tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post3176861923365785490..comments2024-03-29T14:03:29.530+00:00Comments on Going Gently: The VisitJohn Going Gentlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comBlogger81125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-70837042055397071752017-06-21T13:36:29.551+00:002017-06-21T13:36:29.551+00:00My great aunt always had a simple haircut so there...My great aunt always had a simple haircut so there was nothing to set. But she did like her red lipstick, and to have her nails done. How we laughed and talked together during those times - about anything and everything. So pleased to have shared that time with her. Cookiequeenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11451909878300591255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-82074646942150321012017-06-16T21:31:50.358+00:002017-06-16T21:31:50.358+00:00Blimey John, you've made me cry again. Bless h...Blimey John, you've made me cry again. Bless her. Beverleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13890150929382264192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-76465794699565379592017-06-16T17:24:16.383+00:002017-06-16T17:24:16.383+00:00Oh, Gladys...very sad. How wonderful that one of y...Oh, Gladys...very sad. How wonderful that one of your readers, Amy, crocheted such a lovely blanket for her. Beahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07886227825064266814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-61722073859335093522017-06-16T15:41:17.041+00:002017-06-16T15:41:17.041+00:00The nephew doesn't visit a lot then? Poor Old ...The nephew doesn't visit a lot then? Poor Old Soul's light has been extinguished. It shows in her face.Between Me and Youhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04863155145862706966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-85346819257748151472017-06-16T13:20:54.993+00:002017-06-16T13:20:54.993+00:00Very sad. My 95 year old mum is now in a sheltered...Very sad. My 95 year old mum is now in a sheltered housing block and she also is increasingly vague and flat and disconnected from the outside world. I hope I go while I'm still mentally alert and physically active.nickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-6627330764780577552017-06-16T11:46:58.786+00:002017-06-16T11:46:58.786+00:00Makes me sad . . .
Remembering my mom . . .
(The ...Makes me sad . . . <br />Remembering my mom . . .<br />(The good part . . . you went, you visited, you were present.)Lynnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08723721131329150461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-73513126490825439442017-06-16T11:20:53.845+00:002017-06-16T11:20:53.845+00:00Thanks for the update on Auntie Gladys as sad as i...Thanks for the update on Auntie Gladys as sad as it was to read. It reminded me of the title of your blog"Going gently", if any of us really do. My Mom was a type 1 diabetic,going blind, and hated her nursing home. The staff were very good but she was unhappy not being home.Jane Karwathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10873112386908974146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-75926337491021719452017-06-16T10:08:39.839+00:002017-06-16T10:08:39.839+00:00She has a lot of visitors...all go more often than...She has a lot of visitors...all go more often than iJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-71525484117277133752017-06-16T10:02:48.415+00:002017-06-16T10:02:48.415+00:00How fortunate for Auntie Gladys to have a friend l...How fortunate for Auntie Gladys to have a friend like you, John.Jimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11199777195853274898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-67120607772460395412017-06-16T09:21:01.606+00:002017-06-16T09:21:01.606+00:00It is a good thing that she has you in her life so...It is a good thing that she has you in her life so far.Yaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15181961536405061470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-61421736196574207232017-06-16T08:14:50.423+00:002017-06-16T08:14:50.423+00:00You did a lovely thing for Glad...very caring and ...You did a lovely thing for Glad...very caring and generous. Elle xxEllehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00494264576774267597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-78428164286357661642017-06-16T08:13:19.125+00:002017-06-16T08:13:19.125+00:00Jo you are so right. If not for the patient it sur...Jo you are so right. If not for the patient it sure would make the relatives feel a whole lot better to see them looking loved as well as cared for. My mum was in a nursing home in NZ (my brother lives in NZ & Mum wanted to be near him) and she was given the proverbial 'basin' cut. For a woman that was stylish and took pride in her appearance this must have been heart wrenching if she ever got to look at herself. Broke my heart to see her like that at her end.Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00494264576774267597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-12398583260505368682017-06-16T07:59:04.620+00:002017-06-16T07:59:04.620+00:00Glad that Aunty Gladys liked the blanket, I hope t...Glad that Aunty Gladys liked the blanket, I hope that it will give her a little hug and some comfort. So sad to see our loved ones declining as they get older isn't it. I am sure that she would have loved to have you as her nephew, you are just as important to her as family. I hope that all will be as well for Aunty Gladys as it can be, and for you too John.Amy at love made my homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17111180584250029433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-54997149455129024072017-06-16T05:53:21.417+00:002017-06-16T05:53:21.417+00:00Aww dear Auntie Glad, makes me very sad to see her...Aww dear Auntie Glad, makes me very sad to see her looking so lost. Your visit would have made a sunny break in an otherwise dreary day. I cannot for the life of me understand why care homes do not place more importance on the "wellness" of their clients. A decent hairdo would make them feel all so much better instead they all resort to the short flat brushed off the face look that is easy to do and makes everyone look old and washed out. It's a pity to be old I think.<br /><br />Jo in Auckland, NZ<br />JOhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01654932887735045108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-62741283132692342442017-06-16T04:21:18.285+00:002017-06-16T04:21:18.285+00:00It's been more than 30 years now since my belo...It's been more than 30 years now since my beloved grandmother died. Her constant refrain in the last 6 months or so of her 98 years was, "I'm too old."<br /><br />Dear Auntie Glad's comment immediately reminded me of my Gran. While it was sad for you, John, your visit would have cheered her immensely. And Amy's rug! Now that obviously cheered her enormously. Rozziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13904303063451930538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-43889943856656707572017-06-16T03:56:14.761+00:002017-06-16T03:56:14.761+00:00(((Hugs to you, John!)))(((Hugs to you, John!)))grinyerforestryconsultingllchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12793569343274760806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-60399306577952017562017-06-16T01:44:24.362+00:002017-06-16T01:44:24.362+00:00Oh bless her! My Dad said something to that effect...Oh bless her! My Dad said something to that effect when we visited him in the care home too.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08592184037513559644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-72755750924311642082017-06-16T01:18:13.133+00:002017-06-16T01:18:13.133+00:00I am very misty as I read. My father passed away i...I am very misty as I read. My father passed away in assisted care after a long battle with Parkinson's. He was so graceful through it all. When he was passing so many of the staff came to say goodbye to him, a sort of harem. You are one of the good guys John. It's never easy to watch someone you love and care about decline. You have shared wonderful stories of Auntie Glad that will make her live on. So sweet.Cindihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18049514473568063678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-53626624485046265112017-06-16T01:03:45.934+00:002017-06-16T01:03:45.934+00:00Give yourself a hug from me.You are a good man in ...Give yourself a hug from me.You are a good man in a often unkind world Mr. John Grey.That has value without measure.dustbunny8https://www.blogger.com/profile/16661219671052355475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-55687597129384159432017-06-16T00:54:36.933+00:002017-06-16T00:54:36.933+00:00Difficult to go there John..hard also to see someo...Difficult to go there John..hard also to see someone you also feel great fondness for decline and knowing it. Lovely of Amy to gift the cuddly blanket she made for Glad..I'm sure from what Glad said she felt the love. Hugs ((:)) Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00494264576774267597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-69399758994403204432017-06-15T23:01:54.862+00:002017-06-15T23:01:54.862+00:00No, it's about hers yaelNo, it's about hers yael John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-55061432444725011172017-06-15T23:01:18.239+00:002017-06-15T23:01:18.239+00:00Thank you pat, the voice of pragmatism xThank you pat, the voice of pragmatism xJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-63915503724255873452017-06-15T23:00:23.631+00:002017-06-15T23:00:23.631+00:00She still has a sweetness and dignity about her She still has a sweetness and dignity about her John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-5498275025853619202017-06-15T22:59:26.811+00:002017-06-15T22:59:26.811+00:00Perhaps it was a bad dayPerhaps it was a bad dayJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-8359255742544263392017-06-15T22:58:14.534+00:002017-06-15T22:58:14.534+00:00I want to visit with some of the committee I want to visit with some of the committee John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.com