tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post1605242613493571078..comments2024-03-28T14:14:52.190+00:00Comments on Going Gently: VisitingJohn Going Gentlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-58226768581280184822013-07-08T13:13:34.853+00:002013-07-08T13:13:34.853+00:00friendship is a great comfort when the end beckons...friendship is a great comfort when the end beckonsNota Benehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00969705852180234416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-75696690913804701922013-07-07T10:55:33.753+00:002013-07-07T10:55:33.753+00:00PS said-friend has been very vocal about what she ...PS said-friend has been very vocal about what she wants from the house....even told mom "when you die, can I have..." I was told not to give her "one damn thing...."lyndahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10273483704912191189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-83694375838069253312013-07-07T10:53:13.572+00:002013-07-07T10:53:13.572+00:00My mother recently passed away from liver cancer a...My mother recently passed away from liver cancer after a long illness, with my brothers, husband and I taking care turns on a daily basis, all day and overnight...her "close" friend rarely came, and then maybe for a few minutes...now she is the bereft friend who is pissed off at us for imagined wrongs....my mother was ill, yes, but so happy to have friends and family around on a daily basis, even when she would just close her eyes and doze as we chatted...thanks for caring, John.lyndahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10273483704912191189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-37001128818457674082013-07-06T18:15:02.141+00:002013-07-06T18:15:02.141+00:00I agree with A Heron's View. When my friend Ru...I agree with A Heron's View. When my friend Ruth was in that place, we talked about everything and nothing. megan blogshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04555646904983619596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-59308016563207185602013-07-06T15:03:38.151+00:002013-07-06T15:03:38.151+00:00From my own experience of dealing with terminal il...From my own experience of dealing with terminal illness in my first husband, what such folk really want is a bit of normal conversation. Sounds like you gave your friend just that John.The Weaver of Grasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13947971556343746883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-67774414685942644412013-07-06T12:28:06.775+00:002013-07-06T12:28:06.775+00:00As difficult as making those visits are, it is so ...As difficult as making those visits are, it is so important to be there for both that person and yourself. Too many people shy away and don't want to face mortality, and then live with regret. <br /><br />You are a good man, John Grey.Starting Over, Accepting Changes - Maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032033918798053005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-5571739845023271562013-07-06T11:22:10.931+00:002013-07-06T11:22:10.931+00:00My heart goes out to you and your friend. I've...My heart goes out to you and your friend. I've been there (and I know you've been there before) and it hurts to visit but hurts even more not to. I'm so glad you did.Moving with Mitchellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12954028272162285597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-91270040782452531312013-07-06T11:15:50.425+00:002013-07-06T11:15:50.425+00:00You have worked in healthcare most of your adult ...You have worked in healthcare most of your adult life - latterly in ICU - you understand death more than most of us. Who better to listen to those who can see the never ending darkness just ahead?Yorkshire Puddinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06019673884543913089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-2215191217765859212013-07-06T11:15:47.570+00:002013-07-06T11:15:47.570+00:00I have always found when visiting a terminally ill...I have always found when visiting a terminally ill friend, that the time spent with them is so precious and we are often enabled to mutually speak freely of things that may be otherwise not be discussed and surely that is rewarding in itself ?A Heron's Viewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06563706152609630696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-87689533658240122452013-07-06T10:42:37.003+00:002013-07-06T10:42:37.003+00:00So hard to know what to say...but just being there...So hard to know what to say...but just being there I'm sure meant so much...hugs to you.Linda Metcalfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14706004604567190617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-52419454582184408022013-07-06T07:38:51.633+00:002013-07-06T07:38:51.633+00:00You did a great thing meeting your friend. You mig...You did a great thing meeting your friend. You might have the chance to make and meet new friends, but they are unlikely to meet new friends.<br /><br />If possible, go meet them again. That will make them real happy, and surprised :-)KKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16778157916183036144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-43615297885610625972013-07-06T06:42:25.660+00:002013-07-06T06:42:25.660+00:00I am sure your friend appreciated your visit.I am sure your friend appreciated your visit.bonsaimumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07684530085331629758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-44137987000854568292013-07-06T06:28:32.135+00:002013-07-06T06:28:32.135+00:00A friend of mine had cancer afew years ago. He fou...A friend of mine had cancer afew years ago. He fought off two lots but took it very philosophically when it returned. Somehow he managed to make me feel better - which wasn't the idea.MorningAJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04719744167307369768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-8443787982514761262013-07-06T06:17:13.798+00:002013-07-06T06:17:13.798+00:00Aw, I'm sorry. We've just been through the...Aw, I'm sorry. We've just been through the same thing with Adam's grandma (not the one you met!). After a long battle with cancer, she died a few weeks ago. Bloody awful. She did hang on to see the birth of her grandchild, though, which is something, I guess...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01166620626993208617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-59162120921858714612013-07-06T04:50:53.309+00:002013-07-06T04:50:53.309+00:00What a gift. To both of you.
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Els from AmsterdamWhat a gift. To both of you.<br />x<br />Els from AmsterdamElsewherehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18205062128898300234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-91633126817407575562013-07-06T01:21:12.822+00:002013-07-06T01:21:12.822+00:00*hugs* ♥*hugs* ♥LindaGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12203719919661519350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-18899307636368259602013-07-06T00:32:16.566+00:002013-07-06T00:32:16.566+00:00Your visit may of been sad. But it would of mean&#...Your visit may of been sad. But it would of mean't a lot to your friend and you.<br />Rosezzeeta.primrosesattichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10413782888139380761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-34750038095015018332013-07-05T22:41:42.794+00:002013-07-05T22:41:42.794+00:00You are a good friend John.You are a good friend John.Spinners End Farmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13378599044206074919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-90567102810126626522013-07-05T22:38:52.583+00:002013-07-05T22:38:52.583+00:00I made the mistake once of not visiting someone wh...I made the mistake once of not visiting someone who was very dear to me...I have regretted it ever since....I will never do that again...now no matter how difficult it is I am there and I have never ever regretted that....<br />Your a good soul mr.Gray....Miss Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17728691181470922037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-63070797242994701382013-07-05T22:03:38.138+00:002013-07-05T22:03:38.138+00:00The Samaritans sounds like a perfect fit for you. ...The Samaritans sounds like a perfect fit for you. I am glad for you both that you had this visit.Elephant's Childhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06650565833097914052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-2398353517562460942013-07-05T20:56:57.246+00:002013-07-05T20:56:57.246+00:00You have reminded me. I have been putting off a vi...You have reminded me. I have been putting off a visit to my aunt, for too long.<br />I'll do it next week.Jeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09726164724131916224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-45995888230341323292013-07-05T20:33:55.278+00:002013-07-05T20:33:55.278+00:00When the same thing happened to my one-in-a-millio...When the same thing happened to my one-in-a-million best friend from teenage-hood (it was this time last year that the doctors handed her her time limit which ended three days after Xmas and 19 days after her 59th birthday), she used to talk matter-of-factly too and I tried to go along with it while I was in her company. I never showed her how heart-broken her cruel illness and deteriorating condition made me feel, although she probably knew it anyway. I think it's harder for the sick person to have to deal with healthy people than vice versa. <br />Sorry about your friend. xBetween Me and Youhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04863155145862706966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-71343318948883530242013-07-05T20:33:16.850+00:002013-07-05T20:33:16.850+00:00Bless you both x Bless you both x BadPennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09889591351222591488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-64483202591029051162013-07-05T19:49:47.657+00:002013-07-05T19:49:47.657+00:00Much better to visit now, than to wish you had - l...Much better to visit now, than to wish you had - later.<br />)))Hugs(((Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02743921972328074980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20303812.post-88210256183298293502013-07-05T18:10:24.064+00:002013-07-05T18:10:24.064+00:00Have been under the migraine-rule for a few days, ...Have been under the migraine-rule for a few days, and now have caught up on your posts. You clever man, you. Organ donor in Welsh. What would they do with a dead American?<br /><br />Your sweet poetry above demonstrates the depth of your kindness. God bless you, John.Susan Kanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09834094675218254410noreply@blogger.com