Pasta On The Wall


A bag of out of date pasta lies on the kitchen garden wall.
The post it states it for my hens.
I haven't had hens since last Easter, so someone in the village is behind the times.
I had a meeting up with the head honcho of the village Womens' Institute the other day about planning something about celebrating the history of the village. Inititives such as the making of community tapestry depicting village life past and present were discussed - all ideas which sounds exciting and innovative
Monday I have another meeting with a members of the new community association in order to pass on my expertise in running the flower show. The association hope to resurrect the Show albeit in a different form, so I am happy to share my knowledge, but I won't be running things again....I feel in limbo, the divorce is slow and my future here is uncertain
Limbo is a horrible state to be in
You are Neither fish or fowl
Once deep, grounded roots seem uncertain and fragile and the responsibility for little lives, albeit ones with paws and not feet, at times seems overwhelming.
I'm still waiting to hear about the lease on the field too.....and I want to move forward with the new allotments idea..
....divorce limbo
But I am smiling and gliding 
I've just walked the dogs in the village sunshine and everything looks mighty fine. Mrs Trellis was practicing piano in her living room window. And Stan was pottering around his neat little garden.
It's almost lambing time, and the honeysuckle over the front door is suddenly budding green for the new year. Mr H stopped to tell me his new Welsh Terrier puppy is doing well, he bought him after seeing Mary's bouncy trot , we hope to introduce them soon.
Mandy was chipper on her way back from the shop with some milk, her mum is much better than she was and trendy Carol has just driven by, sporting one of her new spring creations...

In a few minutes I'm off to meet an old friend in Chester.
An old friend from my York nursing days.
The pasta is still on the kitchen wall......

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Watch this, it will take your breath away




35 comments:

  1. There's still fun to be had in limbo land - and you are doing well at finding it!

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    1. I've just watched the video in full-screen - found myself rooting for the little ones. Sometimes, the internet is so worthwhile! Thank you.

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  2. You could always eat the pasta yourself....doesn't matter that it's out of date, it doesn't really go off. If it's good enough for your (non-existent now) hens, it's good enough for you! Enjoy your day with your old friend.

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  3. Bravo John for your plans and for the Beethoven cartoon. The thing about Limbo is that there IS an end to it and in your case I know it will be positive.

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  4. I remember feeling that way during and after my divorce. I found that rituals were grounding--having tea/coffee at the same place, walking the dogs in familiar places, eating comfort foods. I also found reading favorite books again oddly settling as well. Sending you best wishes for brighter times.

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  5. The video is very engaging. Change, and uncertainty are unsettling, being forced out of our rutts.

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  6. That video is mesmerizing. And I think the touch of the pasta for the hens is cute!
    Have fun!

    XoXo

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  7. your description of the village makes me think of Mapp and Lucia

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  8. i hate limbo. it's so unsettling.

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  9. Keep till Christmas and play pasta parcel.

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  10. I love that video and am planning on sharing it with our music teacher. Great way to teach dynamics!
    It is good that the predictability of the village itself is able to ground you somewhat as you are suspended in this state of limbo. Hang in there, it can't go on forever. :) -Jenn

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  11. I like Gwil’s idea . . .
    Limbo is daunting . . . it holds OVER there.

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  12. I know how you feel. I too am in limbo for a very different reason. My dad is dying and we cannot 'persuade' social services to move him out of the hospital where they do not have the time to care for him at the level he needs, to a care home which is much nearer home for us which would allow us to participate in his care. The care home say they have respite beds, social services say there are no respite beds available. There can be little more dementing than fighting on the phone with beaurocrats!! I hope we both have some success soon and find ourselves on the other side of limbo - though I worry it might be crimbo by then!! x

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    1. ps, I know in the olden days, childrens nurseries used pasta to make pictures with, things may have changed though, there may be an elf and safety regulation now!

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  13. Limbo is horrible; if you are able to take control by making decisions it relieves some of the anxiety, but when you’re waiting on others to reach decisions it’s very hard. Enjoy the moments you can, and don’t look too far ahead - easier said than done, I know.

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  14. A great metaphor for your life right now, John. If the 'pasta' stays on the 'wall' it is ready to be 'eaten'.
    Your honeysuckle has green on it? I wish!!

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  15. Relax andlet limbo wash over you in so far as you can.
    Rest assured it will all come right in the end. xx Too manypeople love you for everything to go wrong.

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  16. Thank you for that film. It is wonderful!
    Oh, John. I am so sorry you're having to go through this terrible time of limbo. One step at a time, I suppose. I think you are taking the right steps. But it's so hard.

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  17. that sounds good, that you are anxious to get on with it now, get it over with, so you can move forward.

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  18. Breath-taking! I did not take time to enlarge the screen at the beginning, then I could not interrupt the action to do so. Bravo. Thanks.

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  19. Barbara Anne4:44 pm

    When I read the title of this post, I was instantly reminded of a line from the movie "The Odd Couple" where Felix has taken time to prepare spaghetti but he and Oscar get into a disagreement. Felix continues to wax eloquent about the spaghetti and in frustration, Oscar hurls his plate of spaghetti against the wall, yelling "and now it's garbage!" Guess you'll have to see the movie again. Pasta on the wall. Yes, that was a long way to go for that little line.

    Loved the video.

    Hang in there, you're going to be all right. Hugs.

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  20. Love the video! Does the community association have any paid positions? I know you are in limbo but even if you left the cottage that doesn't mean you can't remain in the area in a different home. You are so well suited to the type of work the community association does.

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  21. As I watched the fabulous video I thought that you might be feeling like one of the sledders flying into the unknown future while being manipulated by the divorce. It makes me sad if this is how it is.
    I hope I’m wrong, but....
    Find someone that makes you laugh and appreciates you for who you are. My husband’s best points are that he has a great sense of humor and has always let me be myself. My parents tried to improve me, but he appreciates (or tolerates) me as I am. We’ve made it 49 years together.
    Go get lunch with someone who not only takes you seriously, but also makes you laugh. It is, as they say, the best medicine, at least for the moment.
    I’m too preachy, my aplolgies.

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  22. the video does seem like what life has to throw at us at time, or more like throw us around around a bit! Thanks for sharing! I hope you're not in limbo for long...

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  23. I enjoyed the video, not being a music "lover" I rarely listen. But having the little line riders made me appreciate the nuances of this piece, it's a very clever way to engage people and I should imagine it would work wonders in a childrens music class. Sorry you are between a rock and a hard place at the moment, I was in divorce limbo for about 10 years, for reasons I won't expand on. It took so long I forgot about it and just got on with my life and when finally the divorce became final I was so over it I couldn't have cared less. However, my home wasn't in jeopardy as I upped, took the kids and left my home and made a new home in a much smaller house at the other end of town. We had nothing, I took the kids furniture 3 knives, 3 plates, 3 spoons etc. I slept on the floor on an old mattress..but dya know what, I wouldn't have changed it for all the tea in china. I am still in the same house today.

    Jo in Auckland

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  24. I'm doing the limbo thing too, getting smashed with bills that were once a joint responsibility, wondering if I can stay in the house and if I'll have a job in six months. It's unsettling but I keep reminding myself that nothing is ever really certain anyway.
    I loved the video and out of date things get eaten here unless they are actively rotting

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  25. Anonymous10:42 pm

    Clever little video. Limbo and uncertainty are not nice places to be.

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  26. Clever video John, even in Limbo I like your gliding and smiling comment keep it up John laughter goes a long way to make it through each day.

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  27. As you say, deep grounded roots have turned into an uncertain limbo. I hope the pace picks up a bit so you have a better idea about your future.

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  28. I loved the Beethoven thingy ... I Shared it on Facebook the other day, absolutely memorising :-)

    Cook the pasta for the cockerels or I'm sure the dogs would like some as treats, our two do.

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  29. Anonymous5:49 am

    Our girl was screwed over 4 years ago, she was so sad and left wondering who would ever love her again along with her 2 children, the youngest only 12 months old. Today she is a qualified educator doing her masters, only weeks off moving into a house that is in the middle of getting a new kitchen and bathroom with her children and a man who adores her and she him, the same house her husband locked her out of and told her she had no right to. Her ex is getting married in September to the woman he was having the affair with, the funniest part and one I’d pay to see is them enterting the reception dancing like the music clip to uptown funk, petty I know but it’s amused me no end, Jo

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