tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post9044165436175389863..comments2024-03-29T06:35:42.668+00:00Comments on Going Gently: "So Lonely!"John Going Gentlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comBlogger50125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-31489744523999795222012-09-26T06:56:05.513+00:002012-09-26T06:56:05.513+00:00I agree with Knatoleee. Being an intravert and hap...I agree with Knatoleee. Being an intravert and happily so does stop you from feeling boredom or even loneliness. I`d consider myself an intravert, but I do have good neighbours and friends, too. Getting the balance right between solitude and occasional companionship is making that difference!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09114653674812242486noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-84842441293629230882012-09-25T10:48:11.662+00:002012-09-25T10:48:11.662+00:00It's great you enjoy your own company! I wonde...It's great you enjoy your own company! I wonder if that's got anything to do with the fact that you work as a nurse and have spent substantial time caring for others?<br /><br />I just read an interesting book called Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking. I'm definitely an introvert, in that I need a certain amount of time to myself, and like one-on-one conversations more than big, large group discussions. Anyway, that's probably another kettle of fish, but I was already thinking about how much time people spend alone, and how they feel about it, before I came across your post! Being an only child married to an only child, I am quite happy to spend time on my own, but I need a certain amount of human contact every day! Definitely not a hermit.<br /><br />Animals are great company though!Knatoleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03809822081515082096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-16797537935730079112012-09-25T10:34:56.404+00:002012-09-25T10:34:56.404+00:00One really can't be to lonely when they enjoy ...One really can't be to lonely when they enjoy their own company I would think? also fur and/or feather companions do account for not being alone at any given time. Proven facts of elder people with small pets.. I miss my Crabby Cabbie, but think I keep busy enough not to feel too lonely ever.Cindy@NorthofWiartonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00262513991016475701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-74483915447445774262012-09-25T07:32:50.105+00:002012-09-25T07:32:50.105+00:00I did wonder about how I would cope when I moved h...I did wonder about how I would cope when I moved here, not knowing that many people, but as I am naturally slightly reclusive I have the opposite problem: making myself get out and about to be with people. I have always enjoyed my own company (landscape gardeners aside) and don't really get lonely very often either. Of course, in my case it is all deeply unhealthy......DHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14199859409385042568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-67415944703209658432012-09-25T04:54:40.020+00:002012-09-25T04:54:40.020+00:00Enjoying your own company and being able to entert...Enjoying your own company and being able to entertain yourself is a priceless ability. I'm a people person who loves to be around people, but I'm perfectly content when left to my own devices, too. There is a certain lonely factor to having that spot in the bed next to you empty at night, though. I didn't much like it when my husband had to travel for his job, so I understand how Chris feels about you working at night.Susan Flett Swiderskihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09425315552148200073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-30363341388290480112012-09-25T04:43:27.738+00:002012-09-25T04:43:27.738+00:00I never knew you had a twin! After a bit of refle...I never knew you had a twin! After a bit of reflection, I have to conclude there is a difference between being lonely and being alone. People can be rather secluded in the far reaches of country expanses and not feel lonely in their recluse, while others can be swimming in a sea of people crowded together in the densest of an urban city and feel isolated and lonely despite all the contact. Loneliness is more a state of mind, borne probably more from boredom, from isolation of meaningful stimuli than of a physical isolation from others in and of itself.<br /><br />I myself like a balance of both - could be that Libra in me.Philhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01312337645203095131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-78478165501059056302012-09-25T00:54:54.238+00:002012-09-25T00:54:54.238+00:00With all you have to do, how can you be lonely?
H...With all you have to do, how can you be lonely? <br />Hang in there, John. ♥LindaGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12203719919661519350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-72480887001064194532012-09-25T00:04:18.113+00:002012-09-25T00:04:18.113+00:00Well, of course you're not lonely...you've...Well, of course you're not lonely...you've got us!Terryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13944121836337072178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-59213725247173545202012-09-25T00:03:41.216+00:002012-09-25T00:03:41.216+00:00Sometimes in winter, when the days are cold, grey ...Sometimes in winter, when the days are cold, grey and blustery and its not pleasant outside for days on end, I get 'cabin fever' from being cooped up. I am a depressive and those days can be hard for me. I often take myself for a drive to Canberra or even Sydney and immerse myself in a different environment!JohnDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00608216150220329902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-17572671344401698272012-09-24T22:11:30.086+00:002012-09-24T22:11:30.086+00:00Time alone is an essential for me - and like Susan...Time alone is an essential for me - and like Susan I just don't get enough of it. Elephant's Childhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06650565833097914052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-90350779550546319132012-09-24T21:53:49.983+00:002012-09-24T21:53:49.983+00:00susan
you need to kick some ass and make time for ...susan<br />you need to kick some ass and make time for yourself<br />plain...simple....and vital<br />get it sorted<br />xxxx<br />John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-81388236335254073742012-09-24T21:51:25.567+00:002012-09-24T21:51:25.567+00:00I cannot tell you how much I desperately, desperat...I cannot tell you how much I desperately, desperately need some time in the house on my own. I like my own company and quiet time either doing house stuff or craft/reading etc. I can't relax in leisure time or concentrate to do a job properly when there is someone either in the room or 'in and out' interrupting thought processes or important phone calls. Hubby (also known as 'The FW' read blog to find out what this means larf) has had to stop work, son is looking for work, other son is part-time teaching whilst studying for PHD, daughter at school, dog shadows me all the time (should have had his nuts off!) because I am 'his', and I have to go upstairs to 'put the laundry away' just to get 5 feckin minutes on me own. I blog at midnight just for the privacy. (The FW sleeps downstairs - which suits me fine).<br />Sorry, being moanin minnie tonight.<br />Susan<br />PS your Albert looks just like my Mollie (no that is not a euphemism)susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12762599123725286723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-76826079320269766132012-09-24T20:34:38.904+00:002012-09-24T20:34:38.904+00:00perhaps he's just bored?perhaps he's just bored?John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-44371813705821013932012-09-24T20:33:37.735+00:002012-09-24T20:33:37.735+00:00Molly I think that you have summed up the right ( ...Molly I think that you have summed up the right ( if there IS a right) answer!<br />xJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-18399502857827692552012-09-24T20:22:55.547+00:002012-09-24T20:22:55.547+00:00There is a big big difference between being lonely...There is a big big difference between being lonely and being alone. Solitude is nice sometimes, loneliness is never nice. I'm lucky too to have someone around and two little animals tooMollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08604864977387798470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-76855882903850474442012-09-24T20:17:50.582+00:002012-09-24T20:17:50.582+00:00Made me think if I were ever lonely..........no I ...Made me think if I were ever lonely..........no I don't think I am, as why argue with other folk, when you can argue with yourself and always win!!<br /><br />GillGill - That British Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17456247587052149765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-24074280962217239192012-09-24T20:05:33.972+00:002012-09-24T20:05:33.972+00:00I agree with you on this one.....but we both are l...I agree with you on this one.....but we both are lucky to have someone else there for some part of the day...John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-67808198422103448402012-09-24T18:19:17.657+00:002012-09-24T18:19:17.657+00:00I agree with you.... whenever I feel a little lone...I agree with you.... whenever I feel a little lonely my dog is right there for me. Animals are the freekin best!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-65600089609222464602012-09-24T18:08:22.750+00:002012-09-24T18:08:22.750+00:00I think loneliness usually means boredom, and you ...I think loneliness usually means boredom, and you seem to always have plenty of things to do. Children can be absorbed in things for hours on end and not even notice that they're on their own.nickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-46440308262154528722012-09-24T16:43:30.750+00:002012-09-24T16:43:30.750+00:00I love my own company.....I love my mister and my ...I love my own company.....I love my mister and my family...but I like solitude and quiet too and they all love the tv and the radio on all the time. I work in a busy environment talking to people all day so if I have a day to myself I could speak to not one living soul all day and be content. Silence is truly golden sometimes. Being alone and being lonely are very different states ..... only for a very short time in my youth was I lonely and it was an unhappy feeling. Chris misses you when you are not there to share the night....how lovely is that.libbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05552884005601003691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-62831582282671917162012-09-24T16:05:10.411+00:002012-09-24T16:05:10.411+00:00For me, lonliness is not the being alone - its the...For me, lonliness is not the being alone - its the bloody boredom that comes with it! <br />I am rarely alone even when on my own as my cat Laurel is always two feet from me, generally chirruping or squeeking cat-like in my ear (most of the time, I have not a clue what for! perhaps he is lonely since his mate Hardy died), but I do find our (the cat and I) conversation runs out and then the boredom sets in. And oh boy, when I am bored am I a miserable mare. I try not to get to this point by keeping busy, as once it hits, I am as mardy as sin and no use to man nor beast then!Sophiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06083919094060704375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-12414115291456340562012-09-24T16:03:01.855+00:002012-09-24T16:03:01.855+00:00My grandma says it's like a duck pond in her g...My grandma says it's like a duck pond in her garden again. More rain!<br /><br />I always did things on my own growing up... drawing and writing, you don't really need people. I guess you don't think about it when you're busy. I did feel quite lonely of the heart before I got married though! Maybe that's something else.CarrieBoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05760105674950918729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-6318948823348461652012-09-24T15:56:10.550+00:002012-09-24T15:56:10.550+00:00Being lonely is like being bored, I think. Find s...Being lonely is like being bored, I think. Find something to do. Your lookout is your own, our children of the depression parents instilled in us.Joanne Noragonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09834682329952369721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-79788626457565730422012-09-24T15:54:15.052+00:002012-09-24T15:54:15.052+00:00I have moments of loneliness but i can feel that i...I have moments of loneliness but i can feel that in a crowd or when i'm by myself.<br /><br />I haven't your menagerie, but the three kitties do see to it that if i'm a trifle blue, they are there for me.megan blogshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04555646904983619596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-12819313142431515952012-09-24T15:39:07.095+00:002012-09-24T15:39:07.095+00:00I'm with you John... never having been lonely....I'm with you John... never having been lonely. But then living at Menagerie Manor one never has that option. I am also a twin, have an identical twin brother.Dochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05230334534323236665noreply@blogger.com