tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post5317701541091829906..comments2024-03-28T16:10:45.421+00:00Comments on Going Gently: Let's Talk About DeathJohn Going Gentlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comBlogger60125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-48003799490876977462018-01-08T06:13:48.512+00:002018-01-08T06:13:48.512+00:00Oh Mage, what a touching comment. Of course we all...Oh Mage, what a touching comment. Of course we all know that your mother's spirit or soul or whatever was already in some other place, but I love your daughters' response. Show some respect. As I have no plans and no money, I trust my children to find an ecological way to say goodbye to my earthly remains--maybe a good drunken wake, but the rest is immaterial. I'm glad you're over being pissed--an understandable reaction, but a waste of energy.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12448915588546829312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-4160650605614972742018-01-08T05:27:08.989+00:002018-01-08T05:27:08.989+00:00Shelly, I'm so sorry for the anxiety and grief...Shelly, I'm so sorry for the anxiety and grief your Mum and you had to deal with. When my 91 year old father died about 10 years ago, the whole hospital experience was horrible, and I was pressured to donate my father's eyes for research purposes. Not to help someone else, because he was so old, but to accommodate medical students with some "specimens" for them to study. I'm sorry to say this, but my daughter and I both regretted doing this...the eyes are the window to the soul, not a specimen to be carved up. I know that he was gone, but I still feel odd about the donation. I hope we can all recognize that organ donation is a more complicated experience than we sometimes acknowledge.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12448915588546829312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-51637211607038130812018-01-07T13:19:39.579+00:002018-01-07T13:19:39.579+00:00For me, it's important to distinguish between ...For me, it's important to distinguish between preferences for our end of life and those for disposal of the body. I will certainly dictate how I want to spend the final days/months/years (please, god, NO), and I trust my family to follow my wishes. But as for after-death arrangements, it's up to them. The funeral is for the survivors. I hope they won't spend much money on it, and I certainly don't want them arguing about it, but I won't be around to witness it. Same goes for the jewelry. Shawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02865639536906898385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-55426501560359729162018-01-07T12:48:11.800+00:002018-01-07T12:48:11.800+00:00Holding my funeral party in advance of the actual ...Holding my funeral party in advance of the actual event is an excellent idea, Millicent. <br /><br />Mind you, considering the current state of play among my siblings and other parties who normally avoid attending the same event, there will be several funerals to be arranged at the end of it. Oh, the fun of it. I can see now who is at whose throat. My mother providing the sound track (waterfalls of tears and pleading for world peace). My father, possibly just for once in his life, drowned out by the rest of the chorus. Myself, being the projected dead, shall preside at the top of the table, smiling serenely, make the odd astute, often snide observation but largely think my own thoughts. It'll be lovely. <br /><br />UUrsulahttp://bitchontheblog.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-89144281806170736712018-01-07T02:23:05.373+00:002018-01-07T02:23:05.373+00:00My parents each had their funerals planned out exa...My parents each had their funerals planned out exactly, which made things a whole lot easier for us kids.<br /><br />My partner changes his mind every time we have "the discussion" on whether or not he wants cremation or burial. But at least I, and his sisters know his choices in funeral music.<br />As for me, I have made my wishes known very clearly to my partner, son and sisters: no funeral, just burial in a cardboard or wicker coffin. If they wish to have a wake or not, I don't care. I'd rather they do it while I'm still alive though!Rozziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13904303063451930538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-25571492573381837662018-01-07T02:16:48.507+00:002018-01-07T02:16:48.507+00:00Thank you, John.Thank you, John.bbarnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15399421440007975826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-12983353309551359682018-01-07T01:11:25.432+00:002018-01-07T01:11:25.432+00:00Correction: throw
Correction: throw<br />Millicenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00310566458995263259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-56321336247795554982018-01-07T01:10:33.432+00:002018-01-07T01:10:33.432+00:00You can arrange your funeral and service just as y...You can arrange your funeral and service just as you want. Both parents did. Pre paid and clear instructions down to the hymns at the service. I have already done much of the same with a little to go. Or through your funeral while you are still alive... should be an interesting party.Millicenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00310566458995263259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-50714240115851654752018-01-06T19:56:34.971+00:002018-01-06T19:56:34.971+00:00G and I discussed it all, I typed out my wishes, a...G and I discussed it all, I typed out my wishes, and filed it all with the Account numbers in a folder. The kids know where everything is.<br />My stepfather never buried my mother, and we still would like to know where he put her. After cremation, my eldest daughter thinks she got thrown off the stern of the boat, and my youngest thinks she was put in the trash. I'm over being pissed.Magehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17333086721654817750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-36545561084054571162018-01-06T19:10:20.386+00:002018-01-06T19:10:20.386+00:00I've heard this....I've heard this....John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-52430336168875128062018-01-06T19:09:58.411+00:002018-01-06T19:09:58.411+00:00Way to go girlWay to go girlJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-2490489018540520162018-01-06T19:09:35.146+00:002018-01-06T19:09:35.146+00:00Yes but some transitions can be bloody awkward Yes but some transitions can be bloody awkward John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-42080277992291196942018-01-06T19:08:57.308+00:002018-01-06T19:08:57.308+00:00Probate can be an absolute nightmareProbate can be an absolute nightmareJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-7753125264902055872018-01-06T19:08:01.231+00:002018-01-06T19:08:01.231+00:00Hopefully things are smoother now....it did bode w...Hopefully things are smoother now....it did bode well did itJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-12545649714592653722018-01-06T19:07:51.858+00:002018-01-06T19:07:51.858+00:00It is amazing that people put off these discussion...It is amazing that people put off these discussions and details until it is too late. I have been thinking about my funeral since I was a child! A morbid little child. When my Grandmother died we had no idea that she had arranged her entire service. What a relief for my mom. Now I am trying to get my 80 year old parents to get their house in order and they are quite reluctant. My family is irritatingly superstitious about it. They think that if they make their will, they will drop dead.Lori W.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03486653652164483702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-4904318497892506952018-01-06T19:07:07.138+00:002018-01-06T19:07:07.138+00:00I want to go in a cardboard box or wicker basketI want to go in a cardboard box or wicker basketJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-79318369289474119532018-01-06T19:06:24.259+00:002018-01-06T19:06:24.259+00:00Yes there is also a video (5thanks Joni)
Making ...Yes there is also a video (5thanks Joni) <br /> Making your DEATH PLAN! - YouTubeJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-76838274821876797112018-01-06T19:04:42.239+00:002018-01-06T19:04:42.239+00:00A sad but interesting point. I have seem many dyin...A sad but interesting point. I have seem many dying people linger because so many things in their life were not sorted, including waiting for a relative to visit John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-78218488437527282742018-01-06T19:03:17.555+00:002018-01-06T19:03:17.555+00:00Way to go girl...Way to go girl...John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-45021135805560429242018-01-06T19:02:26.834+00:002018-01-06T19:02:26.834+00:00As usual it's the comments which hold the powe...As usual it's the comments which hold the power on this subjectJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-33772058739260233822018-01-06T19:01:47.046+00:002018-01-06T19:01:47.046+00:00Barb. My condolences and my best wishes xxBarb. My condolences and my best wishes xxJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-65496342285068870202018-01-06T19:01:00.210+00:002018-01-06T19:01:00.210+00:00I think I will organise everything within a Knats ...I think I will organise everything within a Knats crotchet John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-35892158201819295262018-01-06T19:00:08.015+00:002018-01-06T19:00:08.015+00:00Very moving Joanne thank youVery moving Joanne thank youJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-28605479290385321252018-01-06T18:59:14.878+00:002018-01-06T18:59:14.878+00:00I suspect your family and your father appreciated ...I suspect your family and your father appreciated your candourJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-66457804616706785182018-01-06T18:58:06.439+00:002018-01-06T18:58:06.439+00:00I know...I shall post a happier one a bit laterI know...I shall post a happier one a bit laterJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.com