tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post2772250269771266988..comments2024-03-28T21:45:44.887+00:00Comments on Going Gently: OutJohn Going Gentlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comBlogger77125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-29978458612969707262015-11-16T16:44:56.266+00:002015-11-16T16:44:56.266+00:00Early in relationships, I think everyone wonders w...Early in relationships, I think everyone wonders whether their significant other is hiding them - even a little bit - but with lesbians, at least, this reaches paranoid levels. <br /><br />I've had it happen once, and my paranoia turned out to be warranted. <br /><br />Now I address the issue up front. There's no excuse for me to waste time on someone who is only halfway to being comfortable with who they are. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16323871207793126503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-23330529538728025502015-11-16T13:54:45.903+00:002015-11-16T13:54:45.903+00:00I don't think it is far away .... thank goodne...I don't think it is far away .... thank goodness.Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04177854521955532744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-43177477140892823872015-11-16T05:21:58.457+00:002015-11-16T05:21:58.457+00:00Agreed. It is not far away!Agreed. It is not far away!Donnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12914479337992538262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-80552624757501329682015-11-16T01:56:35.861+00:002015-11-16T01:56:35.861+00:00I totally get it. Why is "gay" even a t...I totally get it. Why is "gay" even a thing? It just is. Like "straight " is.Wilmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14717012784233946753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-91252749442107788452015-11-16T01:15:00.771+00:002015-11-16T01:15:00.771+00:00I'm glad you walked away. I guess that man was...I'm glad you walked away. I guess that man was too embarrassed or afraid of what might happen if he came out. I don't have very happy relationships. They start out fine, but then, somehow, I always seem to be a burden no matter what I do. I'm tired of it.<br /><br />Love,<br />JanieJanie Junebughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10573607241326291404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-62944821608562655412015-11-15T23:22:05.220+00:002015-11-15T23:22:05.220+00:00I knew I wasn't saying it right - bleep!
A da...I knew I wasn't saying it right - bleep! <br />A day when we don't have to use the word gay to identify ...Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02743921972328074980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-4662335607579428442015-11-15T23:04:16.064+00:002015-11-15T23:04:16.064+00:00I notice things changing here, though there is sti...I notice things changing here, though there is still plenty of fear and discrimination. (Ask black Americans how that whole civil rights thing has worked out for them over the past half century.) My mother was terrified that family members would find out when I told her I was gay (at the ripe old age of 53), but now she says she doesn't care who knows what. I think part of that is that as other members of the family have learned -- my brother, his adult children, an aunt and cousin -- my mother has discovered that other people don't get excited. It has calmed her fears significantly.Michael Doddhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00942287172727040371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-54510783842582092782015-11-15T22:41:26.565+00:002015-11-15T22:41:26.565+00:00And it IS normal as cake xxAnd it IS normal as cake xxJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-42778566614004140022015-11-15T22:30:55.755+00:002015-11-15T22:30:55.755+00:00Thats why i love the UK
Fire someone because they...Thats why i love the UK <br />Fire someone because they got married and big shi hits the fanJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-30747748239753068952015-11-15T22:29:23.231+00:002015-11-15T22:29:23.231+00:00Huh? LolHuh? LolJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-62702133778503571492015-11-15T22:27:12.809+00:002015-11-15T22:27:12.809+00:00Am loving these different perspectives Am loving these different perspectives John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-11939449352812980102015-11-15T22:26:09.195+00:002015-11-15T22:26:09.195+00:00Very similar to my own experience with my own stra...Very similar to my own experience with my own straight best mate.<br />Lovely story ( yours and mine )John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-49907567153409843192015-11-15T22:23:55.864+00:002015-11-15T22:23:55.864+00:00I wa going to type something about small towns
But...I wa going to type something about small towns<br />But hey, i live in one!John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-52612522542001542372015-11-15T22:21:11.628+00:002015-11-15T22:21:11.628+00:00Funny but the Rory character was a little too pain...Funny but the Rory character was a little too painful John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-69554904839144427162015-11-15T22:20:12.578+00:002015-11-15T22:20:12.578+00:00Shame on everyone who turned a blind eyeShame on everyone who turned a blind eyeJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-11887420030026225582015-11-15T22:05:19.137+00:002015-11-15T22:05:19.137+00:00RAMEN, bro! this is why we need out guvmint to pa...RAMEN, bro! this is why we need out guvmint to pass ENDA (employment non-discrimination act) nationwide.anne marie in phillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11765140782182605141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-66351795423355433372015-11-15T22:02:30.694+00:002015-11-15T22:02:30.694+00:00I don't see things changing for another 50 yea...I don't see things changing for another 50 years, until all the baby boomers die out.anne marie in phillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11765140782182605141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-11682726680809871792015-11-15T21:52:53.416+00:002015-11-15T21:52:53.416+00:00I enjoyed your comment, Treaders because I have be...I enjoyed your comment, Treaders because I have been thinking on this subject for quite a long time now. I agree that the haters do feel inadequate, but more than that I think they are afraid. I think that some people are afraid of being painted with the same brush if they are tolerant - and that possibililty of being rejected by their peers is one of their greatest fears. I think also, some people feel a lack of control (I am thinking of a couple of specific individuals in my life) because society, or the world, is not caring about the "right" way to do things - and what is worse, no one cares about their disapproval. They are realizing that they are essentially powerless to make things go their own way. This lack of their control (or their inadequacy, as you state) is frightening to them. These are all just my own observations - I'm no kind of expert or anything. <br /><br />Annette<br />animalfarmladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17008684268541453461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-5879152542323590732015-11-15T21:49:45.865+00:002015-11-15T21:49:45.865+00:00I enjoyed your comment, Treaders because I have be...I enjoyed your comment, Treaders because I have been thinking on this subject for quite a long time now. I agree that the haters do feel inadequate, but more than that I think they are afraid. I think that some people are afraid of being painted with the same brush if they are tolerant - and that possibililty of being rejected by their peers is one of their greatest fears. I think also, some people feel a lack of control (I am thinking of a couple of specific individuals in my life) because society, or the world, is not caring about the "right" way to do things - and what is worse, no one cares about their disapproval. They are realizing that they are essentially powerless to make things go their own way. This lack of their control (or their inadequacy, as you state) is frightening to them. These are all just my own observations - I'm no kind of expert or anything. <br /><br />Annette<br />animalfarmladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17008684268541453461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-39994234061861028312015-11-15T21:31:51.565+00:002015-11-15T21:31:51.565+00:00Yes, lovely. XYes, lovely. XFrugal in Buckshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03637007004041752433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-51363074547475134622015-11-15T21:23:18.949+00:002015-11-15T21:23:18.949+00:00Unfortunately there are many religious fanatics in...Unfortunately there are many religious fanatics in Northern Ireland who still don't accept homosexuality. The Deputy Mayor of Derry and Strabane no less has just trotted out the old claptrap of a "gay cure", which according to him can be achieved through prayer. He should have been disciplined by his party but no, everyone turned a blind eye as usual.nickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-6009665043850049422015-11-15T21:01:09.835+00:002015-11-15T21:01:09.835+00:00What a wonderful story doc..brought a tear to my e...What a wonderful story doc..brought a tear to my eyeJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-58573092419997882072015-11-15T20:59:54.311+00:002015-11-15T20:59:54.311+00:00He was a very different character jace,
But then ,...He was a very different character jace,<br />But then , the past is always " another country" for all of usJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-79903062875641812012015-11-15T20:48:58.938+00:002015-11-15T20:48:58.938+00:00On a slightly different note, do you remember in ...On a slightly different note, do you remember in Mrs Brown's Boys when Rory tries to tell his mom he is gay. (Some slight paraphrasing follows)<br /><br />Rory - mammy, did you never wonder why I never played in Mark's football team, did you never ask yourself why<br /><br />Mammy - I know love, I've always known and it makes not the slightest difference to me<br /><br />Rory - (delighted) oh mammy, that's wonderful, so when did you find out<br /><br />Mammy - I've always known son, you were always shite at football.Treadershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613671137557939083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-44271783569177817242015-11-15T20:43:16.701+00:002015-11-15T20:43:16.701+00:00So true, mrsduncanmahogany !!
So true, mrsduncanmahogany !!<br /> Notes From ABroadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12202279303962539035noreply@blogger.com