Tuesday, 5 November 2013

" Let's Not Bother"

Llandudno At Night
How many times have we all said that?
The nights are drawing in.
The weather is somewhat rough and ready.
The fire is warm.
The cottage is cosy.
The closer we get to Christmas ( sorry I have now mentioned he " C" word) the less sociable many of us become .
On a social level, I need a kick up the arse.
It's has become easy to live in the Trelawnyd " bubble"
Bloody hell.....I have even mislaid my mobile phone!

So later this week, Chris and I are off for drinks and eats after work ( fuck weightwatchers). We have arranged to meet in Llandudno ( which is the Welsh version of the French Riviera) and will sit in the window of a nice designer restaurant looking out at the sea.

In a similar vein I have just booked to catch up with friends I have not seen in a while. So I am off to Manchester to visit with old mate Nige, then off to London for long cheerful chats with Nuala, and I need to make some time for a quick overnight  Yorkshire trip to see my " All Bar one" muckers, and so it's hands down the back of the sofa time, to see if I can find that bleeding elusive mobile.....
It's time for a few " touch base" texts and phone calls me thinks......



61 comments:

  1. How could you mention the "C" word! I don't want to know yet.

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  2. Funnily enough, I was just having similar thoughts myself about friends further afield. Most of my old mates now live in Manchester or London but we haven't had so much as a conversation in a longtime. The last year has seen them all have children, some for the first time, others just adding to an already established brood. Days of sitting around in a cafe or pub and pissing my sides at ridiculously childish comments or bare-knuckle piss taking now seem so far in the past that it's unlikely we will all ever be able to get together to recreate those funny days again, certainly not as a group of 8 or 9 like it once was. I have tried yo instigate certain things but always found the reception to suggestions somewhat more tepid than they ever did before, quite understandably when they are juggling baby raising with work and partners requirements. There is always the option of meeting these friends on an individual basis but looking back I am not sure that as individuals we were ever aware of each other and it's possible that if we did meet up in that way we may see a person that we didn't like and may bore the frigging pants of each other.

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    1. I always think we all have a " core" of important people in our lives...that we can catch up with even after huge periods of time. It will never be what it was,.. But it can be so good in a new way.
      Get on that phone jason!
      Failing that....I still owe you a pint!

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    2. Prefer a pint !

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    3. They don't do it anymore !

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    4. Why don't we organise a going gently quiz ? Get everyone online at the same time and we Will randomly post questions ......tally the answers at the end up and see who the global winner is ! If we say it starts at 9pm , the rest of the globe can set their clocks accordingly ....think it's a goer myself.....

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    5. Good idea
      Over a bottle of wine of course!

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    6. Mai's oui .......we sit there getting pissed while the world answers the questions as we type .....kind of like a Saturday afternoon sports results service, just staring at the screen waiting for the next one to come in

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    7. love this idea!

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    8. I'm in! It would be 4:00 p.m. in Michigan, but as they say, It's 5:00 somewhere.

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  3. The photo of Llandudno at night is magical. I've 'not bothered' with many things over the years and now find myself very much alone. I think it is time that I had a social life again. Good for you with catching up with friends. I don't seem to have anything in common with mine anymore!

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    1. Bet you have simone...we just need to be reminded why we liked our friends in the first case

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  4. It's so easy to lose touch with the outside world here too.If I didn't take OB to school every morning, I might never see anyone.

    I was in Betws-y-Coed for my 'A' level Geography field trip in 1980 and on our day off, we went to Llandudno. From your description, things have come on a bit since then - there was NOTHING bar a pasty shop that I remember. I'd love to go back as an adult but at 17, we were very unimpressed!

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    1. There are some aspects of it that are lovely....
      Btw,..I will be doing a blog entry showcasing your Christmas card.......

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  5. The only people I talk to socially are 14 and under. Yesterday I had intelligent conversations with a bunch of kindergartens while on lunch duty.

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  6. what fun! take lots of photos!

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  7. You always seem to keep your finger on the pulse, John. I don't mean nursing. No pun intended.

    I have been to town a few times on my own and sat in a pub feeling like 'Billy No mates". Perhaps that's why we blog and write. Just for us to know we are not alone. Always great posts John!

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    1. Sometimes , lives can become " smaller" if we let them Dave....
      I know I do......sometimes we all need to pull ourselves up by our bra straps

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    2. Yep. Or haul ourselves up on a skyhook.

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  8. Christmas - let's not bother.

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    1. Oh thomas" LETS"

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    2. Oh, so you don't bother with the odd apostrophe either? Ok then, holiday lets!

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    3. In this case, the apostrophe is correct, Tom, as it means 'let us not bother'. If he allows his brother to stay up past his bedtime, he 'lets' him do so.

      If the apostrophe can be switched with a letter (e.g., let's go-let us go, we're fine-we are fine), then it's okay to be where it is. If the apostrophe needs to show ownership, it's only with proper nouns, e.g., John's book, Tom's zax. The word 'it's' means 'it is' or 'it has', e.g., It's raining, it's been nice seeing you. It NEVER means 'something belonging to it', so one writes, 'the clock lost its chime'.

      Here endeth the English lesson.

      Yes, I apparently do need to get out more.

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  9. It's good to get away & good to come home again - enjoy !

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  10. oh yes, I'd much rather stay home and sew in front of the stove!

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  11. In the last three years I have only been into town once, and that was for a funeral.

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    1. Did you have fun?

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    2. Well, it wasn't my own funeral so I suppose in that respect it had something going for it!

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  12. The act of blogging is interesting, isn't it? It is a strange way for those of us who are introverts to become extroverts with little risk!

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  13. Being out and about will only make the coming home more comforting...but do enjoy!

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  14. Wow ~ it seems that blogging is our own form of getting out and being social. Enjoy the Welsh Riviera :)

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  15. The only time we go out at night is to chase away the house gnawing porcupines.
    Jane x

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  16. I admire your socializing spirit...I'm sat like a lump of clay and can't seem to budge.

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  17. Oh John ..... I know what you mean. We are hopeless at arranging things BUT ..... I booked to see 'The Commitments ' last friday ..... it was brilliant. We were dancing in the aisles and had such a good time. I have now booked to see Jeeves and Wooster { love Stephen Mangan } and ' Mojo' and need to meet up with friends on a more regular basis. ...... we just have to get our finger out and arrange stuff more often !! XXXX

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    1. Exactly!
      Apathy is all too easy
      Xx

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  18. Such excellent news John....a bit of the out and about can do wonders for those of us who tend to stick close to the hearth.

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  19. Hello John,
    Hope you have a lovely time!
    I am mom to a family of introverts (with the exception of one lovely, bubbly daughter-in-law), and we do force ourselves to get together on a fairly regular basis. It is exhausting, but I am always glad that we do it.
    I also have a friend that lives quite far away, but we usually see each other once or twice a year for lots a red wine and a gibble gabble. It is just like we haven't been apart. I do worry about my husband though. He is retired from a job that took him away from home alot, and now he has no local friends. I saw his father go that route and it wasn't pretty.
    Well hey ho, it's off to work I go. It snowed last night, show be interesting getting there.
    Barb from Canada

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    1. Funny how many bloggers are cut from the samecloth

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    2. hey Barb, do they have this in Canada

      http://menssheds.org.uk/

      I keep trying to get my Father to go to one

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    3. Hi Sol, some of the bigger cities are starting to set them up, but not in our small town. Good idea, though.

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  20. My son took a very similar photo of Llandudno all lit up at night on Friday evening, it's beginning to look magical isn't it with Christmas trees dotted in front of some of the hotels, yes folks CHRISTMAS trees!!

    Have a wonderful time, and yes it's always good to catch up with old friends, it's funny some folk we can see once a year or less and immediately fall back into a wonderful closeness as though we saw them other every week.

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  21. It's the reason I'm moving to Savannah - I've really isolated myself here. Not only will I be 20 minutes from daughter, SIL and that special grandson, but I'll be much closer to so many old friends. I depended on Facebook to stay in touch with many old classmates (and yes, I do mean old) until my computer became senile. And the apt. bldg I'm moving into has tons of activities - I'll be forced to get out and socialize!

    Nancy in Iowa

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  22. Llandudno - Welsh version of the French Riviera? I think the burghers of (a) Tenby (b) Barmouth & (c) Barry Island would contest that claim! Rhyl wouldn't bother for some reason.

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    1. Lo..I did have my tongue in my cheek when I wrote that
      Having said that llandudno is wonderfully pretty

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  23. I know what you mean about not wanting to venture out of a warm, cosy home, especially when it's cold and wet outside. And especially when I can spend half the evening amusing myself on the internet!

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  24. I am very lucky that we have great weather living in Tucson. Although I have noticed a change in the weather patterns.
    Cool mornings and nights and warm days. Usually no rains till January so getting into the holidays is nice. One day we wake up and walaa it is Winter.
    Sounds like your dance card is filled.

    cheers, parsnip

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  25. cold and raining here.

    I do enough socialising by being out at work and getting the bus. My true friends live quite a while away, but we talk and text all the time. True friends you don't have to see everyday, and even if you haven't seen them for 3 months when you meet up it is like you have never been apart

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  26. What fun. I love to travel and seldom get to do it. Willy Dunne Wooters did take me shopping on Sunday. We drove at least 30 miles. I guess that's it until after the C word because I don't go much of anyplace once the lunatics start their C shopping.

    Love,
    Janie

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  27. Dining with a sea view....divine

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  28. The time to get out is NOW; we have the whole winter to sit around complaining about sitting around.

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  29. Ah Llandudno. Punch and Judy, coaches full of folks with blue hair. I love that place. It's "Boxing Day Eve!" Get it right.

    Let's not bother commenting :)

    Gary

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  30. We went to Llandudno once. It was closed. Maybe it's because we're English and they saw us coming.

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  31. Beautiful photo.
    Yes, 'tis the season to be social, but it is worth it because laughter should rue the day :)

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  32. *rule not rue.
    Though I am sure it rues for someone LOL

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  33. Of course down under, we are coming into summer, although the weather hasn't been informed! So it's been a long winter. We live just a corner turn from the centre of the funky part of Wellington, so only a sort walk to so much social stuff. Yet we don't go out much. I do theatre reviews so that helps, and burlesque stuff that gets me out of the house but I've been so tired lately, and being in craft retail means mad busy work! I want to ignore it but we've got a huge display in our shop as people who make stuff start early!
    But, I will go out, have fun and be glad I did. :) Enjoy your romantic dinner!

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  34. the Trelawnyd " bubble"...?

    Sounds a bit like The Bermuda Triangle (though not as warm, I expect)

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