided to me that she had been choked by an abuser. The look was immistakeable. She had her mouth covered and was fighting with herself to cover her nose.<br /><br />"You don't need to put that mask on for my benefit," i said and smiled. "I can turn my head aside when we need to pass in the aisle." (This was before they had the one-way aisles in the store.)<br /><br />Relief flooded her face, and her eyes started to fill with tears.<br /><br />It strengthened my resolve to stand up for those who are just trying to get along as best they can. When i see people in the store without masks, and yes, i know some are simply being recalcitrant, I cut them slack. Even one who's most recalcitrant may be covering up something really horrific through his bravado. And in this season of lockdown, I suspect abuse and domestic violence has sadly been more rampant. megan blogshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04555646904983619596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-63879097395289869882020-07-15T09:45:51.073+00:002020-07-15T09:45:51.073+00:00This whole blog entry is sobering not because of m...This whole blog entry is sobering not because of my words but because of the commentators <br />In this tiny snap shot of Blog humanity <br />There was so many, too many, tales of abuse<br />How common it isJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-83127633046764178512020-07-15T09:44:02.185+00:002020-07-15T09:44:02.185+00:00This post breaks your heartThis post breaks your heartJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-49944536044780246022020-07-15T06:08:43.754+00:002020-07-15T06:08:43.754+00:00I'm pleased that your friend had someone to ta...I'm pleased that your friend had someone to talk to about it, even if he didn't say much.<br /><br />A school friend of mine disclosed sexual abuse to me not so long after we left school, I am starting to wonder if my response was reasonable, I was a lot younger and less educated thenkyliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08964475783207438103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-67967948021650361532020-07-15T04:14:08.052+00:002020-07-15T04:14:08.052+00:00The bastards who commit such crimes have no idea w...The bastards who commit such crimes have no idea what pain they leave behind. I had a very good childhood, so it infuriates me to think that so many don't have the same.Cro Magnonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06840670227576695352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-74029861491936035832020-07-15T00:09:47.805+00:002020-07-15T00:09:47.805+00:00For now, this will have to do ... :)
((((((((((((...For now, this will have to do ... :)<br /><br />(((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))Barbara Annenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-44828913906032675922020-07-14T23:56:57.827+00:002020-07-14T23:56:57.827+00:00You have already done something right if he felt h...You have already done something right if he felt he could share with you.Sooo-this-is-mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02001864616415319712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-32884599552596754442020-07-14T23:45:55.786+00:002020-07-14T23:45:55.786+00:00I think the saddest, most heartbreaking, gutwrench...I think the saddest, most heartbreaking, gutwrenching conversation I had was with an 8 year old girl in a Behaviour Assessment program. She had been raped at the age of 6 by an 'uncle' and had all the 'help' available. She was raped again at the age of 8 by another 'uncle'. She had the most haunting eyes, deep, deep pain. She had been caught sexually abusing a 4 year old and after much discussion she said she did it because 'they' (social workers, child protective services, police etc.) had told her after the first rape that 'It would never, never happen to her again'. When it did she said she should do it to someone else so they would know what it was like. She spent many, many months in residential assessment and thank goodness for good therapists etc. she was placed in a good foster home and they ended up adopting her. I often think of her, 30 years later, and wonder how her life turned out. I'm sure the memories will never leave her.Janicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12465050441931715127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-58534458279588757732020-07-14T22:41:34.430+00:002020-07-14T22:41:34.430+00:00Jo, thank you for your honesty
Thank unxJo, thank you for your honesty <br />Thank unxJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-33875228554348148642020-07-14T22:40:38.618+00:002020-07-14T22:40:38.618+00:00And here we are...I can sadly put my hand up as a ...And here we are...I can sadly put my hand up as a survivor of sexual abuse when I was 9. Thankfully for me my abuser was a stranger and for years I blamed myself for the abuse; I belonged to the Girl Guides at the time and one of the mantras was "to help other people". This person told me he had lost his dog, I believed him and went with him to help him find the dog. I told my parents despite being told if I did he would find me and kill me and my family, there was an investigation and no one was ever held accountable. At the age of 32 I sought counselling, it was the best thing I ever did. I was in an abusive relationship for 25 years and thought I deserved it. It still took me a further 7 years to realise I didn't. I left all my abuse behind when I left the relationship at 39. I no longer think about any of it with any pain but I realise I may be one of the lucky ones. Thank you for listening to your friend; the door is open for further discussion should he so wish.<br /><br />Jo in AucklandJOhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01654932887735045108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-25748697192378510152020-07-14T22:29:37.428+00:002020-07-14T22:29:37.428+00:00Yes sol
Yes sol<br />John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-46582081856424737742020-07-14T22:29:01.096+00:002020-07-14T22:29:01.096+00:00 I like him I like himJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-37714560378554978142020-07-14T22:03:56.042+00:002020-07-14T22:03:56.042+00:00I agreeI agreeJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-47785048648763970852020-07-14T22:00:25.697+00:002020-07-14T22:00:25.697+00:00Wow.......just wowWow.......just wowJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-81034174182244430802020-07-14T21:54:53.487+00:002020-07-14T21:54:53.487+00:00I always remember while working as a class room as...I always remember while working as a class room assistant an 8 year old who had just been fostered by a local family opening up to me out of the blue about her birth family. Not sexual abuse but physically and mental abuse to her, her brother and what had happened to the family dog. I just sat there, not sure what to do apart from listen, nod my head and say oh dear. The teacher left us there while the children went out to play. I had to ask later if I had done the right thing, might sound silly but it was quite traumatic at the time.<br />A good friend's second wife was neglected by her teenage Mother and then sexually and physically abused by her step father. Her Mother just turned a blind eye. <br />She was a clever lady with a good job but was a functioning alcoholic, never felt good enough. Their second child was born early with a few complications which she blamed herself for. No one was able to help her, we had not experienced the things she had, we could listen but not totally understand. I think counselling made things worse, she said it was like a giant filing cabinet having a the files just thrown on the floor and not knowing how to put them back in the right place. Tragically, after going out one night unnoticed, she got very drunk and died, leaving a child of a year and a four year old. <br />I expect your friend felt comfortable just opening up to you.Young Nannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-36002135820873333292020-07-14T21:20:17.500+00:002020-07-14T21:20:17.500+00:00The post and comments make me want to cry. I can o...The post and comments make me want to cry. I can only imagine the horrors written here. Stolen childhoods, ruined lives, it's so very sad.<br /><br />I think the fact that your friend added the word "now" to his decision may be important. Maybe in time he will feel like saying more.jenny_ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15475480579733466963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-84975735845392896892020-07-14T20:52:46.269+00:002020-07-14T20:52:46.269+00:00I will leave it , if that's ok, to give courag...I will leave it , if that's ok, to give courage to others <br /><br />Thank u xJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.com