Wednesday, 24 September 2014

Groom and ...errrr Groom

We get married in the county of Conwy, but we live in the county of Flintshire. Therefore we have to register our intention to marry with the council registrar of Flintshire who will then let the registrar of Conwy know ( are you still with me?)
Yesterday I completed my side of the paperwork......the registrar was very sweet ( all very twin set and pearls) but kept referring to my girlfriend, " she" when she was completing the paperwork... I didn't correct her until she asked me for my girlfriend's name and I piped up with a wry " Christopher"
I wasn't annoyed just faintly amused, as she really should have known better and she did apologise very quickly...
Anyhow
My receipt for the whole thing ( after I had paid my 38 quid ) looked a bit scrappy and Chris was certainly not amused by it.....if you look closely he is referred  to as being the BRIDE
Whoops

71 comments:

  1. Ha! Noelle married Adam and I at that same register office.

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    1. She is very sweet Hannah

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  2. I thought it was going to be you wearing white!

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    1. White? What with my ability to spoil gravy?

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  3. Mazal tov (good luck as we say...)

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    1. I've always wanted to step on the glass!

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    2. You have to break it too.

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  4. Awww .... I love that he's the Bride ...... hehehe !!

    It's getting closer ... and all official. :-)

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  5. Rather an antiquated and obviously chauvinistic council you have running the joint there! Time that form was updated!

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    1. Well, I am usually a big fan of our council..... They seem to have many great initiatives.......
      Apparently it was an oversight .... New documentation should have been used.......they were VERY apologetic on the phone this morning.........

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  6. I was sent to your blog by a fellow reader and have been lurking here a bit -- I got a kick out of this post. I guess the paperwork hasn't quite caught up with the times! I can't blame Christopher, because I'd also be annoyed at being turned into a bride.

    So glad your turkey is well again. Had me worried!

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    1. Welcome steve
      Bingley is mighty fine this morning..... I don't know just why he looked so ill....it was lucky I had antibiotics at home........
      Turkeys are very sensitive to medication, much more so than any other bird....
      Bet you didn't know that fascinating bit of rubbish eh?

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  7. Isn't it time they removed the 'Groom's name' and 'Bride's name' and just had 'Partner 1' and 'Partner 2'? The number of gay marriages is going to increase and the paperwork needs to be updated. Is Christopher (the bride) wearing a veil? Hope the wedding plans go well.

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    1. Susan.......that's exactly what they have done.......
      I did feel so sorry for the clerk when I rang...... You would have thought she had knocked over a nun, the way she was carrying on with guilt

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  8. And that was just the paperwork....

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    1. Indeed Rachel.............btw..I am stuffing cannelloni at the moment

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    2. Does Chris know?

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    3. Exactly what occurred to me Rachel. And does Cannelloni know about Chris? A fine Italian name he has though (or she?).

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  9. That really is bad, I would ask for a refund

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  10. Rather than BRIDE, I think the registrar should have written BRIDGE as Chris will become the BRIDGE that transports you to your future happiness. But then again it might have been BRIDIE - a kind of pasty that is popular with scotch egg eaters.

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  11. I love it when such wrong assumptions are made and the person has to backtrack. They are always so apologetic partly because some of their best friends are gay, never mind their gay brother that they hasten to tell you about You have to laugh. Sorry, I should be taking your wedding more seriously.

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    1. It's an understandable mistake.......I was looking very butch

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  12. I was just writing about societal and legal presumptions, one of them being that a spouse if of the opposite gender - times they are changing, but it will take a while for society and law to catch up.

    We are all looking forward to reports on the wedding.

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    1. I've got to loose 2 stone yet!

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  13. phwoar, I think YOU would make a prettier bride!

    in this country, the paperwork is still playing catch-up with the times. I DO hope they pronounce you husband and husband!

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  14. Give them time. Maybe by 2030 they'll change the forms to accommodate all comers.

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  15. Well at least on the marriage certificate he won't be referred to as 'Spinster of this parish'. Now that's an expression that could really do with changing.

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  16. I bet he was after being put as a bride.

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  17. The forms should read Party #1 and Party #2...then when you are married instead of saying I now pronounce you man and wife they can just say, Party On. I think it sounds much happier.

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  18. If you're planning on a wedding next March then the wrong year has been entered. Should be 2015, correct? Whoops.X

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    1. I was just about to comment on the date too!!

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    2. I noticed the 2014 as well. I thought you were trying to confuse us. Just when your loyal following has arranged a bus trip to the ceremony. Oops... I've let the cat out of the bag now.

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  19. It will all be upon you quite quickly ....you better get the workout clothes and running shoes on :)

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  20. My wedding at City Hall was $15.00....exact change only. The Justice of the Peace said my name wrong 4 times. It was a bit pathetic. We entered and exited the building via a holding area for all the people brought in the night before and waiting to be "processed" by the courts. They were snatching cigarette buts out of the ashtrays left by nervous brides and grooms as they got called in to be married...some brides in the full white bridal gown. (not me)

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  21. By the way...could she not have simply crossed out the spot saying Bride and written in Groom?

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  22. Carry on, dear John, carry on. Sometime in the not so distant future marriage will be just as it should: a union of like souls regardless of gender, race, ethnicity, etc... All these obnoxious little slights (intended or no) will be no more. :)

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  23. I am the faithful lurking reader that sent Steve and Mary Moon your way. I felt you were/are worth sharing. I know feelings were hurt, but this still made me laugh. I am so proud and happy that this can and will happen for you and Chris. Frame the darn thing and laugh later on. Oh how much is 2 stones in American weight? I don't blog to will check back later. Have a lovely day. (another) Mary from Alabama.

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    1. Mary.....I wasn't bothered...... But I guess it's the principle of the thing.......
      And glad to have you aboard ...........it's lovely to get new readers and I am shallow enough to enjoy every bit of praise

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  24. You would think they'd had some training about same-sex ceremonies by now. Gormless or what? And how absurdly bureaucratic that the local registrar has to notify the other one! Is the notification sent by pony and trap?

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  25. Congrats and all that...hope you have a lovely day and a happy future as eventful as your present!

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  26. If they have Partner 1 and 2, why do they need Bride and Groom?

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  27. Every wedding has glitches, I think so we can have something to laugh about when things get rough. The guy who married us called me "Shannon".

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  28. How about corner #1 and corner #2?
    (As in... in this corner...)

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  29. Chris has a good argument for you being the bride, what with all the pie-making and bog bleaching you do!

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  30. Are you both going with the old vows...my husband said when he pledged me his troth, he had no idea what the dickens it meant, and has been paying for it ever since :)
    Is it in the same county as Conwy Castle, love that little town.
    Happy to reaad that Blingly is doing better.
    ~Jo

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    1. Yes Conwy is just down the road jo

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  31. I trust that Bingley will be invited. And I do NOT mean in the sandwiches!

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  32. Jumpin' Jeepers, they need new forms!

    On the other hand, a wedding isn't much fun without things going wrong, now, is it? I bet if you polled your readers you'd get some good stories.

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  33. Is it me or have they got the month wrong too?

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  34. You have the patience of a saint! I would have made her fill in the form again and with more respect. Mind you, I bet you wanted to laugh, and I bet her face was a picture!! Good luck to you both and I'm looking forward to hearing all about the nuptials!

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    1. Nice to have you aboard chel another new face x

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  35. Since the clerk asked for the "brides "name I assume she didn't know it was a same sex marriage until you said Chris's name at the end. The paper work needs to be improved. It will catch up I am sure.
    Lets hope this is the only hic-up on the way to your marriage.

    My dogs were our best man and flower girl.

    cheers, parsnip



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  36. I have a friend who is a registrar. You have no idea how many times she is embarrassed filling in out of date paperwork. Two ladies or two gents registering a birth is just the same.



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  37. Well, I'm amused. Too bad, Chris.

    Love,
    Janie

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  38. OMG.. husband & I were married in North Wales ( as my mother lived on Anglesey at the time )
    We were offered the service in Welsh... we were supposed to be living there for several weeks but we lived in Spain !!!

    Honeymoon night was at the place with the long name..... then drove back to Spain with more adventures !!!

    What IS a wedding without a couple of hitches ??

    ( couple / hitch !!! )

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  39. What date is the wedding john ?

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  40. Glad Bingley is much better and seriously, that woman should have realized you were the blushing bride. Shame on her!
    Can't wait for pictures on March 7th. Or at least a drunken story or two.

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  41. Our wedding license is dated wrong and says we got married a year later. My son has questions about that.

    i hope everything else goes right with your preparations for the big event.

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  42. One step closer! Congratulations!

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  43. I remarried in 2010, in a small province, where we both had to swear an oath on the bible or do an affirmation, in the interview, to even get a license!

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  44. P+P (postage and packaging)
    Why use the shorthand just to spell it out?
    We had the banns read in Oxfordshire but got married in Warwickshire, so we had to go to Warwick. They explained that it was to save embarrassment on our wedding day when the registrar had to do paperwork ahead of the wedding. Only thing was, they lost the paperwork and we had to do it when I arrived at the church.
    I'm looking forward to reading more about the preparations and then about the wedding. Congratulations to you and your groom.
    Helen

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  45. Well you can tell Chris it's better to be thr bride than always a brisesmaid.......or some shit like that.

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  46. made me chuckle...they probably have stacks of the old paperwork to use up .

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  47. When my wife and I were married in Canada in 2004, there were profuse apologies that the forms were not yet updated and one of us will forever be the 'groom' on our wedding license.

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