tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post3077706714506713911..comments2024-03-28T20:11:14.233+00:00Comments on Going Gently: Out Of ContextJohn Going Gentlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comBlogger59125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-89562308768325110082015-07-17T09:39:47.057+00:002015-07-17T09:39:47.057+00:00I would imagine that even at his tender age, he un...I would imagine that even at his tender age, he understood your trauma and thought none the worse of you for it. How lovely of you to send a note.Craighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14034726832462755283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-58509029558911259702015-07-15T05:18:36.915+00:002015-07-15T05:18:36.915+00:00He has a good heart. It's all right.
Love,
Ja...He has a good heart. It's all right.<br /><br />Love,<br />JanieJanie Junebughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10573607241326291404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-24038000931615764482015-07-14T19:47:11.037+00:002015-07-14T19:47:11.037+00:00I'm glad you sent a note. Good on the lad for ...I'm glad you sent a note. Good on the lad for saying his piece. To me, as others have said, it shows he didn't hold it against you, and was probably only too relieved to leave the room.megan blogshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04555646904983619596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-40517252994486724182015-07-14T14:31:08.214+00:002015-07-14T14:31:08.214+00:00This Donna agrees. Will be a good life lesson for...This Donna agrees. Will be a good life lesson for the boy.donna bakerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13507579686738843451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-63551777957200346402015-07-14T12:09:12.945+00:002015-07-14T12:09:12.945+00:00It's a difficult encounter for any of us espec...It's a difficult encounter for any of us especially a child.... but bless him for his words today. Beyond his age? He has been taught well.Linda Metcalfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14706004604567190617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-68379471820266664742015-07-14T11:47:37.628+00:002015-07-14T11:47:37.628+00:00I just need to share, as I'm sure you will emp...I just need to share, as I'm sure you will empathise, that my sweet Cocker, Pandy, was euthanased a couple of days ago. I'm as heartbroken as anyone who has had to make that decision. The house is now unbearably quiet and lonely. The staff at my vet centre have been amazing and even sent flowers. I've felt so sorry for you and Cro with your recent losses and now I've painfully gone through the same. It's so tough. Ninaschenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15163770016423292034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-69476720702077479892015-07-14T08:49:46.279+00:002015-07-14T08:49:46.279+00:00I'm sure he was relieved that you asked him to...I'm sure he was relieved that you asked him to leave, he's young, and it takes time to learn how to deal with a stranger's grief.<br />He's obviously a compassionate young lad, and not at all offended by your comment on the day. If he's interested in becoming a vet, the occasion was just another bit of training.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-8780475218526370192015-07-14T08:00:12.742+00:002015-07-14T08:00:12.742+00:00Oh, well. It's nice that he said something to ...Oh, well. It's nice that he said something to you, and you thanked him. It sounds like it all ended OK, and I'm sure he understood.Steve Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11684120060438252945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-92118532019918356082015-07-14T06:17:55.791+00:002015-07-14T06:17:55.791+00:00Nice that he showed his true feelings, so many kid...Nice that he showed his true feelings, so many kids these days would have ignored you.Cro Magnonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06840670227576695352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-82384625244857982872015-07-14T02:59:16.556+00:002015-07-14T02:59:16.556+00:00Dear Notes: You will; you will.Dear Notes: You will; you will.jenny_ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15475480579733466963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-38158476333181214732015-07-14T01:28:42.417+00:002015-07-14T01:28:42.417+00:00I'm sure he understood and, if he didn't, ...I'm sure he understood and, if he didn't, at some point in his life he definitely will.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-39595355528703028642015-07-14T01:25:52.562+00:002015-07-14T01:25:52.562+00:00Oh bless his heart, how much he must have wanted t...Oh bless his heart, how much he must have wanted to comfort you .. to put himself out like that . I am so glad you left a note .. of course he knows how sad you are and will be understanding .<br />I know how you feel in 2 ways .. when we lived in Buenos Aires, we had our Standard Poodle with us .. there are no Standard Poodles in Argentina. so walking him was similar to walking an orangutan down the street, people would stop, stare, take photos and ask if they could touch him.<br />Over the years, everyone in the neighborhood knew him. When he died, it was dreadful. Every day some kind person either asked where he was or gave us their sympathy.<br />It hurts but it is kindness.<br />These are the worst days John ... it gets better .. eventually .. I want to get a dog soon .. it has been a couple of years now .. but I worry I will not love the new dog the way I loved my Pup.<br />Sending love.. CNotes From ABroadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12202279303962539035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-44313023021118676882015-07-14T00:51:22.225+00:002015-07-14T00:51:22.225+00:00Good for you, John. As we were discussing here th...Good for you, John. As we were discussing here the other day, we don't acknowledge people enough for the good things they do. The lad will get a boost from your words. <br /><br />In our old dog sport, people generally didn't talk about the dog you just lost or ask how you are doing, when you go to the next event. It seems odd, but actually it is a kindness. If everyone there came up one by one, you'd be in floods of tears and you'd dread going. There are times when you have to be out in public when you just need people not to talk about it even if they know, at least for a little while. The lad wasn't to know that though. xxx T.L. Merrybardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03713406934061779754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-92006570534668455682015-07-13T23:07:20.064+00:002015-07-13T23:07:20.064+00:00Oh, John, I'm so sorry. Everything is a remin...Oh, John, I'm so sorry. Everything is a reminder.Gailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04219479223227928561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-8863950571173383632015-07-13T22:46:07.233+00:002015-07-13T22:46:07.233+00:00Just to let everyone know , i have droped the vets...Just to let everyone know , i have droped the vets an emailJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-25409647244942143852015-07-13T22:34:15.995+00:002015-07-13T22:34:15.995+00:00So many here have expressed it better than I could...So many here have expressed it better than I could, but I would like to point out one other thing:<br /><br />If the situation were reversed, you would not have thought him rude, and would have understood... and so did he. Acknowledging that in some way would be both graceful, and a boost for an empathetic young man.The Crankyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11482237436135513483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-85324763320483866102015-07-13T21:37:22.789+00:002015-07-13T21:37:22.789+00:00It is hard when you see someone like this lad who ...It is hard when you see someone like this lad who is associated with great loss and pain, it brings it all back again . This young lad sounds a good sort when he acknowledged the loss of Meg . Thinking of you John and your loss of little Meg xxxxLeishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10550858502158736036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-55196073657821245492015-07-13T21:36:56.149+00:002015-07-13T21:36:56.149+00:00I agree with all the comments! It is a measure of ...I agree with all the comments! It is a measure of your sensitivity and kindness that you want him to know how you appreciate his words . He seems just the right sort of guy to be a caring and good Vet. bluehousedebshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07701685512659097185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-18504871862664911032015-07-13T20:05:27.152+00:002015-07-13T20:05:27.152+00:00Sounds like he's a caring kid who understood w...Sounds like he's a caring kid who understood what you were going through. That's refreshing nowadays.Jonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02619128793632680659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-91754410580968107292015-07-13T20:00:01.317+00:002015-07-13T20:00:01.317+00:00It doesn't sound as if he thought you were rud...It doesn't sound as if he thought you were rude at all. Hurting yes, but not rude.<br />I like the suggestion to leave a note at the vets for him though.Elephant's Childhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06650565833097914052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-31804207993771699442015-07-13T19:54:39.386+00:002015-07-13T19:54:39.386+00:00See, you have proved again what a kind hearted per...See, you have proved again what a kind hearted person you are! Otherwise you wouldn't have gone to look for him today. He is obviously not as upset as you are, how good that he said that!Amy at love made my homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17111180584250029433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-62811446815624346022015-07-13T19:37:39.567+00:002015-07-13T19:37:39.567+00:00Be glad that you met a nice young man. He did not...Be glad that you met a nice young man. He did not have to acknowledge you, but he took the time to be kind and sympathetic. We need more young people like that. Starting Over, Accepting Changes - Maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032033918798053005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-65850579260034999342015-07-13T18:29:40.730+00:002015-07-13T18:29:40.730+00:00I'm sure you have been on the receiving end of...I'm sure you have been on the receiving end of something similar at work. People in distress don't mean to offend and what a nice lad to understand that.minimiser debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11903509195360845572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-64033215731040200372015-07-13T18:19:44.639+00:002015-07-13T18:19:44.639+00:00I agree, and with Miss Fifi.I agree, and with Miss Fifi.Rachel Phillipshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16053924416805878169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-6518979653682910642015-07-13T18:04:13.481+00:002015-07-13T18:04:13.481+00:00Sounds a well brought up boy to be offended too mu...Sounds a well brought up boy to be offended too much, very decent of him to offer his condolences. Perhaps you will see him again, threes a charm and all that x Jo@awholeplotoflovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03525039817338877634noreply@blogger.com