Saturday, 6 June 2015

Sweetie

I am not a lover of over familiar people who use the pet names " lurvie" or  " darling" when they address me in public. The regional " up north" references of " me duck" and " love"  never bother me too much as they seem perfectly natural , but its the upclose and too personal " sweetie" that I cannot abide.....
The weigh in lady at fat club calls me " sweetie"
I was going to say something to her at my initial weighing moment, but I was too embarrassed when she told me my weight,
She was very nice to me and dropped her voice so that everyone in the room couldn't hear., so I thought it churlish to pull her up on her " sweetie greetings!"
Today she rolled her eyes theatrically when I stepped on the scales
" 10 pounds loss SWEETIE" she yelled " GIMMIE A HIGH FIVE!"
I got lost in the moment and high fived her without thinking!
I also high fived the leader and the lady waiting behind me.....
I got all giddy!

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    1. You both reminded me of an old joke from back in the 70's :
      "You've got some upduckie on your shirt"
      "What's upduckie?"
      "Nothing sweetie!"

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  2. Congrats! You're off to a great start!

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  3. Well, doll, congratulations. (Did I overstep?) This reminded me of an incident when I was at the university and had a disagreement with a librarian. She called me "Sweetie" and it infuriated me. She may have been trying to be nice and defuse the situation, but at the time it felt like she was condescending to me. On the other hand, I realize that among the many endearments my husband and I use, Sweetie is among the most common. Well, that and poodle pub.

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    1. Poodle pup? Pass the sick bucket
      Lol

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  4. Wow, 10 lbs. lost, good for you! That "outweighs" the sweetie comment.

    I detest those honey, dear and other too familiar comments also. I have a name, and that is how I wish to be called.

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  5. I call people by endearments because I can never remember names. You would hate me in real life. Although I could probably remember John.
    Congratulations, JOHN!

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    1. I do like some endearments....... Like i said love, duck, is ok

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    2. Same here. Lots of "hons" out there, since I can't remember names. Congrats on the 10 pounds. That is a lot.

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  6. i think you are stuck with sweetie forever now!
    well done, John

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  7. I'm guessing the elation over the weight-loss--and congrats on that--"outweighs" being called sweetie, which is something I, to, loathe.

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  8. Another ten pounds next time Sweetie Pie and you are well on the way to a svelte figure. Actually, totally agree about Sweetie and I do object to my butcher always calling me darlin' but can;t bring myself to say anything. My friend, who is somewhat of a feminist, objected to a young man calling us both guys - my goodness did he get an earful!

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    1. Mate is another term i dont like

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  9. I use sweetie with my daughter and grandkids and with friends under certain circumstances. I'll use kiddo sometimes too. I don't make a conscious decision when I do, It just slips outs. But congratulations on the 10 pounds. the only issue I ever had with weight was not weighing enough. I finally put on about 20 pounds so I don't look like a walking skeleton anymore.

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    1. A woman of curves...like kate winslet

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  10. That's great John! Wish I had the will power.

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  11. Oh honey, that is so nice ! and how kind of you to put aside your embarrassment and not say anything to her about being a sweetie.
    Why .. reading this , I wanted to call you sweetie too. But you notice I controlled myself.

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    1. Yes i kinda like honey
      Its warm

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  12. 10lb loss …… that's brilliant John.
    My pet hate is ' babe ' ……. I could just about live with sweetie but babe ….. XXXX

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    1. Babe reminds me of piglets

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  13. Embrace the 'sweetie', Sweetie!!
    It seems to be working!!

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    1. Ok........i'm chilling about it now

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  14. I was raised in the Deep South here in the States and we were swamped with endearments. It was just the way you talked. I have relatives who still call me Sugar on the rare occasions that Daniel and I visit. They are cordial to him, but he has earned no endearments or nicknames that we are know.

    Deep South, BTW, is a four-syllable phrase when properly pronounced. One of my friends had a Yankee English professor tell him that what fascinated him most about people from our part of the world was how we could get four syllables out of the word shit.

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    1. I have visions of vivian leigh as blanche du bois in her sisters over cramped and hot apartment

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  15. Oops! PS -- Great job on the weight!

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  16. Good cause for euphoria, J.G., as well as for being "giddy" indeed. Well achieved, Sir!

    Btw: If there's one thing I just cannot STAND it's being expected to return 'high-fives' - one of those unfortunate imports that should, by rights, have remained within alien shores!

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    1. Its my first in pubc EVER

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  17. You would never make in the south, Sugar. Shuuugaar with the drawl…sometimes shortened to Shuuug. Congrats on the 10 pounds. I was talking to a friend this morning and I told her if you can just lose 10 pounds you can get motivated!!

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  18. Good for you - keep it up!

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    1. I have to now dont i?
      Id feel a real tit if i didnt

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  19. I do know what you mean, but would never say anything. It does raise my hackles when people call me 'baby' as I am a grandmother. It is usually from people that want a tip or money for something. It makes me think they are a dimwit.

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  20. I insist on being addressed as Your Grace.....or Sir, at a push....close relatives are allowed ma'am, provided they curtsy first....

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    1. Why doesnt that surprise me! Xxx

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  21. Congrats on the weight loss, oh, and Sweetie isn't that bad. I have a problem with people who call me either 'hon' or 'honey,' which seems to run in a certain age group of women from New Jersey.

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  22. Well done mate!

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  23. It's a universal thing.
    In Texas the ladies called me "honey" and "darling". Here in Tennessee I'm "sugar" and "sweetie pie"

    I hate it, but it's better than being called some ugly alternatives.

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    1. Honey is fine
      Darling is patronising
      Sugar......sounds like a hooker from a 1950s movie
      And sweetie pie............nuff said

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  24. That's AMAZING! I'm giddy for you as well.

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  25. Well done pet. The train conductors on the trains that come down from Nottingham call me duck. The shop assistants in Newcastle used to call me pet. . Around here we just scowl and make acerbic jokes (joke) and nod.

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    1. No more " pets" on The Archers
      Ruth's mum had a stroke!

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  26. Well done on the weight loss! It seems ironic to call you sweetie at a weight loss club. I would call you flower! (Well you do run the flower show!) x

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  27. Good weight loss. Well done. Ayup me duck is from Leicester , where I was born and lived for 28 years. Love from Frankie. Xx

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  28. Well done on the 10lb. weight loss. Way, way back in the day when I lived in Belfast, N. Ireland the CEO of the company I worked for called me Missy. I was a 19 year old married woman, if you don't mind!! Even today, when I hear Missy it makes me cringe.

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    1. Missy.....wasnt she the disgusting kid from poltergeist ?

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  29. I too can't stand "sweetie", but I'd kill to have someone call me "darling". My sister calls everyone, and I mean everyone, "dear" - she's a lovely person but "dear" is just a little too familiar with the gas station attendant.

    Jeez, 10 pounds is no small deal. How on earth did you do it?

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  30. Good for you, John.
    As far as "Sweetie" goes, sometimes you just have to let it go and pick your battles wisely.

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  31. DAHLING! Congratulations! What a wonderful weight loss. I'd put up with sweetie, duckie whatever if I did as well as you. xx

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    1. Daharling!
      I love daharling

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  32. When I worked in a psychiatric hospital we had a new nurse join us from Jamaica. She was curvey to say the least. I found her in tears one day in the loos. it transpired that she thought that when we called her duck it was because we thought her fat and flat footed. I explained that it was a Derbyshire term of endearment, which made her feel much better (mind you the cap did rather fit!)
    Well done on the weight loss it sounds an impressive start.

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  33. Okay, I'll refer to you as 'punkin puss' henceforth.

    (Congrats on the weight loss, well done!)

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  34. Sometimes best to let it go! Well done on the 10 pounds though!

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  36. Next week tell the weigh lady there are too many "sins" (is that what they call points?) in sweeties and she should call you saccharin ! Great job by the way !

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  37. No one used "sweetie darlin" better than "Eddie" when talking to her daughter Saffey (Saffron) on Ab Fab. She couldn't remember her daughters name so she called her "sweetie darlin"
    Maye that is why the 'weighting in" person calls everyone Sweetie ?
    For the longest time I use to call daughter Saffy.

    cheers, parsnip

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  38. I agree. Sweetie is a little too personal. Maybe darls would be more appropriate if she wants to use such endearments.

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  39. I need your fat club, what a great result!
    Stay off that sugar pie, honey pie...

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  40. I tend to call people "dear" mostly because I am getting terrible in remembering names. And while I'm on the subject sweetie, I went to the dentist yesterday, the staff are all teenagers or so they seem, young, fresh, bouncy and full of themselves. One girl referred to me as "girlfriend" and another as "Queen".......yeh, just what I thought !
    ~Jo

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  41. Congrats on the weight loss, good work.
    She mean's well. I have gotten to the point that I will respond to almost anything if it is said in a kind tone of voice, kind of like an old dog.

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  42. Good on you mate ( this is very Aussie ) .

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  43. Oh bugger I just read you hate mate too . Lucky you don't live in Australia! Good work John !

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  44. I was raised in the South .. Bless your heart had about a dozen meanings .. Personally, after being married to a Yankee for over 40 years and not living in the South for that long ... I kinda like a "honey or darlin" or "sugar" endearment now and then.

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  45. Well no bugger has ever called me 'sweetie' that's for sure honey-bun. Oh congrats upon the 10lb loss but I am tempted to ask what is that as a percentage figure 'cause we all know how statistics can be twisted to suit ;-)

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  46. Well, I don't blame you at all but you know, that's how these things start. Next thing you know, you'll be calling her "darling" as soon as you spot her.

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  47. Good work "sweetie"....you'll need it to make way for the Sydney stone (no one leaves here without it!) Nx

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  48. It's all in the tone for me. I don't like to be patronized but a sincere endearment warms my heart.

    Nice job on the 10 lb loss!

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  49. Forget the 'sweetie' some people can't help it, 10lbs loss is the best, well done.

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  50. Well done dear. I hate dear ! You are a sweetie. I've told my whole family that you may be moving shortly.

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  51. You're in denial. You are a sweetie, only there's 10lbs. less of you. Happy Sunday. x

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  52. The one I hate with a passion is Hun - urgh. Actually makes me feel like throwing up!

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  53. Well done on the 10lbs loss.....SWEET CHEEKS!

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  54. I'd get all giddy at a 10lb loss too :-)

    I hate 'sweetie' too and also people I don't know calling me love, but the worst thing ever and it happened a lot in Cumbria is called a woman 'mate', the first time the milkman said 'thanks mate' when I handed him the money I thought he had mistook me for a bloke!!

    My lovely Mum in law used to call me 'hen' , a term of affection in Scotland, but round here it means old, so not as affectionate I think!!

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  55. Had a nurse I used to work with ages ago. She called me "Hon". I hated it and had to eventually tell her my real name. Congrats on the 10lb weight loss. I can't seem to get past my 5lb loss and I'm trying like hell. It seems after a certain age its a bitch to come off. I'll be 59 this year

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