Thursday, 19 February 2015

Getting On With Things ( and thanks to Arvon)


Affable Despot a Jason always jokes that he hibernates during the winter months
" See you in spring" he'll sing out if you bump into him on one of his few outdoor jaunts when it is dark and cold and wet, so I wasn't surprised that he stopped by the field gate the other afternoon when it was warm and sunny , and when the daffodils had started to bud on the field borders.
I call Jason an affable despot , because he is always upbeat, and strangely enough when we caught up the other afternoon we chatted about the subject of optimism and coping a subject that was particulary relevant given the fact that Jason's family have had to deal with a recent life challenge of sorts.
" You've just got to get on with things" Jason said brightly
Simple to say, and for some, very difficult to do.
Personally, I think effectively " getting on with things" depends on three factors
1. Not overthinking problems
2. Having a sense of humour
3. Having a plan
Factors 1 and 2 depend on your personality, so just cannot be accessed by everyone........factor three can be used by all so is always useful......so always have a plan......plans give structure, order and security to any unstable situation.
Ok, ...end of the lecture....

Ps Thank You
It's a wet and crappy looking day today and I'm spending some of it decorating again
. I also need to walk up to pen-y-Cefn Isa this morning with a gift of some eggs. It got back to me that Arvon from the farm found Camilla alone down the lane last Sunday and took his time to walk her all the way back home to the safely of the Ukranian village.
I am very grateful
Below is Arvon pronouncing the word Trelawnyd for a previous blog
 
For the other Trelawnyd villagers saying Trelawnyd
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48 comments:

  1. I was wondering how you pronouncing Trelawnyd and did not ask. Now I know (After listening to it with my eyes closed 10 times).

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    1. For newer followers like you
      Here are the videos of the other villagers including gladys and jason pronouncing the village game

      http://disasterfilm.blogspot.co.uk/2013/03/tre-lawn-yd.html


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  2. I did think it was tree-lawn-id. Now I know better!

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    1. See above Simone.....there are a whole selection of ways of saying it!

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  3. I love affable despot Jason's philosophy. I feel the same! Perhaps the Welsh in me has not been completely subsumed by being born in the USA.

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    1. The old welsh were known for being dour
      There is a saying that gies something like this
      I Like this quote I dislike this quote
      “There are still parts of Wales where the only concession to gaiety is a striped shroud.”

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  4. My great grandmother said, "get over it and get on with it." She was from Swansea.

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  5. my motto is "onwards and upwards, as there is always someone worse off than you."

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    1. Yeh....it's usually me,Gill!
      Jane x

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  6. Mom always said 'Life goes on" and she was right...on it goes and we'd best keep up.

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    1. My mother always lived in the past!

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  7. Oh, you optimistic people! I'd just as soon wallow in my miseries.
    Okay, not really but that's how I seem to be wired.

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    1. Reading your blog , I doubt that very much

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  8. Whether my mother knew it or not, she taught me these three factors. Not literally mind you, but because of her illness I had to figure out a way when I was very young not to get overwhelmed by the circumstances. I 'got on with it'.

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    1. I think kids often do that anyway jimbo...

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  9. I am a terrible overthinker but thankfully have been lucky enough to grow up in and go on to have my own very jolly family. We have laughed our way through some big sh*t over the years.
    Twiggy

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    1. Having a sense of humour is vital for nursing too!

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  10. How I love the lilt of the Welsh voice John.

    The idea of 'getting on with it' is definitely the farmer's attitude - not sure that it is mine, although when faced with the one really serious crisis (my first husband's last illness) I managed ti get on with it, keep him at home, nurse him through his last days (with help from Mari Curie cancer care) and prevent him suddenly becoming half conscious again and thinking he was back in a POW camp in Thailand, where he spent the war years. And I must say that managing it gave me some comfort in what was my darkest hour.

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    1. It's often a case of holding your head up and saying..." I didn't do too bad"

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  11. Hmmmm. Sounded more like a hiccup to me.

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    1. THATS A WELSH ACCENT

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    2. Well, blow me! - look you!

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  12. Was Camilla still upset with you after the dry noodle incident ?
    So she took off on walkabout.
    I tend to over think and want fix everything. I just try to remember in an hour things will look different, life goes on and if I am honest hope there is karma !

    cheers, parsnip

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    1. It's the blustery weather
      Sonetimes she gets the wind underneath her wings a flies off over the fields

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  13. Daffodils? You have daffodils?

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    1. I am so jealous! All I have is icicles!

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    2. Ours have been threatening to bloom for a week, but a recent blast of cold weather has them changing their minds for now.

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    3. I don't think we'll have any this year. Virginia and Salma (our goats) nipped them all off at the bud. I love them more than I love daffodils so I forgive them. :)

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  14. It must wonderful to be a despot.

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    1. Bet you're one on tbe quiet

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  15. I struggle with adversity, but then no one has ever laid out advice like yours to me before - truly - so I'm hopeful now that next time it will go better.

    Loved seeing all the villagers in the other post, and recognizing the names attached.

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  16. I was trying to remember when I first "traveled" to Trelawnyd. I remember those voices!

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    1. Over a year ago Susie......times flies eh?

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  17. Has Camilla got a death wish?

    First she tries to choke herself to death and then she wanders into the road. Watch out it's not third time lucky :-)

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    1. Already done sue........She flew into next doors field ( over the road) and couldn't make her way back.....I had to carry her

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    2. Well at least you got her back home. She'll need to be tethered if she keeps taking off ;-)

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  18. Sometimes there is not much scope for a plan and all you can do is just get on with it, but a sense of humour definitely improves the direst situation.

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    1. A plan is good in a crisis me thinks

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    2. You're right; what I meant was, sometimes there is not much scope to change the way things are.

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  19. Planning may be right for many people but personally I think there's a lot to be said for aimless drifting along - like a feather upon the wind. We never know what the weather is going to be like or how we might feel. Randomness seems to shape most people's lives.

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  20. Planning may be right for many people but personally I think there's a lot to be said for aimless drifting along - like a feather upon the wind. We never know what the weather is going to be like or how we might feel. Randomness seems to shape most people's lives.

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    1. Planning is good if you have a problem or a crisis
      I always say to anxious and panicked relatives
      " let's see what the doctors say, and then we'll have a plan of what to do"

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  21. I was just remarking to my parents the other day that all my time dealing with Dad in the hospital (8 months on the transplant list; 2 or 3 near-deaths) has given me a very matter-of-fact approach to dealing with serious medical crises. It came in right handy when Miss Chef's mother was in her last days.

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  22. An automatic mode eh?

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  23. I think I have the pronunciation correct now. It is fairly phonetic. Maybe I could even spell it now............no.

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  24. Your three points resonated with me and having a plan is a very good point. I've recently been told to look after myself and got that down to eat, sleep and talk.

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