I told you I had been on a sort of date yesterday.
It was an impromptu meeting arranged after a brief and light social media conversation.
And unlike that awful last date I had after Covid
( 2 hours of my life I will never get back in one lifetime)
I enjoyed chatting with this new guy for over two hours.
He was attractive, obviously bright, somewhat serious but interesting
And for the first time, in a long while I thought I’d like to chat to him again.
As we left the cafe, he turned and gave me a hug and suddenly I read the room
I felt as though I had come to the end of an interview, where I was told subtlety I hadn’t got the job
And a good natured goodbye, had just been issued.
A text later confirmed my non verbal cue
And although I’m not beating myself ( or him) up for anything
I do feel a little deflated today
Hey ho
Oh, what a shame, but at least you enjoyed the time with him, and it ended before you'd invested too much time and emotion. Sending a virtual hug from a straight old lady. xx
ReplyDeleteYes, the fact I got a little hopeful is hopeful in itself
DeleteAw John, I firmly believe there's someone for everyone out there. And this latest 2 hours of pleasant conversation cancelled out the last one. Have another hug from another straight old lady! xx
ReplyDeleteI disagree with your first statement but totally agree with your second
DeleteEven a sort of date is a roll of the dice. Finding a match is a numbers game, with high odds. I am convinced.
ReplyDeleteThink of it as a game and it will be easier.
A friend recently did some speed dating and if this is available to you, I'd give it a shot. My friend is seriously one person now.
edit: dating one person now
DeleteNot many gay speed dates nights near Trelawnyd lol
DeleteBut there are in chester
DeleteHmmm! I would probably have taken a different message from that hug; guess ya had to be there!
ReplyDeleteI miss nothing
DeleteAh well, you enjoyed a very enjoyable 2 hours in pleasant company so that's a bonus x
ReplyDeleteYou are so right, at least I didn’t get angry with him or myself , just a healthy vague disappointment
Deletedon't be disheartened - sounds like an altogether pleasant experience even if the result was not the desired one...... the only way to reach the desired outcome is to keep trying - fingers crossed for you
ReplyDeleteOr give up lol ….give up completely
DeleteWell, as others have said, you gained back those forever wasted two hours a few years ago by this 2 hours of enjoyable conversation. That fellow doesn't know what he's missing. You're a treasure!
ReplyDeleteHugs!
He was sweet, so I’m allowed to be disappointed
DeleteTruly true!
DeleteThanks for telling us about it, and glad you had a good 2 hours talking. You are indeed a treasure and he doesn't know what he's missing. Hugs. Jxx
ReplyDeleteHe was very cute
DeleteDating is hard, it's like selling yourself to a stranger... [remember that guy who cried when you didn't want to continue seeing him, so sad?] but the right person will come someday. Bravo for trying!
ReplyDeleteHe cried because he hadn’t gotten over the death of his husband
DeleteHe could well have decided that you were too good for him!
ReplyDeleteI doubt that one lol
DeleteQuite possible. I once went on a date with a very hunky blonde policeman. During the first half-hour we realised we had absolutely no common ground. He'd never read a book, didn't know about any culture, was just pure, very attractive beefcake. But he was also very nice, and after we'd finished laughing about how unsuited we were, we had a great time. Knowing we'd never have a second date.
DeleteI think we had a great deal in common , hence the hopefull wish for another meet
DeleteYou never will know - you might have dodged a bullet.
ReplyDeletelol that’s one way of looking at it
DeleteThat's disappointing when you enjoyed the time and were starting to think of a repeat, but oh well. At least it was a nice interlude.
ReplyDeleteI suddenly think I’m in a gay version of ….and just like that……….
DeleteGosh,I guess it was nice of him to let you know it would go no further??? I thought the hug was a good sign! Oh well, onward. Linda from PA
ReplyDeleteIt was clear of him, no ambiguity ….very boundaried
DeleteAw, shit! It was sounded good. At least he had the decency to be up front about it. Sending you hugs
ReplyDeleteSo right my friend xx
DeleteI so get this, I last had a lesbian date last May,
ReplyDeleteI thought it went well
She ghosted me
Yours sounded a nice one
Sorry your juices were thwarted
Lee
lol , I hardly had time to develop a juice lol
DeleteBelieve it or not, lots of people have turned ME down too! What is WRONG with them?
ReplyDeletelol so right Debra xx
DeleteMaybe he has a friend he could fix you up with who he thinks would be your type since he interviewed you.
ReplyDeleteNow there’s a thought
DeleteKeith here
ReplyDeleteI haven’t had a date since 2015
Lucky you
Xx
Seen from that perspective xx
DeleteYou are still the king blogger JG. There's always more fish in the sea.
ReplyDeleteQueen blogger xx
DeleteI have been on a few dates myself, not that I'm looking to settle down mind you...but I do like dating. Most have been decided to be good friends. Like you, they were swell, and interesting, but not sure the sense of humor was there, which if someone dates me, they best have one!!!!
ReplyDeleteAnd Ill never understand the ghosting thing.
His loss!
ReplyDeleteBun
I concur! Good for you for trying and going. May there be many more until one clicks.
ReplyDeleteBetter to have tried and failed than to have never tried at all. Another bus is coming.
ReplyDeleteThat's disappointing. I hope you find somebody but if you don't you seem to be very happy with who you are and that's so important
ReplyDeleteOn another note..how's your bad arm ..any better ?
ReplyDeleteShame! It would be interesting to know why, though. As others have said, his loss.
ReplyDeleteDefinitely his loss..but a pleasant evening and not a bad way to say farewell..more virtual ((hugs)) for you x
ReplyDeleteNever give up on yourself. Keep talking to strangers.
ReplyDeleteIt sounds like a good date, and you got a hug, so at least you know he had enjoyed the time that he did spend with you. Disappointment is inevitable when you think one thing and another happens, but it's all life and experience.
ReplyDeleteI have literally just been watching a YouTube video from French Julie, who is a single, straight woman in her early forties. She spoke candidly about living all of her very full life up to now, with one eye on wanting desperately to find a partner or husband and the disappointment of it never happening for her. And then she realised what a good life she has actually had and all that disappointment is one of the few things that have tainted it. So, she moved to France to a village she had never heard of and is taking a year out from everything, recovering from work related burn-out and definitely not husband hunting.
Sorry, that was a long comment!!
DeleteA lovely comment , thank u
DeleteMake new friends while keeping the old friends. You never know where life will lead you. xo
ReplyDeleteThere will be other, more meaningful hugs.
ReplyDeleteThat's sucks, but I'm glad he was kind.
ReplyDeleteTwo hours of pleasant company for both of you, with a kind parting.
ReplyDeletePerhaps he realised that the job was not suitable, though the applicant was excellent.
I am sorry that your date didn't work out well. And as Pixie stated above, at least he was kind.
ReplyDeleteIndeed…
Delete..pleasurable company and a kind parting.... is actually much nicer than it *could* have been.....I can understand feeling a tad deflated....but nothing wrong with that either. As the well know quote....*expect nothing, but have great expectation*.......that's how I see it.
ReplyDeleteSusan M/ Calif
I am sorry, John.
ReplyDeleteSorry that didn't progress, but it obviously wasn't meant to be. He sounds much nicer than the previous date though.
ReplyDeleteHope the right one comes your way. I reckon you will some day meet a handsome vet and lock eyes and hearts over one of your dogs during something as ordinary as a worming and vaccination update (for the dog).
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